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Honestly, many rabbonim do not know these halachos either. I say that factually, not judgmentally. I have had many rabbonim in the community tell people who ask them shatnez shailos to go ask me. Honestly, most checkers also never learned the halachos well. The course is a technical one, not a halachik one.
Another example- how do we pasken about a chibur al yedei davar acher? All the checkers are machmir. The rema is clearly matir it and whoever I’ve asked hasn’t showed me a mekor to be machmir. Most of the velt has never learned these halachos.As a certified shatnez checker myself who has learned the halachos I will tell you it is not secret.
I have certification from Lakewood- R’ Sayagh and Shochet. There are two “schools” essentially, meaning two ways shatnez checkers are trained and work. Lakewood teaches how to check, Williamsburg teaches how to take samples to send back to Williamsburg for checking. Regardless, the halacha is clearly gepaskened in shulchan aruch. If you have a garment with wool then you are half way to an issue. If you have a garment of linen, you are half way to an issur. The halacha requires one check a begged if it has one or the other to see if it has both. It’s that simple.
When I check a men’s suit I look at:
Button threads
Button holes
Reinforcements on the underside of all pockets
The dart
The Collar
The Canvas
The Shoulder pads
The inside of the waistband
Inside of the belt loopsSkirts and sweaters are much easier. You have less places it can be hiding. You look for selvedges, reinforcements and the end of each place it’s sowed together and decorations.
And of course you have to look at the fabric itself. Sometimes its not labeled accurately. Linen has a sheen look to it. There are other details used to discern the identity of the fabric or thread.
The big question is whether or not you can rely on a chazaka. Lakewood says no, Williamsburg says yes.
Rav Chaim was clear that you could, I also personally asked Rav Nota Greenblatt and he said “why not?”The other issue is China- they will sow anything in as a reinforcement behind the dart or pockets. Meaning, there can be unintentional shatnez. Otherwise, expensive suits use linen in the collar and canvases because it provides a superior drape.
There are many springs
These MCA’s are the definition of predatory. Anyone who knows a business owner who has taken one will vouch for that. Bloomberg Businessweek did an article on it last year. it’s an eye-opening read. It’s dirty money.
The halacha is uman lo mareh umnasso. Applies to physicians and rabbanim as well.
DY is entirely correct. The whole thread comes off as insensitive.
Many families need a nanny. CA- you can judge from your soapbox but it won’t make you correct.
KAH the tzibbur has large families with large needs and extra hands facilitate raising yidishe neshomos in a happy healthy home. Having a “goyte” in the home is nothing new, it was common in prewar Europe. These women are hard working, their pay is minimum wage since they have no degree, it doesn’t speak to how hard they actually work and how much most of them care for our children. We owe them a debt of gratitude on the whole for doing so much for our families. This news story is the exception.The gemara is mashma it’s a middus chassidis, SA brings it l’halacha. The nosei keilim point out this issue.
It would seem that in the time of the gemara it was not standard practice for all but by the times of the early achronim it was already widely accepted as compulsory. Perhaps during the times of the rishonim the minhag spread, I really don’t know. Maybe someone else knows more about the history of it. A Jewish History professor would be a good person to ask- YU has some widely respected and knowledgeable professors who may be able to answer this.
Certainly today it would be considered halacha pesuka in SA and fall under the umbrella of al titash toras imecha.Just to clarify:
Are you asking for the mekor in the gemara as to covering one’s head.
Or, are you asking when yidden actually started covering their heads as part of normative halacha since the gemara implies it’s a middus chassidus rather than compulsory while SA paskens it’s compulsory.
Or, is this a question about the round little kippa that people wear today. That was not what head coverings looked like through the ages.I learned there for smicha.
Are you asking about cheder? Mesivta? Beis Medrash?Reb Moshe paskened one can always revert back to nusach ashkenaz. I read the teshuva but don’t have the mareh makom in front of me. Normally we say “all titosh toras imecha” so we keep our minhagim, but historically speaking all chassidim have the toras imecha of minhagei ashkenaz that they changed, so technically reverting to the earlier toras imecha is what is being discussed here. Yes, this is a gross oversimplification, I know. There were other minhagim in europe pre-chassidus, not just ashkenaz, but I’m brushing with broad strokes. Perhaps the OP should look back into his lineage to see what the original minhagim of his family were before they became chassidim.
Chassidim do many things differently- maybe one of them reading the question will give you some insight.
I don’t know your hashkafa, but many boys do well at ner israel. Do you want to stay out of town?
I assume we’re talking about a yeshiva (not an MO HS that charges 20k)- With your financials you can get a yeshiva to reduce tuition to $500 a month. No one is going to give you a contract for $100. Just voice your concern, you showed them your finances already, no doubt, and sign the tuition contract. Try you best to pay it, when you can’t, they have already been forewarned. They won’t kick you out. You’ll deal with next year, next year. It’s going to be tough, somewhat humiliating, but they will let your son stay, you’ll again try to make payments etc…
I don’t see any other solution. This is what many many parents that are struggling are doing.
The short of it is that physicians do their best to apply the Harvard criteria…most of the time. Some physicians are also more liberal with determining brain death. To be clear, brain death is not reversible. Search the medical annals, you wont find a case. However, what does happen though is that someone who is not actually brain dead is mistaken to be brain dead by misapplication of criteria.
As Ubiq mentioned, the media and other low-information folks confuse the terminology and think that brain dead patients are coming back to life. Not applying criteria strictly does lead to these crazy stories we keep hearing though!
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Reviving an old thread-
Just bought new Borsalino- It’s been 3-4 years since I bought the last one.
Bencraft wanted $300
Hatbox $300
Kova $235 & $265
Prices seem to have gone about it the past few years!
The guy at hatbox said that prices went up since Borsalino is not making as many hats, “supply and demand.”
I have a copy of the photo of the Chofetz Chaim sitting in front of his home, and I agree that the video looks the same. The famous drawing everyone has- I have no comment on. But the video and the picture look the same.
Either Joseph is a troll or he is completely unaware of the rema and mishna berura that he is misquoting. Normative halacha is not to get drunk. period. Normative halacha al pi the rema is to drink yoser milimudo, more than usual, which for us is very little.
Very simple. Nothing more to say on the matter.
@rama- I entirely agree with your original post; sounds like Leyzer does as well. I had a chaver that expected that a chesed would be returned with a chesed. I explained to him that it’s not chesed then, it’s a mutually benefcial arrangement that two people have come to. Chesed does not come with expectations in return, no matter how altruistic the asker thinks the request it.
I would echo the words of yeshivishwannabe and some others here in this succinct way:
The Torah tells you to how to TREAT your parents, not what you must THINK or FEEL about them. Some people do have truly horrible parents (read: exposed their children to DV, drugs, sexual abuse etc.). The halachos of what you are required to do are clearly outlined in shulchan aruch. You are not asked to love your parent or to have feelings of respect, just to act in a respectful fashion toward them.
I have chaverim that moved from lakewood to Brooklyn after a few years in kollel once they found work here in the city.
It’s perfectly mutar to say those things aloud, since we all daven from siddurim (see hilchos rosh hashana).
I think most people are not bothered by it but are appreciative for the public service that their fellow mispalelim are doing.
Take a look at sefer melachim to better understand the inherent difficulty that lies in running a religious state. No religious state has ever run, in history, without corruption. Perhaps when moshiach comes this will change, not likely before then. Just take a look at all the politics in the chareidi parties today. Read Paul Johnson’s “History of the Jews” for an analysis of the problems that erupted in the time of bayis sheni. It’s much easier to live a torah life when occupiers govern the land.
I was in woodburne last week at Cafe Chocolate, maybe the name change threw you off?
As a clinical psychologist and a couples therapist, IMHO it seems that there is a deeper issue here that needs to be resolved. Today the argument is about the cleaning lady, tomorrow it will be about something else. Sure, you can get the cleaning lady, which practically speaking makes sense. However, what I’m hearing in your posts is that you believe in some sense that she does not measure up; that she is not keeping her responsibilities. You’ve made a judgement here, you’ve concluded that she is not keeping up her side here. Please stop and think about what I’ve written. If you give it some honest thought I believe you will understand what I’m saying. You must resolve this issue immediately. Research shows that when couples lose respect for each other, it’s a siman that divorce is on it’s way. What do I mean? Each spouse should feel that the other is mamash the best person. If she doesn’t respect you or you don’t respect her, it will breed resentment, and that’s the tone that I hear in your posts as well. It is shana rishona, as others said, so it will get better with time, but you must find the things that you admire in your wife and you must find a way to come to terms with who she is.
I know that what I wrote is quite a pill to swallow, but swallow you must. Again, I am a professional in this field and I’m giving you my honest impression here. Generally I don’t respond in the CR, but I thought it my duty here.