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Amazon has quite the selection. Search for fedora.
@always – I dont know how it is today, but when last I asked, there is no testing at all at BMG or other kollelot. And we have all heard that there are quite a few young men there who learn nothing or very little. I have spoke to a couple of shadchanim who said that mothers have told them this: “My son has no business being in BMG, but thats the only way to make a shidduch”. WRONG!! Whats wrong with a young man that wants to support his family? I’d bet there are plenty of girls who would want a working guy but are afraid to admit it because “menchen velen reden”.
Anyway, the main point is Derech Eretz comes first. To me, if someone has no derech eretz, I dont care if he knows the whole shas; its meaningless. Even if you are the BEST boy in BMG, you still need to respect your wife, parents, etc.@rational, et al. You said the following: <b>The best learning boys will hold out for the most money. The meyuchasim will hold out for the most money. The monied can pick one or the other and sometimes manage to hit the jackpot and land both.</b>
my question is this. What is the meaning of the word BASHERT? Perhaps what you are saying is one of the reasons there are so many divorces going on. Nobody believes in bashert anymore. Its all about the benjamins. As fare as the best learning boys, I wish I had $1 for every time I heard the sentence “He is the best boy in BMG”. Is there a 2nd best? a 3rd best?
Perhaps its time to take a step back and look for whats really important. Midos, Derech Eretz, etc. Having recently been involved in helping find someone a shidduch, I was utterly amazed at how many young men and women in their 20s, that are divorced. Many with children. Very sad.Meir, can you repeat your post in English, please? For the life of me, I cannot understand what the heck you’re yammering about. Who do you define as “NORMAL” people? (Thats just 1 question)
Hows about he’ll try for better English and you’ll try for more mentschlich? -29
that site has people of all backgrounds. you set up an account and browse thru the entries.
There are many outlets today. I can give you a couple of examples.
1. Sign up to Partners in Shidduchim. You have a wide selection of singles from all across the spectrum.
2. Send your resume to (contact info removed). He has a network of shadchanim that will send you a multitude of prospects. These all have references that you can look into.
3. Grow up. If you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to look thru the selections yourself. Find who you like and then run it by your parents. All too often, the parents want something completely different than what the boy/girl want.HI, Having a son in shidduchim, I can tell you about 2 sites that might help you. The first is partnersinshidduchim .com. Once you sign up, you can search for exactly what you are looking for and choose your own, and not depend on shadchanim. Second, send your resume to Sholom Blatter ([email protected]) and ask him to pass your resume to his network of shadchanim. They are pretty good.
Frankly, I have dealt with shadchanim and some of them have no idea what they are doing. Some dont even try to make a match, they just send every resume and let us choose.
I hope you find your bashert very soon! Gmar Chasima Tova!