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itsonlyme,
Are you in Yeshiva? If yes, please realize that these teen situations do happen. Don’t tail someone who you want to be your friend. That will only give that person a very bad taste of you. I understand how you feel; you spilled yourself out to him and now he’s running away with your secrets. Over time, as you both mature, you may become friends again, albeit probably not with the same secret-sharing closeness.
Try getting other friends, but not by nagging or tailing. Be friendly to people. Be cautious, too. Don’t divulge anything that you don’t want getting out. As they say, “love many, trust few.”
You will get over this. Be patient and try to pick yourself up and be someone on your own. Try to have more than one friend. They don’t have to be best-best friends, but keep up with several people. That is an insurance plan for always having a friend.
I’ve gotten responses that showed that what I wrote was accepted. I’ve also been shown to be wrong.
Keep in mind that while most often the one you are directing your post to won’t change their mind, especially if their main goal was to change yours, you are convincing those reading it. As I wrote in the Mechitza thread, we are posting to the audience. Sometimes, a person will continue an argument, because they lack the ability to give in, while on their inside they feel the punch. What you gain is that they won’t bring it up again.
I actually meant Kedoshim Tihyu.
What it means is that it is in itself a problem, not because of what it would lead to. The types of conversations that cross-Mechitza kiddings around become, even when not face are still Erva in nature. This is obvious to an outsider who can watch, or sense, all the giggling which is unique to that type of conversation.
In a perfect world there would be a perfect internet and perfect chat rooms.
You are right. This issue has, in fact, been discussed already. No one brought up your idea of finding someone else’s humor better than your spouse’s. Actualy, that’s pretty humorous, too. Would you ban reading newspapers or magazines, for fear of the same thing?
Most people here are posting to the audience, and are not having personal conversations. The problem with cross-Mechitza conversations in this CR, isn’t that it will get people into trouble. It is an issue of Vekidashta.
I do recall an instance of a man-girl hee hee giggle giggle conversation here. It was pointed out and stopped.
Another thing to keep in mind when shopping for a ticket is to give the travel agent leeway of two days on both sides of the trip. There can be a very big difference, especially as you get closer to the travel date.
Oh that’s right. I forgot to mention Liszt.
RB,
Georges Bizet, Tchaikowsky, Beethoven, Handel, Bach.
It sounds like you are asking if you should be doing more in regards to Emuna. Well, you can Daven to Hashem that He should give you Emuna. You instill it in yourself more and more each time you act upon your Emuna.
I was thinking that in that story of Kamtza and Bar Kamtza, Bar Kamtza was upset by the fact that the Talmidei Chachamim present did’t intervene. The reason they didn’t intervene could be that they were afraid of getting on the guy’s wrong side, being that it was a famous fight. It may be that Chazal saw in this story that even the Chachamim got wrapped into politics. Even though it is a minor issue, but if it is in the Chachamim, then it deeply rooted.
The story in Gittin about Kamtza and Bar Kamtza is one of three stories of how three different cities were destroyed. Kamtza and bar Kamtza is how Yerushalayim was destroyed. The Gemara about Sinas Chinam being the cause of the second Beis Hamikdash being destroyed is in Yoma.
Chazal had an understanding of what the Beis Hamikdash stood for and what each Beis Hamikdash separately stood for. They knew the depth of each Mitzva and their effects. The Gemara in Shabbos lists different Aveiros and their punishments. Some are from Pesukim, others are from their broad understanding that they gleaned from the Torah.
With their keen judgement, they were able to see what shortcoming was prevalent and if it co-relates to the Churban.
If you want an insight into what I’m talking about, see the Maharal’s Netzach Yisroel.
TBT,
It is not nice to throw away people’s thoughts based on what you find to be a hint of a clue. Shlishi shows absolutely no sign of being anyone else. In fact this last post actually contradicted what you call “Joseph’s” opinion. I also had my assumptions, but since I actually follow the rule of truth being told, I kept them to myself. How can you take unto yourself the Achrayos of bothering multiple people without actually knowing 100% if your claim is true?
For the record, that ibn Hugo is not Joseph, either.
Oh, so then I guess: <closed>thread</closed>
Is a daughter allowed to call her father by his screen name?
One man’s soup is another man’s poison.
Yes, by making up your mind that you want to behave a certain way. You keep on checking yourself. When you catch yourself going against the behavior you wanted, admonish yourself quietly and reaffirm your determination to behave differently in the future. Eventualy, your reflexes and subconscious thought patterns will get the hang of the new approach.
Your brain is an office. Your consciousness is the boss, or king. All the thoughts that go on are the secretaries. The conscious you decides what to keep and what to throw out. When the secretaries see what kind of thoughts you act upon and accept and which thoughts are rejected and shunned, they start producing the kind that gets approved.
This works best when you toss or act upon a thought right away, but it also works in retrospect.
A Midda like Chessed is easier in the sense that it is a normal decision to help or not to help. Something like anger, that only happens when you get angry, is much harder to work on. Therefore, there has to be a bigger focus on telling yourself the correct way of thinking before scenarios, and after them, to constantly judge yourself.
Hatzlacha.
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As proof to my point, when we think in terms of ourselves ten years is like a day, but when we think in terms of our small children a year is indeed a very long time.
Aries’ answer is the truth. Another idea is that there are more time markers when you are young. Every recess is counted down to, every grade is a new life. Later, time is marked by the stages of children. Later yet, with grandchildren, there are almost no new markers, other than becoming a great great grand parent.
You asked that I clarify what point I was addressing, which I did at length. Then you brought up the topic of whether one should act upon this thread. That is a topic I never entered. Is it fun telling people, “You never answered my question!”?
Candy,
Here’s an easier one: >O<
Pashuta,
If Reb Chaim has reason to think that someone will listen to him, than he’s not telling someone their name is bad.
Truth,
Please realize, I’m not online all the time.
I have no opinion on this matter. It is not Noge’a to me personaly, since I have who to ask and I’m not holding by giving this name right now. The concept shocked me, just like you. At first, I couldn’t understand it at all. Once I saw the reasoning, it started making sense. I have no complaints to you for not liking it or not believing it or not wanting to believe it. My complaint is that you are accusing him of being a trickster. I was also, simultaneously, giving weight to that side of the argument. I did not and do not say that I subscribe to that train of thought, but I do not dismiss it as impossible that Reb Chaim Kenievsky could have said that.
Emotional pain is a lot worse, you don’t even have your mind to retreat to. Also, as happiest says, people have sympathy for someone suffering physical pain, but someone suffering emotionally or mentally can even be made fun of, sometimes.
I also found it wierd that he took my comment about it not being a Halacha as if I’m arguing, but he’s not the first person to miss a point. I don’t think all the people who misunderstood me are one. To believe that 40 is one is believing in quadratinity.
As for your arguments, it’s true that he doesn’t want people to Paskin from his writings, but he does give advice. Since this is not a Halacha, as I mentioned above, he does advise people on such matters. Also, you say that he doesn’t hold that a Kiddush is necessary. That doesn’t mean the whole thing is a lie. We all know that stories gain and lose details as they go along. Every time a story gets said over, it’s like openning and resaving a jpeg.
If the truth is to be told, I must say, as someone who went through this, that I really can’t stand this disgusting behavior of yours. If you really case that much about truth, how do you allow yourself to attack someone based on the fact that his view is slightly more extreme than your tolerance level allows for?
I said right in the beginning that it is obviously not a Halacha. From the comments that mention the name’s origin as Reb Chaim’s main concern, we also see that it is not a Halachic problem, just a Hashkafa or Ruchnius one.
The Medrash in Noach says that in the olden days, when their Yichus was clear, they named after the current events. Also, in the olden days, when they had Nevua, they named after the events of the time. Today, on the other hand, we name after our parents.
In Sefer Chasidim we find many rules about naming. He talks there about what the name brings on.
Yunger Mann, bindir dondat.
Ok. Watermelon = the shortest life of a screen name.
Feif,
There’s a difference between what’s wrong and what shouldn’t be done, without a good reason. I agree with you wholeheartedly that what was told to you was foolish. I’ll even say that it sounds like one of those Shitos that are made up on the spot. If you looked up to these Rabbeim, that could be a real blow. However, it’s not actual hypocracy.
If it was someone else’s ear, it would mean that they are trying to chew your ear off. Otherwise, you can feel tooth pain very high up.
Why don’t you just hop on a bus and talk to him?
When the child knows inherently that the Yeshiva/Rebbe/Hanhala is wrong, the worst thing a parent can do is to stick up for them.
I didn’t have experiences anywhere close to that of Feif Un, but there were plenty of foolish things they said and did. I never took them to be representatives of the Torah, and I have other role models.
You probably meant to say, not just as an object.
What I know is that it is not from the Gra.
But I hope/think that at this point, they don’t draw their conclusions from IPs alone.
Feel free to run away, but don’t yell, There’s A Snake!
The Yerushalmi says that someone who was bitten by a snake is afraid of a rope.
How about just one more?
But the clothes make the man.
Yochie, isn’t that Lo Silbash?
We are here for more than being nice to each other. Knowing the big picture gives you an understanding of what you are here for, and that is why the Ramchal wrote his Sefer.
I finally got hold of a Daas Tvunos. He says it basically just as you described it. He doesn’t say it was like a Neshama, though. He says, like a Malach.
My description was from other places in the Ramchal, where he writes that the Ruchnius is the main and the material is Battul to it.
I hate to nip such a fascinating conversation in the bud, but your house can not be Koneh for you against your will.
Wolf, this is the best thread since the grocery one.
Most of the names Metro mentioned went out of service because they became embarrassing. They became embarrassing because people used them mockingly.
While I can agree that Elyasaf and Yehoshafat are very nice names, none of my grandparents had such a name.
Oomis,
For my part, I was kidding, and I think that was quite clear. Leib is Yiddish for lion. Hirsh is Yiddish for deer. Lev is Hebrew for heart, but just because Richard was dubbed, The Lion Hearted, I don’t think that is a good enough reason to call a lion, a heart. The Maharal’s name was Yehuda and was commonly called, Reb Leib, in his day.
There are people who have the Hebrew version and are nicknamed the Yiddish, and there are those who are named only the Yiddish name. You can have a brother named Arye while you are named Leibel. So, always, I don’t know why you don’t just take the word of the Matzeva and give the name Hirsh.
Once we’re on the topic, where does the name Faivel come from?
What kind of branch is the best to use to poke your hotdog with at a camp fire?
What do you talk about during Sheva Brachos?
OK. So Leib doesn’t come from lion, or Arye. Really, it means, life, or Chaim. We all (besides me, of course) forgot about that and started associating it with lion. Now, what about Hersh?
By the way, I’m not trying to make fun of what you wrote, but at the same time, I’m not trying not to, either. It does sound funny.
The words that you quote from me are, in fact, my own. The explanation that followed comes from the Ramchal’s description of Olam Haba’a. He writes that there will be a physical world, but the physical dimension will be like the glass of a light bulb, where you barely even notice that it’s there.
By the way, it says of Eliyahu Hanavi, that he puts on a body when he enters this realm. Moshe Rabbeinu went to Shamaim only with is mind and soul; his body was on the mountain. Just like a character on a page can’t pick up the paper, there is simply no place for a body on a plane of existence that doesn’t support matter.
I’m heading now to go learn through the relevant passages in the Daas Utvunos, but you should go through the Derech Hashem. Deal?
In Derech Hashem, he writes straight out that everything that it says there, the tree, fruit, and eating, were physical happenings.
T’was quite a while since I went through the Daas Tvunos, but the Ramchal does say that the world was more Ruchniusdic. That doesn’t mean it was less physical. It means that the world was closely connected to its purpose, and when you looked at an object its Ruchnius aspect was very clear and shone through it.