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???? ????? means Jews. The Rambam and the Ramchal are both dismissing this view. There are enough differences between the Rambam and Ramchal. You don’t have to force a wedge where it doesn’t fit.

Moshiach is coming today. My proof is that you don’t believe me. What greater Hesech Hadaas than that?

But that’s backward. Koach Deheteira means that if you were Meikel then you were obviously really sure of your opinion. Beis Hillel held what they held because that is the conclusion they came to, not because they were looking to be Meikel. Their Kula in Tuma is a Chumra in Treifos. Was it a flip of a coin which one they’ll be Meikil on?

Thanks for the credit, Besalel. But as you see, until you wrote what you did nobody understood the reference.

Tell my kids to help.

Ha’adam Yir’eh La’einaim…

But the teen way is to txt her, WYMM.

The way most people that I know do it, is they tell the Shadchan, “We are ready to finish. Are they?” If you want, you can leave a note saying, “Are you sure?”, on the table to be seen when you come home after the wedding.

Train a parrot to say, “will you marry me”. Then walk with her past its cage. (But she might answer “yes”, meaning the parrot, which will come back to haunt you.

Speaking of which, arrange with a professional Mekubal to come to her in a dream and ask the question.

Throw a rock into her window with a message attached.

Actually the crisis by Kayin and Hevel was over someone their own age.

I’m wondering, is a singles event a girls only event? If so what’s the idea of it?

I don’t know if the ratio of our relatively small community is 1:1 (it sure isn’t in my house). Nor do I think that a crisis is born from one generation to the next. I doubt the growth is that much. But, as Popa said, your math is wrong. The quoted idea is as follows.

If there are five boys and five girls in generation 1, and the girls all marry boys from generation 0 while the boys marry five girls from generation 2, this would leave over another five in a situation where the population doubles in a generation. The ten boys in generation 2 will marry ten out 20 girls from generation 3. This will leave over 10 girls from gen3 in addition to the five from gen2.

My Heter is that I have to save the world. I shudder to think what you guys would do here without me. {Oh! Just thinking of it…}

“It may change a potential spouses view”

And an active spouse as well.

“and make him/her drop the person”

Or, in the case of a spouse, deeply ruin the trust and the relationship.

“but it really isn’t who that person is”

Beautiful thought, and very good Chizuk.

Have you heard of growing stronger from your mistakes? If you think that applies here than you are agreeing that the mistake is very much a part of your identity. Not as a transgressor — anymore — but it is there in some color (either as ???? ?? ?????? or ???? ?? ???????). The choice is his whether he wants to be open minded or not. Do you believe in giving a son and daughter a say in their Shidduch? Why would your spouse have less of a choice?

It is starting to sound like you know the answer but wish it weren’t so. You seem to feel that the rejection won’t be based on a real understanding of how far you really are from your history. This is a true concern. People get repelled from shocking news. I believe Reb Moshe Feinstein said that after a relationship has developed, before getting engaged, is the time to disclose the uncomfortable stuff. You might want to get some advice of how to introduce it, and in how many steps, and when to start planting some early necessary introductions.

Actually, I did hear interviews from Crimean citizens and it wasn’t so clear cut. The Russians have been spreading the story about anti-Semitism, while the chief Rabbi refuted that. Nevertheless, the story picked up.

I don’t have any stake in this thing, but having Russian soldiers not wearing Russian uniform doesn’t sound so straightforward. Putin is now ‘saving’ the Russians and the Jews. I’m not sure I trust the whole vote.

Do you remember Bein Arur Haman Lebaruch Mordechai?

You are talking about moving from one system to another. This means you will be switching rabbis, at least slowly. For the particulars you will have a rabbi, but as for your destination, you will be going on your own until you land.

Very often your current rabbi will recognise a sincere desire to move on and he will encourage you, and can give you guidance until you lock in to the next tower. This is obviously not always the case, though. Perhaps you should reach out to someone from your destination Hashkafa as a guide for rate of climb/descent.

Sounds interesting, and makes a lot of sense. Just one thing. They say it was pinging the satellite for many hours. Perhaps, though, it was doing so from under water.

ihear, are you kidding? Are we talking about running a red light? Mistake is a very nice name for sins but get real. Who you are now is made from who you were. And regardless of any reason the guy would want to know, a person’s history defines the person. One day you are married to this innocent person. The next day you find out that this very nice person duped you.

I know this makes no sense to you from this perspective so let’s look at it from another viewpoint. Imagine this real open-minded guy agrees to marry you. Three years later he finds out that you witheld this information and he is totally fine with that. He even goes on and on about how it doesn’t make a difference what you did in the past. Then you find out why. It turns out that he killed three people and threatened another two. But the next year on Yom Kippur he “saw the light”. He never cried like that before. He decided right then and there that he’ll run away, change his identity, and enroll in Yeshiva. He’s Mamesh a Mentch and a real Baal Teshuva. Besides for his obcession with sleeping with a weapon and always living near a border, he’s completely normal, and most important, a wonderful father.

Will you smile just as before, or better?

Al Teviloseinu