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  • in reply to: Samsung N150 Plus #881422

    Reinstall the driver. can’t give link now. maybe later.

    in reply to: Samsung N150 Plus #881420

    Fn + F10

    Based on this picture: http://skleplaptopy.pl/galeria/n150g1.jpg

    That’s the key combination for enabling/disabling the touchpad.

    Every laptop/netbook has certain key combinations on its Function keys, usually with a special color (like blue). You use those by pressing Fn together with that one. Assuming yours is like the one on the image I found, it’s Fn + F10.

    in reply to: Settling for Less #880293

    MorahRach: you did indeed misunderstand me – what I meant to say is the same others said, such as PBA in his point 1.

    Also, I recommend the OP to find a marriage counselor urgently.

    in reply to: how many times do you dip in at a ???? #880606

    I never go to a mikveh since I have extremely sensitive ears (had tens of ear infections when I was young) and was instructed by my ENT docs then, never to allow my ears to go underwater at all.

    Anyway, yes, there are some chassidishe minhagim regarding doing 100 or more tevilos… that’s usually why every now and then someone is found lifeless in a mikveh.

    in reply to: Settling for Less #880281

    Oy, horrible thoughts.

    It all comes from the modern conception of everything having to be just perfect.

    While ‘perfect’ may apply to houses, cars, wine, or jewellery, it does NOT apply to human beings.

    You went looking for someone super-human, pretended to be someone superhuman yourself, found a girl who pretended to be superhuman, and now suddenly you discover she isn’t superhuman. What a shock!

    When I started shidduchim, my only demands were that she shouldn’t be ugly/fat and that she should speak at least some English. That’s all. Nothing else.

    You, I suspect, had a giant list of tens of criteria. Now you find out maybe she doesn’t match all of those criteria as well as you initially thought.

    So now, start looking at the FUTURE. I’d stop worrying and start thinking about how to make things work. Focus on the positive sides, not the negative sides.

    in reply to: Bnos Yaakov newsletter #879973

    @zichich – “The source of the story in the OP is mentioned in the sefer “Shomer Emunim” by the former Shomer Emunim Rebbe [The founder of the Toldas Aaron & Toldos Avrohom Yitzchok Chassidus written at least fifty years ago. He was known as a tzaddik and oved Hashem. So the story is probaly true.”

    That’s right. I knew this story as well, couldn’t think of where I read it before, but indeed, it’s in the sefer Shomer Emunim.

    in reply to: Matisyahu – what are you doing with his cds? #886193

    I knew it would happen straight from the start. The guy was NEVER sincere. I pretty much forbade my wife from listening to his music (just about the only time I ever told my wife I really, really did NOT want her to do something). I told others I believed “Mattisyahu” was a complete joke, an idiot, not someone worthy of even a minute’s attention. Nobody believed me, they all believed he was so awesome, so frum, so great.

    I believe the frum world should be much more careful regarding BTs. While nobody can really tell what a person is like on the inside, some are quite obviously just after the chitzoniyus.

    Me myself, I’m not such an amazing person either, I admit. I don’t daven as well as I should, don’t make it to most weekday minyanim (there are no minyanim before I leave for work and I am always busy throughout the evening), don’t learn more than the absolute minimum one might expect. But I am *stable* in what I do, unlike many who swing from one side to the other, have strange behavior and affiliate with weird groups (like Chabad). With such people, it’s just plain obvious that they will abandon Yiddishkeit at some point, when it’s not ‘cool’ any more.

    in reply to: Halacha: Swapping Coats #879141

    I always keep my coat with me in shul. A little awkward maybe, but at least I’ll never lose it.

    in reply to: Baal Teshuva Tips #878675

    Here’s some general advice on shidduchim for (young) BTs, speaking from experience.

    Hashem will bring you your shidduch whenever it will be. For me it was via someone in shul whose wife was a shadchanit, and their daughter – another shadchanit – knew my wife, who is an (Israeli) BT of the same years as me.

    In particular I’d recommend not to think about it too much yet, be a little passive. If something comes up and it’s the right thing, go for it! In particular, my recommendation is not to make many demands up front. The only requirements I had when I started shidduchim was that she should speak (at least some) English in order to be able to communicate with my family, and that she shouldn’t be seriously overweight. Those were my prerequisites – and nothing else. In other words, keep your options open. Don’t start building an exact profile of your ideal dream wife. Things can always change.

    Me and my wife have been married for almost 5 years now, and we are both really happy with each other, even though neither of us expected to find anything like the other. Hashem brings people together in ways you cannot possibly predict.

    I got married at age 21, after having gradually become frum over a period of years ranging from when I was 15/16 until when I was 19 (when I moved to E”Y and went to yeshiva for some time).

    in reply to: Where is _____________? #891115

    Joseph!

    in reply to: Last Names Ashkenazi and Mizrachi #878047

    Sefardi = those descended from Spain/Portugal.

    Mizrachi = those descended from Iraq, Egypt etc.

    Many use the terms interchangeably, but there is a difference.

    Read the Wikipedia article about “Syrian Jews” – Syria is one place where the difference between them was very important.

    in reply to: Last Names Ashkenazi and Mizrachi #878045

    I believe there are mizrachim (sefaradim, not necessarily mizrachim) called Ashkenazi.

    in reply to: SHABBOS TEXTING! #877657

    Per dash and Shticky Guy.

    in reply to: watch where you walk #878124

    I’m also a big proponent of strong laws regarding dogs. Everything they leave must be cleaned up or owners should risk very heavy fines (think of 200 GBP / $300 or so, per time, that should work). And, have regular police enforce it – not just a city’s environmental inspectors (who are never seen).

    I myself have three cats, but they don’t go outside alone, and do all their needs in a litter box. I don’t know why dogs can’t use a litter box (ok, it should be a little big, but still, it would make sense).

    in reply to: Uganda #877643

    Uganda seems a pretty tough place to live. Lots of diseases (tropical hemorrhagic fevers the likes of Ebola), very hot…

    I think a Jewish state somewhere else would be a great idea. For example, a part of Australia. Let Australia give up even half of one empty state somewhere on their northern coast, for example. Those already living there could stay (with dual citizenship). We could get an area twice as big as Israel, easily, or even more. All nations of the world would be willing to contribute money for it – even Iran, I think.

    Finally we could have a place where we can live in peace – *with* a strong military as well, of course, but with no enemies right next to us. A truly almost empty country with a negligible native population (who would be treated with utter respect for their discomfort).

    THe only question is what type of government we would want.

    And it is questionable whether we are at all allowed to have any type of autonomy, even outside of E”Y. However I don’t think anyone would object because of that, seriously.

    Anyway, I’ll keep on dreaming…

    in reply to: Psak Halacha on Internet Access #878754

    Loyal Jew -“Health, the analogy doesn’t hold. He can be mekabel to wear a seatbelt, to give up smoking. etc. He can even be mekabel to stop defying the Gedolim. But he can’t be mekabel to un-see what he saw on the internet.”

    Can he unsmoke the cigarettes and clean his lungs?

    Can he undrink the alcohol and restore the brain cells he killed with the alcohol?

    in reply to: Internet filters are not free #877302

    Windows Live Family Safety filter.

    Pretty basic, haven’t used it in a long time, but I have installed it for people in the past and it’s quite good.

    in reply to: How to use a blech on shabbos? #877523

    Artscroll’s “The Shabbos Kitchen” indeed, by Rav Simcha Bunim Cohen of Lakewood. Has pretty much everything you might want to know.

    in reply to: Plans #876722

    Currently I get to around 400-500 MB per month with limited usage:

    * 2 email accounts (private and work)

    * checking the news (several apps) on the way to and from work

    * checking the radar now and then (I like to know exactly when to expect rain)

    No tethering, no Skype (via 3G), no Youtube (via 3G).

    So if you’re planning on using Skype, you definitely don’t want to get stuck with 200 MB.

    I have a 1 GB plan which allows me some freedom, but not much. Back in Israel I had unlimited which was way better, I loved the freedom it gave me to use my phone for anything I wanted without getting cut off or facing high costs.

    in reply to: Unfiltered Internet #876676

    @clay kodesh – “Again, i dont know if filters are an effective solution for IT people.”

    Well, if you ask some of the posters here, IT people (like me) are now halachically obligated to either quit their job or become Conservatives.

    in reply to: I can't help myself #876403

    I haven’t got a clue what that sentence could possibly mean. But it must be a very choshuve shtreimel for the chossid to visit his daughter’s shtreimel.

    in reply to: How many people are actually doing the Kosher things online? #876435

    Not much since I don’t have much time. I check the news, weather, YWN. Rarely anything aside from that, which is usually a few minutes at a time at work or in the evening at home. Most of my time behind a screen is spent working or studying.

    in reply to: Unfiltered Internet #876654

    I agree with David. It’s the same thing I say often. I’m from The Netherlands. Though I’m not from Amsterdam, I know Amsterdam quite well. And if I walk through Amsterdam, I know exactly which streets to avoid, in order to avoid nasty sights. There is no halacha that forbids one from walking down a street (though I’m sure some people will think of something), yet I don’t go there. Why? Simply because I stay away from such sights. Simply by being an adult human being with a normal mind and some self-control.

    Also as mentioned before a filter cannot work for me for technical reasons, but there is a principal issue as well.

    in reply to: Whitelist vs. Blacklist & Remote vs. Local Internet Filtering #876462

    ISP-level would be best. But the moment you use a VPN (either your company’s VPN or a commercial VPN service) and/or connect to some remote desktop (RDP, TeamViewer, LogMeIn, Live Mesh or whatever) – you’ve fully unprotected and unfiltered. Unless, of course, your internet is so filtered that nothing except a handful of allowed sites are accessible and all the rest is not.

    in reply to: Calling Everyone You Disagree With a "Troll" or Someone Else #1165834

    I fully agree. I feel insulted, for example, by someone telling me that if I am unable to use an internet filter, I should either quit my job or join the Conservatives. I do not understand how a person can say such things instead of conversing in a normal manner without coming with such weird proposals.

    in reply to: What Is YOUR Heter to be on the Internet? #876052

    Pretty much similar to luv2hack, zahavasdad and kfb. All three combined.

    in reply to: Unfiltered Internet #876631

    @kollel_wife – I don’t ever go to sites like Yahoo. Why anyone would open such a site is beyond me.

    @Naysberg – you completely miss the point. But thanks for the suggestion, maybe I should consider it indeed. (For the record – I am not serious. At least I hope so!)

    in reply to: Unfiltered Internet #876628

    @DaasYochid – “So I guess you’ll be finding yourself another means for parnassah. Good luck.”

    Working for you, right?

    I’d probably find something else instead, like a knitted kippah on my head. And saying Hallel and partying on Yom HaAtzmaut and Yom Yerushalayim. I suppose that’s where I’ll end up if this “filter is required” idea is going to be enforced.

    in reply to: Urgend!!!! Urgend!!!!!!! #875521

    How about a ticket to primary school… 🙁

    in reply to: I personally think this should be stopped #875859

    I fully agree as well.

    in reply to: I have a problem with internet filters.(And I'm frum) #878378

    Same here. For me, there is the practical matter of being unable to use a filter for technical reasons (a filter simply wouldn’t work for me).

    But aside from being an IT professional I am also quite deeply involved in medical things; I studied medicine in the past for a while and this continues to be a major interest. And no, I do not shy away from any subject. I learn about gynecology-related subjects as much as about neurology or infectious disease. I am not going to censore what I learn.

    in reply to: Unfiltered Internet #876616

    @DaasYochid – “Those who claim that they need unfiltered internet – Am I correct to assume that a monitoring system such as Web Chaver would not get in the way?”

    1) Would it work inside VMs?

    2) Would it work inside RDP windows?

    3) Does it support Red Hat? Or Solaris?

    Based on what I understand, the answers are no & no & no. Can anyone tell me of any filter that will support the above? Nope, you can’t, because it doesn’t exist. End of story.

    in reply to: Unfiltered Internet #876580

    I’ll be honest: yes, I do have unfiltered internet.

    Several reasons:

    1) I speak numerous languages and use content in numerous languages. I doubt most filters know more than 1 language (English, in general).

    2) I am an IT specialist and could easily bypass any filter. I don’t like to boast, but honestly, a filter wouldn’t stop me. Or maybe it would, in which case it would damage my work. Part of my job is that I have my own lab system running at home (with about 30 devices, physical and virtual), running enterprise-grade software and accessible by VPN from outside. The system being accessible via VPN from outside means VPN the other way would also work, thereby bypassing any ISP filtering. Software filtering would easily fail if after connecting to that VPN you would connect somewhere else via RDP (for example some desktop at work if connect by VPN into the company network and access some virtual desktop by RDP there).

    Thus, the only thing a filter would mean for me would be a potential hassle and bother to my ability to work, and at most an inconvenience should I ?”? want to access any inappropriate content. Meaning it’s a lose-lose situation and meaning I’m not going to do it, ever.

    in reply to: Obama or Romney #875113

    @chance, I don’t understand you. First of all, I absolutely do not believe it is true – Obama was born in Hawaii.

    However, even if it WOULD be true, why would that be a problem? I would think that you, being the child (or grandchild) of immigrants yourself, shouldn’t object to that? Would you say your parents – born maybe in Germany, Poland, Lithuania or wherever – are unfit to be president solely because they weren’t born in the US?

    I think the requirement for the president to be a U.S.-born citizen is fundamentally wrong, since the US is a nation of immigrants (except for Native Americans – and they are immigrants as well, but longer ago). Why should first-generation immigrants be discriminated against?

    In a long-standing country with a truly ethnic population such as Russia, Spain, Italy or India, one could understand such a law. But in a country built by immigrants not so long ago, I fail to see why it is relevant where a prospective president was born.

    Do you really think Obama’s loyalty is to Kenya?

    in reply to: Obama or Romney #875098

    I’m not American – but if I were, I’d go for Obama. Same reasons as besalel. For example, the health care revolution he initiated has to be preserved. In the UK we have the NHS which is absolutely amazing, way beter than the rumours I had heard before moving here. Maybe it’s not great everywhere – but in the Gateshead/Newcastle area, the NHS is absolutely great.

    in reply to: Would you serve in US army if drafted? #875311

    For the US, UK or other Western military of whatever country I find myself living in, I would do it, absolutely, without a doubt. For that matter, all Western (NATO) forces are equal – it doesn’t make any difference whether one would serve in the French, Spanish, Swedish, Hungarian or Canadian military. Everyone participates in the major events nowadays.

    In any case, I doubt such a situation would ever arise again. The only country that is a conceivable threat to world safety is China. Iran is an annoyance, but not more than that. China is a different story; however, at the same time, the Chinese military lacks any serious long-distance operating capability. They don’t even have enough amphibious ships and transport aircraft to invade *Taiwan*. They could, however, be a risk to regional (though not global) stability still, especially with their ongoing provocations in the South China Sea where a clash with the Philippines is just waiting to happen.

    Even though China has a giant army in terms of manpower, and some decent (though not good) equipment for some units, most of their military is 20-30 years behind the Western world at best. The only country they could conceivable threaten are the countries adjacent to them, including first and foremost Russia.

    Almost forgot North Korea: another minor annoyance, but again, not a major danger.

    What other country in the world would suddenly begin a war? The Arab world? Highly unlikely given their internal struggles. Russia? Pretty much out of the question. India? Their economy depends on the West. African countries? Not in their best dreams. European countries? Dream on, 1941 is gone.

    It is interesting to see how Germany is once again Europe’s foremost leader, with the largest population, strongest and largest economy, and basically the leader and decision-maker of the EU. It is Germany, for example, that decides the EU’s actions regarding Greece. Is this newly re-established position of leadership a danger? In my opinion, it is not. Germany nowadays is not Germany 70 years ago. It is a normal country like any other, with the same sort of political parties found in all other countries. It has Neo-Nazi groups, sure, but so do – famously – Greece, the US, and to some extent even Israel, not to mention the UK.

    Now, to conclude, it should be obvious for all to understand that any country can nowadays be brought to its knees by means of economic sanctions if only they are sufficiently strong. No country could survive a complete embargo on all trade, and being cut off from the world financially. Solely the threat of blocking any and all export from China would likely be sufficient to stop it from any sort of agressive war; millions of Chinese would immediately lose their jobs and their entire economy would collapse, leading, likely, to a massive uprising against their government.

    So, really, this question is solely theoretical. It is rather unlikely to ever become practically relevant.

    Now, I think I have just proven that I am bored…..

    in reply to: does ur screen name represent a/t bout u? #875843

    “im a girl- who went to bais yaakov- who, to contrary belief did not graduate in 1993- but that is the yr i was born!”

    Kind of obvious. Someone who graduated in 1993 could hardly be called a ‘girl’!

    in reply to: does ur screen name represent a/t bout u? #875832

    I’m not chassidish at all, really. In Yerushalayim I affiliated with the old Yerushalmi community, the Hungarians. Meaning those who are usually referred to as chassidish but aren’t really ‘chassidish’ per se. (Who defines what ‘chassidish’ is, anyway? Idea for a new topic!) Anyway, that’s how I dress.

    And I do live in Gateshead – where there are virtually no chassidim (even look-a-likes like me)…. Though I am not really *from* here, I just moved here a year ago, so “Gatesheader” doesn’t mean all that much.

    in reply to: Shabbos in antwerp #878540

    Take a day trip to Paris, less than 2 hours by train. You *must* buy / reserve in advance though.

    in reply to: shalom bayis question #873152

    Me and my wife also went there for our honeymoon by the way, skiing. Though for her it was 4-5 months after major surgery on her knee and ankle, so her skiing was a bit limited…

    in reply to: shalom bayis question #873151

    See the other topic, you opened two topics – please keep it to one?

    I just wrote a lengthy response for you there:

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/davos-or-arosa

    in reply to: Davos or Arosa? #873145

    St. Moritz!

    I don’t know what’s going on with the kosher hotel there, though. Some say it closed. (Hotel Edelweiss, it’s called.)

    I spent altogether 7 months in the area of St. Moritz (the area called Engadine), and many more weeks around the rest of Graubunden (Grisons), the canton in which all of these places lie, in both winter and summer.

    Going again this summer, first time with my wife in summer (we went in winter 3 years ago, that was her first time there). Haven’t been there as much in recent years as I used to, since the cost is pretty high, but – IT’S WORTH IT!

    Now, if you would not want to consider St. Moritz (and I strongly recommend you should consider it!), I would go for Davos over Arosa. Arosa is a bit isolated, at the end of a valley. There is only one way out, and the town itself is pretty small, so I think it would be a bit limiting. I have never been to Arosa, for that reason.

    Davos is a bit better – a lot better, actually.

    Now, the special thing about the Engadine (St. Moritz area) is the altitude. The bottom of the valley lies at circa 1700m / 5600 ft and remains at that altitude for a length of circa 30 km (18 miles), with numerous towns in there and dozens of side valleys. In some place, the valley gets up to a mile wide (especially the central triangle around Celerina, Pontresina and Samedan); this is absolutely unique, to have such an high valley which is so flat and wide, with a huge plateau. If you walk into the mountains, you get above the tree line within about an hour, because you’re already quite high.

    The different side valleys of the Engadine each have their own characteristics, so do each of the towns. I know each of them very well.

    Public transportation in the Engadine is amazing, really good, there are frequent buses and trains day and night (every 15 or every 30 minutes between the ‘major’ towns). There are pretty cheap guest tickets (“Gaste-Abo”) you can buy for unlimited travel around the Upper Engadine for 3, 7, 14 or 21 days – I always buy those.

    Altogether, my absolute recommendation is for the St. Moritz area; second, Davos, third, Arosa.

    And, if you were considering renting a car – don’t! The train ride from Zurich to Chur (the entrance of the Graubunden / Grisons canton) is so amazing, you shouldn’t miss that. The train goes along the banks of the Zurichersee (Zurich lake) and Walensee (another beautiful lake), literally just a few meters from the water, for half the journey. The trains are very fast and comfortable, and punctual. Then in Chur (or, for Davos, maybe in Landquart, a stop earlier) you switch to a small red train from a smaller company (actually the second-largest, and largest private railway company) of Switzerland, the RhB – Rhatische Bahn (Rhaetian Railways). Rhaetia is an old alternative name for Graubunden / Grisons. The RhB has an extensive network all throughout the area. Their trains are huge tourist attractions themselves. If you go to Davos, I strongly recommend *not* switching trains at Landquart and going to Davos from there; instead, go to Chur, take the train towards St. Moritz from there until Filisur (at the entrance of the Davos valley area), and a train to Davos from there. Much more beautiful journey. The one to St. Moritz, all the way, is even better though.

    Any more questions, let me know!

    in reply to: Discuss the (soon to be expiring) Tal Law Here #874373

    I know for a fsct also that some of the Briskers do indeed take money, from personal knowledge.

    Brisk in Yerushalayim is split in several groups – one of them is affiliated with the Edah and refuses to take money. I don’t know what other groups there are, but at least one other branch does take government money.

    in reply to: Chalav Yisrael Milk #873648

    Why drink milk? Cow milk is for little cows, not for humans.

    in reply to: Obamas position on gay marriage #875555

    Per “far east” and Yserbius123.

    Why do people care? Why does this need to be discussed so much? Why is this on all front pages?

    in reply to: Idaven #872687

    @mod42, I wouldn’t be fooled by that. It is just another “get the computer out of your house, ban the internet, if you dare use the internet we will kick your kids out of school” speech like all the others.

    In any case, even if I would live in NY I wouldn’t go since it has no relevance to me, my business requires me to have (unfiltered) internet.

    in reply to: Chasidish or Litvish and Nothing Else? #942914

    It’s because of the dress, mostly, I believe.

    And yes, it is absolutely wrong.

    Here in Gateshead it’s mostly yekkes. Same in London and Manchester I believe (apart from the chassidim there).

    Altogether, I don’t really care any more either. We’re frumme yidden – that’s the important thing. I am so tired of putting people in boxes.

    in reply to: Skype #871959

    I’m not 100% sure, but I believe the answers are no & no based on the best of my knowledge as a (paiying) Skype user for many years (including unlimited calling).

    in reply to: akuperma #1114736

    I agree. I also greatly value akuperma’s comments. Same for many others, by the way!

    in reply to: Moving to Israel #871911

    @marvafan

    “I suggest that if you are looking for a place to live you stay away from Jerusalem and Efrat etc It will make it a lot easier for you to learn hebrew.”

    That depends on which neighborhood – for Jerusalem.

    I lived in Givat Shaul (Rechov Givat Shaul) for 6 years: there are almost no English speakers there. Only some French speakers down at Kehati, otherwise, 95% Ivrit / Yiddish (I think more than 95% even).

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