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ya thats what i meant. not a pleasant experience to know you only reach some ppl’s underarms and to see a wet stain. (shuddering at the memory)
taking a breakMemberBPT: yup, thats my dad’s age. he got a new bottle some time in the last year. so i guess its still popular
taking a breakMemberbpt, you had me rolling! my dad wears polo and personally its my fave for guys
and i wear perfume most days. but technically its a body spray so teh scent is lighter. but for shabbos i wear real stuff. is it really so bad if i like to smell nice?
taking a breakMemberHHHHMMMMMM golden mom, what do you think of single girls becoming nurses?
taking a breakMemberseminaries in NY/NJ area: monsey, intensive, BY half day, Machon, Lakewood (has a few), bulka (if you want college as well). further out there’s Ma’alot, Yavne in cleveland.
taking a breakMemberam i the only one who feels disgusted knowing there are guys out there who care more about the shoes on my feet than the brains i have in my head, the personality that makes me “me” and the middos that make me a bas yisroel? i LUV wearing heels. i’m 5’2″. SHORT and proud of it. i wear heels when i can. wedges too. but i’m realistic too. i have to pamper my feet NOW so i have them LATER. so do i wear flats? yes i do. so to all the guys who want trophy wives, dont come knocking on my door. (and all u guys wearing blue[colored] shirts, navy suits, knitted yarmulkes, and/or no hat, now i know how you feel when girls want black and white only.)
taking a breakMembersorry i really wasnt so clear. what i meant to say was she is always talking about the topic. she’ll say i want to be married already!!! where is he hiding??? its a little bit of an obsession and its always on her mind. sometimes i think she is despairing because she is single and sometimes sounds desperate. (to contrast, i’ve been 20 a while but my parents know i’m not in a rush. would i like to be married? yes. but right now i’m in school basically full time. if a name come up, yes we look into it but my parents know i’m not going to run to shadchanim because i’m not married) is it really normal for girls to be obsessed about it? maybe i’m just the odd one out
taking a breakMemberHealth: thank you
taking a breakMemberwhat happened before i can’t change. I was assigned to advise him and can’t change that. what i can change is what happens in the future. can you just give me advice how to keep it safe? you’ve been in college for the medical field and you are a male. you are in the PERFECT position to help me.
“And to prove I’m right, some men have used this to try and get to know you or compliment you.”
this goyish guy came over to me after a class for the purpose of socializing and complimented me. i gave him the cold shoulder and he got the hint. the goyish guy wasnt asking me for help and then complimented me. he complimented me for that sake alone. is it clear now the dif between the 2 situations?
taking a breakMemberhere’s where we disagree. socializing is talking for no reason. answering a question is NOT socializing in my book. that’s what this advising is. just answering questions. i keep trying to tell you that i want to PREVENT socialization. i want to keep it so he doesn’t get the wrong idea. peer advising does not require long talks over coffee. its just new students having a older student avail if they have any questions. if there are no questions, i am not needed. why do you think this is an issue of socialization?
taking a breakMemberthis goyish guy is no longer in the college
taking a breakMemberapology accepted. but i do have to say you are correct in that no one deserves a cold shoulder and i agree with you. one goy in particular wasn’t getting the hint that i didn’t want his attention so i had to ignore him and kinda be short with him. B”H he got the hint.
taking a breakMemberthanx for the :)’s guys
taking a breakMemberthis is a discussion board. correct. and yes i made the OP. but its not like i stated the halacha wrong that i need to be attacked. i came here for advice, not to be put down and ridiculed.
is there a problem with being involved in one’s school? this is not for socialization. i did this to help new comers to the school. did i know i would be the adviser for a frum guy? no i did not know. now that i know, i asked how do i keep it a kosher relationship? Bein hasdorim is the only one who answered my question. so thank you, BH. does anyone else have any eitzos now that i have to deal with this situation?
taking a breakMemberHealth: why do i feel like i am defending my choice to be involved in my school?
taking a breakMemberHealth: i am not part of student gov. i am not a senator, VP or prez. the coordinator of the peer advisers to advisees is overseen by the SG. neither of us are part of the SG. as i stated before, the advising is PRN. AS NEEDED meaning there should not be a relationship that is not school related. if he asks a question about the way the teacher gives an exam, i think its OK to answer it. if he asks me more personal questions, then yes, i know to change the subject and “brush him off” gently of course.
taking a breakMemberPBA thanx (blush)
shlishi, if i didnt want to say my name, i wouldn’t of responded. I like my name B”H and i live up to my name. BA”H, my father shepps alot of nachas from me
taking a breakMemberhealth: please stop referring to it as an “assignment”. its not a school project, its part of school government. my duties are to answer any questions my advisees (i have 4) have about the school, classwork, teachers, exams, policies. its on a PRN basis. meaning if any of my advisees have no questions, then i dont have to do anything. last year i had a peer adviser and i asked her questions in the beginning of the year. after that, i didnt need her any more once i got used to the school. if he asks questions, i can answer them. how do i keep this strictly school related and doesn’t become non school related with out giving a cold shoulder
taking a breakMemberthis is a NON jewish school that gets a number of frum people. i dont want to say what type of school it is for dif reasons. i’ll say its in the medical field (OT, PT, SLP, nursing…. ) i actually offered to be a peer adviser for the school. as i mentioned before, i did not know from his name he was a frum guy. this is not my first year in college and have had to deal with men, frum, non-frum and goyish. i have goyim compliment me, but i gave them the cold shoulder to show them they over stepped the boundary. B”H they got the message. what i really want to know now is how do i make sure he doesnt get the wrong message about me. what i mean to say is i can’t shirk my responsibilities but how do i keep it professional?
tomche: 😉
PBA: QB got the name, you got the spelling 🙂
taking a breakMembervery close 😉
taking a breakMembersorry, my name has not been mentioned yet. told you its not so common 🙂
taking a breakMembersorry. michal is not my name. but it is a nice name IMHO
taking a breakMembernevi’im. and a good person.
taking a breakMemberi’ll be nice. you can ALL have 3 guesses 🙂 but i wont tell you who is right. and its not speech therapy.
and it wasnt my last name he was complimenting. i dont think he could pronounce my on the first shot
taking a breakMemberless common than Esther
taking a breakMemberif you are trying to guess, you have 2 left
Hint: more common then seraach
taking a breakMemberjust to set things straight. my name is not unusual or unique. its a name from Tanach, just not common like Sara, Rivkah Rachel and Leah, but more common than the name Chulda, for example. this is not a school assignment for a class, this is older students helping new student get used to the school. I am a peer adviser for 4 new students. the name of this guy is not like the name Reuven, Shimon, or Yehuda. its like the name Alex. Jews and non-Jews both use it. and thanx every one for your input. it helped clear the confusion about the whole situation
taking a breakMemberwhos “WE”?
taking a breakMemberPBA its not “unwanted” its just we had just met for the first time and i was thrown off by the compliment. he seems like a nice guy. if he had said that after i met him a few times in school, then it would be a dif question. but if he seems like a nice guy i dont think i would hesitate to ask my father to look into him. just at this point (post first meeting) i dont want him to have the wrong idea about me (ie that i’m a flirt CH”V or something)
taking a breakMemberin my college we are paired with freshmans to help them acclimate to school and i was paired with him. we had send a welcome email with our contact information (so he knows my phone number and email address) and and then when i was in school and we met face to face, he asked me some questions about the school and classes. then at the end of the convo, he complimented me on my name. how do i make sure that he isn’t getting the wrong messages without telling him straight out that i’m uninterested in taking this relationship any farther than it has to go for school reasons?
taking a breakMemberi wear sunglasses when i drive. if i dont i squint and if i squint too long i get head aches. does that mean that i’m not a tznius person? NO it means i take my eyesight seriously. but i put them on IN the car and take them off before i get OUT of the car. and like with short on Y”K, its a sensitivity, and not a clear cut black/white answer. theres lots of grey areas out there. especially if you are wearing sunglasses B)
taking a breakMemberk wish me luck this week! i have orientation and a math validation exam on thursday! slightly nervous for this exam….
taking a breakMemberMG: funny you mention the english name “abigail”. my friend spells it sans the Y and was flying a few weeks after the unmentionable’s bomber. her ID said abigail but her ticket said avigail. the TSA agent called over her Sup who said it was fine, its just a typo! (B and V are neighbors on the keyboard B”H)
taking a breakMemberi have a similar q: why is Avigail/Avigayil sometimes spelled w/ the ‘y’ and s/t’s not? which is correct?
taking a breakMemberhappy b-day!! May you be zoche to celebrate many more in happiness and health, ad meah v’esrim
taking a breakMemberok ok i’m really that old 🙂 “strawberry short cake, cream on top tell me the name of your sweet heart….” that the song you’re referring to?
taking a breakMemberBPT- LOL. you forgot to mention the bathroom monitor and the davening teacher 🙂
i used to think HS was the hardest thing till i went to sem. then i thought sem was the hardest thing till i got to college. HS seems hard and scary and frightening and HELP WHAT do i do now!!! all these feelings are NORMAL. some teachers are hard and some are easy. some have straight foward tests and some you have to think 180 degrees backwards. just think of HS as elementary, just bigger. on a more serious note, develop a connection to teachers, limudei kodesh and limudei chol. they have lots to teach and give over. your school prob has a michaneches designated for the school or just for your grade. if you have any issues, talk to her. she’s there to help
and dont forget, have fun in school. its not the grades that count. make friends and connections. and most of all, may you have lots of siyatta dishmaya in HS in the next 4 years. HATZLACHA
taking a breakMemberone of my dad’s workers is Indian and just made/is making (dont remember which) a wedding for her daughter/son and invited her boss (my father). the invitation was THICK textured card stock, the folder for the invitations (7 invites cuz the celebration happens over 7 days so each day had a dif invite for thats days party) came in a fancy envelope and the whole invitation is given with a pashima scarf and box of chocolates (in this case, ferrero chocolates). now what were you saying that goyosh weddings were cheaper? and this was the invitation only! we looked online at the wedding hall and it was no cheap place either! in this case, i think i prefer the jewish wedding, even with the attitude of keeping up with the klien’s. imagine having to keep up with this!
taking a breakMemberEven thought I graduated teen-hood this year, I still have a hard time reading some of the posts. If us young people can’t understand what you are saying, kal v’chomer those who didn’t grow up with the texting lingo. But then again I am a bit of a grammar fanatic. My friends know i would read reports for them and help them with grammar AND readability. because even if the grammar is correct, it may not be easy to understand. Grammar should make English easier to read, not vice versa. if the grammar is making it hard to post, give up on the grammar. its the content that counts
either way, HG, CHILLAX a little on the grammar
taking a breakMembera student. vaca-ing till next thurs
taking a breakMemberi just checked with her, she wants to be a certified nurse midwife. she’s IY”H going to a BA to BSN program (davening she gets in). any idea how long it will take once she has the BSN?
taking a breakMemberi have a diary called “dear ___” (a close friends name) and when s/t is bothering me i write it down there as if i was talking to her. i started in sem cuz i was in the US and she was in E”Y and the $$$$ for calls was out of my budget. and at the same time as i wrote in the diary if there was a big issue i wrote it in a letter. when the letter was over 10 pages, THEN i mailed it. now we are both home but i still have my diary, which i carry in my school bag and write in it when i get really frustrated and cant tell teh source of frustration. IMHO, writing it down does wonders even if the prob isnt solved.
taking a breakMemberjust be yourself and dont be a faker. and open your eyes and ears to ALL your sem-mates. you never know but the girl you thought is SO not your type, may be what you were looking for in a friend. HATZLACHA
taking a breakMemberany ideas….
i had a canon SD450 for 4 years. and it broke so i need to replace it. i want a canon SD or ELPH but the A line is cheaper. any suggestions?
taking a breakMember*bump*
“everything that H’ does is the absolute very best thing that can possibly happen to a person due to the circumstances that he put himself if by his own free choice” (R’ A.)
and my new favorite: ?”Don’t be afraid of pressure. remember pressure is what changed a lump of coal into a diamond”
August 1, 2011 9:41 pm at 9:41 pm in reply to: Do you size people up when meeting them? How often are you proven wrong? #990625taking a breakMemberi’m shy when i first meet ppl so my first meeting is just lots of observing the person. and even once i get to know the person, my view of the person can def change once i know them better. life is a play and we are actors; when you get to know ppl better, the act drops and you see what the mask was hiding, which can be a hidden talent, exceptionally good middah, or a nasty habit. am i judgemental? ya i am. does my view change? yes of course. but am i good at reading ppl? that would be a big NO. which is why i stand in the back doing lots of observing and listening
taking a breakMemberparents please!! if there is a bus counselor, he/she deserves recognition too (i was a bus counselor; i watched your kids just like the regular counselor). so please, say thanx to that person, even if its just a card or note (kapusta, you’re right about the thank you notes)
taking a breakMemberso my i have been in shidduchim since chanukah time, and my dad likes to make fun of the whole system these days. he complains that it doesnt really work and it should be like when he was going out, ie girls should go to brooklyn/queens college to get their MRS degree. thats the first issue. so how do i tell him that the norm now is to go to shadchanim and have a huge network of ppl
my second issue is the resume. i have a few friends my age listed as references, some married and some single. someone “handed my fathers head to him” cuz you cant have friends on the resume. who came up with that mishagaas???? i asked quite a few other ppl and they all have friends listed and no one complained!!! so whats normal to have on the resume?
TIA
taking a breakMemberhiya!
taking a breakMembermy pet peeve is ppl who eat while they are on the phone with you and you have to listen to them chew and slurp and gulp….. EEEEWWWWWWWWWEEEEEEEEEEE
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