🍫Syag Lchochma

abusers are often charmers. When they’re too good to be true . . .watch out!

bpt – I think we’re talking apples and oranges. On one hand you can speak calmly and tell people about another angle or view point. On the other hand is the idea that there are certain conversations that you don’t feel you should be having at all in the first place. No examples, it only causes tangents.

bpt – I don’t think anything was SO radical, but there are some discussions that are bothersome enough that people request to have them removed. Kapusta felt something was gross, I find sometimes that things get too loose or, on occasion, hurtful. She said she didn’t think she should be reading and posting on a site that had things that she found had posts so ‘gross’. I sometimes feel that if I find things hurtful or too loose, or people’s beliefs being ‘ribbed’ than it is my own responsibility to find something else to do. IRL I wouldn’t be sitting and listening to those discussions so why do it here. I don’t think she was commenting on what others should do, it was what she wanted to do for herself.

oomis – thank you for your comment about popa. I was surprised how people could think he was serious enough to answer him, but his deadpan is truly without a hitch. So often when I really want to say something I just wait long enough and you, bpt or eclipse always say it first!

If it’s top teeth and mostly side teeth, it could be sinus pain. Same facial nerve.

Guys- how can you be so rude to these guys!? If not just because we came off of Purim and the Yom Tov of achdus (my words, don’t ask me for a source) but at the very least because they control who’s posts they delete! Behave yourselves.

Considering we are all sitting here in a virtual room having conversations in print with people we don’t know/have never met and calling them ‘friends’. . . I don’t know, what do you think?

DH – I understood that the box, with its tangible walls, inside and outside, was placed in non-dimensional emptiness that had no boundaries. That gave me the impression that no gravitational or dimensional properties were being exerted on the box so it was free to flow and move as needed to hold it’s contents. In my mind (which is pretty out of most boxes) the box started of as a box and was transplanted into this other ‘place’, and it was the PLACE that had no boundaries or restrictions. No?

And I had the exact opposite thought. Te lack of boundaries is on the box, not the contents. It is an odly shaped box that varies in size depending on the angle you look at it. It is the perfectbox to hold all of the worlds children who can easily find a place to hold them regardless of their own size and shape. And it has endless room in it for everyone. Nobody can not fit because the box is fluid. It is a box that it is okay to put people into because it’s edges are neither predictable nor square. And it’s not a box, it’s a container. The three boxes? Well maybe one for boys, one for girls and one for adults still wishing they could fit.

an obstetrician who induces labor when there’s fetal distress.

I don’t really mean personal, as much as anonymous. For instance, I wouldn’t want to comment on how I resolved an issue with my kid or how a school battered me or a kid of mine when I know my kids are reading this and know who I am talking about. I also work with people who are abused or sick and would offer advice in regard to those issues but not if my family can identify the people. Sometimes ‘personal’ is generic if you are anonymous – like tips on how to resolve a fight with a parent or how to recover from a spiritual fall. You can have good chizuk for others and if they don’t know you it’s not necessarily ‘personal’.

There are so many things I don’t let my kids have and I trust my kids more than most. There is no contradiction unless you want to put words in someones mouth to invalidate their argument.

Two points – 1) According to the internet safety speaker we had at the high school, 70% of the kids who got hooked on porn NEVER intended to look at it. They did not go to it, it came to them in ads, pop ups etc and THEN they went back. 70% WITHOUT intention.

2) Any person who can say that unfiltered internet is not extremely dangerous should count their blessings. If you can afford to be that naive to this particular reality, than you must not be suffering/watching loved ones suffer and you are very, very lucky. But understand that there’s alot out there that you seem not to be privy to and the one’s doing the warning know what they are talking about. Hashem Yishmor.

I think I would risk harm for another person’s child, but I don’t know that I would risk my life. I would probably stop short of risking my life for another person’s child because I would be looking out for the welfare of my own children who, B”H!!!! need me. Does that make any sense?

It was. And that was exactly what I did. Two kids have usernames, I have one, and then I opened a new one for a private comment. I sent them a slew of emails BEGGING them to take down their post. I think they thought they were busting me and that I was joking about being three people. I was very uncomfortable. I thought it was funny that they were so straight forward with my names and were so vague about others who were doing it. But I am sure they did not mean anything and didn’t realize the harm they did.

I tried to post confidentially in a different name cuz my kids post here but the mods gave it away a few times. They must have thought my two names and my kids names were all one person or something. They were really great about deleting their comments but I can’t afford the risk. I would love to be able to comment anonymously about relationships or personal issues when they come up in the threads but I don’t know how to assure the anonymity.

When I cried, literally, for help for one of my kids and someone called hours later to offer the help that I cried for. Has happened several times since, too. I am amazed at how opaque (as opposed to transparent?) Hashem’s presence is when I have my eyes open.

We used to give our kids a nickel if they could tell us a HP story they ‘spotted’ themselves.

Now that’s funny. I was reading a post thinking – “hey, that’s pretty much what I have in my trunk too” – then I noticed it was one of my kids who posted it.

Didn’t go to kindergarten 🙁

I came here to give some random praise but it looks like this has been a hakoras hatov thread. Sorry if I sound out of place but I wanted to praise observanteen for who she(?) seems to be based on her mature and empathetic posts. You sound like a wonderful person.

And as far as my mother a”h and my father a”h, I just second what oomis said. It would make me too sad to write my own now.

mytake – what do mom’s do? One Purim I was 9 days overdue and had bronchitis and 101 fever. I think what I did was entertain 5 little kids and dress them for purim while my husband went to shul for shacharis and magilla.

eclipse – I know I see the internet/cr through different eyes than most here but I do think you will understand what I mean when I say that I have found that Hashem continues to present me with the same nisayon over and over until I chose correctly. Then it disappears. If I struggle and choose wrong, it pops up again. I agree that your presence is valuable, but I would rather you did what is best for yourself, not me.

signed: still struggling 😉

Hey, you know him too?!

I was told that everyone should wash before bentching but that women were often serving and therefore may have already washed (following the salt/before the bentching). If she hasn’t washed in the kitchen while serving (or whatever) then she should do MA with everyone else.

stand in front of them facing the board and teach as if you are facing them. Or stand in the back of the room and teach. Kids that age always think it’s funny when something funny is going on but you are pretending everything is fine.

Finally lifted enough couch cushions to find tape #1! Can’t believe nobody mentioned this quote -“My name is Sir Toface. I’ve come to take the girl” Also the clop on the bimah is so subtle that it cracks me up every time. My no question favorite part of the tape is the Esther song. The singers are two brothers I grew up with and I remember how we loved listening to him daven whenever he was shaliach tzibur.

Squeak – first of all, long time no read! Secondly, I am sooo not old enough for Alzheimers (ch’v). I remember popeye and I remember it being one of the ‘older’ shows where he mumbles alot. The arabs say ‘Salaam’ so he was saying ‘baloney’. Haha? (never really got into popeye)