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This is more along the lines of the title than the OP so I hope it’s okay. I went today to visit my great aunt who is over ninety. She has buried both children and many neices and nephews (my mom and sister included) in the past few years. She has only one of nine siblings alive. In the last few weeks she has lost the will to live. She has no Torah to fall back on and sees no point. Today she asked me why she should try. She asked if there is a reason to fight. I told her that every minute is another chance to be thankful. I said she should try for all the people who get enjoyment from coming to visit her. I wanted to cry for all the emptiness inside her and I don’t ever want to forget how lucky I am to know the value of a minute, and the power of a mitzvah. Living another second to do another good deed, to say another kapitel tehillim, to have hakaras hatov for anything and everything is such a gift that I can no longer take for granted.
Counting down the hours . . .
Thank you for that perspective. At a time when our first inclination would be to hand her a check, we forget what else there is to give sometimes.
Bar Shattya – that imitation is so cute!!!
yitay – thanks for the courteous laugh 🙂
ski – that was supposed to be a joke. As in – a stalker noticed I invited popa and came pretending to be him. I thought it was obvious (and even mildly funny) Guess I shouldn’t quit my day job.
that and everything else. . .
So popa – thanks for stopping by, hope you enjoyed the sufganiya. You definitely looked much older than I expected. Oh, and about the loan, don’t worry if it takes you a few months to pay it back, we’ll just contact those references you left with us.
always – no, that was the last thread. This one is about fulfilling mitzvos with out letting the mitzvos fill you *sigh*
busted
mentioned that. mmmmm
The airlines is allowing one 50 pound suitcase and one 18 lb carry on for a years worth of stuff. I say he should wear three sets of clothes, all his socks and see how much underwear he can fit in his pockets. He didn’t like my idea. Any packing tips?
musser zoger – THAT was really funny!
If you end up buying one from the bakery at Jewel, save us your game ticket!!
What time can you be here? The coffee will be hot til 8:15. The doors open.
Otherwise, if you eat Cholov company, or are not makpid on powdered milk there is always DD 😀
Okay guys – the sad truth. The real reason boys and men wear white shirts is because then their moms/wives can soak them all in bleach and then wash them. Finished. Lowest maintenance option for clothing. No special care, no pre-treating. Just bleach, and done.
+1 +1 +1
We’ll leave the light on
apologize to the puppy from me – I stand corrected (don’t get the difference tho)
but probably not quite as many 😉
zehavasdad – the hospital tried to make a big deal out of it with bows etc but my mom asked them not to. She told us that she told them she hopes this one came along to be mitaken!
oomis – it’s goyishe shprach that has made its way into our community! 🙂
(as far as I know it is used on facebook to mean ‘I agree’)
I have a brother who was born on December 25th and had his bris on Jan 1st! And he was a firstborn to someone with a brother named Joseph. And whenever he would come in the house and leave the door open, my mother would say, “Were you born in a barn?”
Haim
snowstorm thread
what a horrible thing to say!! I don’t even know what you meant by it. Go to your room!
apushatayid – Although I don’t object to the missing school part I agree with you completely. Thanks for wording it so well. (I actually give my kids one free day off during any month that has no breaks in it as a reward for their existance)
I personally think there is no greater reward than missing a day of school and spending it with your parent. But that is for a very different discussion. And I am not alone in this.
moi – not at all, just really desperate for an end to the harshness. I don’t even care who’s right, I just wish it could be done politely.
I hope its not rude to say that there is something funny about misspelling the word ignorant.
What do I get if I guess correctly?
“However, your style of attacking (however covert and underhanded), is starting to have a negative affect on all of us”
And I still believe that people who attack him are much more negative, sharp, forthright and unfortunately not always accurate about what he said. If you let his comments go unanswered they usually don’t spiral. Can we please try that just once?!?!? PLEASE
I didn’t hear anything about a bribe, it sounded like a reward or incentive. There are so many boys struggling through davening because of many different reasons and to keep a boy home til he is ten, if he is not ready to go earlier, is perfectly fine according to many parents and educators. If it is hard for him, and you said he used to hate shul, which already indicates something’s up, offering rewards helps the boy understand that you are validating his difficulty and you are giving him something tangible to work for until he gets used to it. For kids who need it, this is a good plan. I am sure many will not agree, but since we don’t know the boy, it is hard to judge. For a ‘run of the mill’ kid I would never offer such a plan.
wondering – I can only speak for my own experience. My little sister lived in chronic pain for years (chronic hepatitis and all its lovely side problems). One thing after another would appear, each was bad enough, and a new thing appeared. The worst for me to watch was something called cluster headaches. They put migraines to shame and have no real treatment. They last for months and are triggered by sleep so she would live in dread of night. Second only to this was the pain of being an older single with no visible end in sight. I sometimes wished I could close my eyes and pretend her pain would disappear. She didn’t complain and accepted Hashems gifts but I as a big sister was pained beyond belief. I only give these details to give you a reference from where I am answering.
Did I cry sometimes begging Hashem to make her life better? You bet. Did I wonder how we would survive this test? Sure. I begged Hashem to make it a temporary test, I begged Hashem to lessen my pain by healing her. I wondered what the big picture could possibly be. But in regard to acceptance – I accepted that this was her big picture. I assumed that there were lots of years and lives before hers that went into the making of this path. I knew that her attitude toward her nisayon would win her a huge prize in Olam Haba. She once said (on a really bad day) “Either Hashem hates me, or he has something really great in store for me in the future”. She NEVER asked why. And when she died at 40, it left me broken and dazed, but sorry only for myself. I envy the spot she must have near Hashem. I envy her ability (I assume) to tip those scales in her favor with all the suffering and all the willingness to accept it. I believe that acceptance of her suffering does not mean being okay with experiencing it. But I accept it.
I hope this makes some sort of sense. I realize I am making myself very vulnerable by writing it here but if I can give chizuk to any one moment of a persons life it is worth it to risk it.
I think that if you wanted attention you would have to leave in a huff.
You will be missed, but one less poster is one less addict ; )
rb – wasn’t he talking to zk?
Mom! I can’t believe you gave yourself away!
My mother was very involved in a chessed organization so I can definitely hear where all the posters are coming from. I used to have a joke with my mom about the person who was DESPERATE for one hour of baby sitting on Monday, and the chessed worker said she would do better than that, she would give them TWO hours on Tuesday. I do not believe there is ill intent, I think there are kind people who dont always know what it is like to need. And those who need can’t always ask. If you really want to do chessed, I encourage people to find out what the person needs, and only agree if that is actually what you will provide, otherwise, try again next week! But to all who do give of themselves, THANK YOU and tizku l’mitzvos.
**wiping away a tear**
kapusta – don’t bother waiting. here you knock and let yourself in!
MP – I was very young when my younger sister died and we were all broken. I remember on the way back from the funeral my father saying she was like an angel and we were blessed to have her for 17 years. I truly believe that that introduction to having emuna at difficult times is what gave me the ability to survive other traumas and the recent pain of losing both parents and my other sister in such a short span of time. I don’t know how else I would have survived without believing that this was right. Flitters in my mind of medical negligence, etc which could take over my life, trying to find people to hold responsible etc. It frees me of all of that. Though I don’t feel these challenges have harmed my emuna, I often struggle with the concept that I don’t deserve any of the good Hashem gives me and I worry about how much I owe in return. I sometimes fear the future pains I will be required to endure for my own benefit Suffering has strengthened me but I still have a long way to go.
not if its already shabbos in australia
Health – you may want to research the meaning of berate. And there is no irony to my screen name. I think very carefully before I post and have walked away from your hurtful comments so many times. If you think asking someone to be kind to you is berating, than I feel sorry for you. And since I am obviously not alone in this, it might be worthwhile trying to understand why so many posters are feeling hurt and insulted when you have no intent of being hurtful. I have tried before to ask you not to speak so harshly and you always come back with painful personal attacks. I only risk it again at this time because I feel that you really, honestly,and truly do not realize how you come across. And honestly, I am in so much personal pain right now anyway, I don’t have the energy to not defend myself, and don’t think you could make me feel worse if you tried.
yenting – I was pretty annoyed about the megabus too. Wanted to find a cheap way to send some kids. Spirit air often has $8 tues and wed though so if you change your mind we’ll heat up the oil for you!
yenting – then what are you waiting for? Come visit us!
do you mean wKrp? as in cinncinati?
RB – I am involved in a chessed program at my house. One of the people who came by started getting aggressive so I had to ask her to leave. She sent police over to have me arrested for harrassment. Three times! Talk about abuse.
He said on another thread he is trying to break his addiction.
sorry – reading back further I see that I was responding to a response to your post, not your opening post.
“i went through some rough times but i think ive emerged ok…”
I actually think youre alot more than okay!!