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Kapusta – it kills me to think of someone with such a strong backbone feeling so down! When we both stopped posting for ideological reasons, and then we both started posting again, I knew my reason was because I was feeling lousy and needed a distractor from the noise in my head. I was so hoping you weren’t on for the same reason. I wish there was something I could offer . . .
The little I know – You bring up a good point about the label. Some kids are labelled to clarify, some kids are labelled by staff who have no clue that they are the ones who have inflicted so much pain on the child that that is the reason he is who he is in their class. And woe to the parent who tries to make that claim.
Sac -Rabbi Zucker? Who is he and where is he doing this?
I am going thru this exact matzav and it is heartbreaking. A weak Yeshiva often means less strict about frumkeit. And these yeshivas often have many boys who are not doing well, and not yet wanting to. Maybe if my son was living at home I could manage that, but not from a different state. It is exactly what you are saying. A ‘not-top’ boy who is weaker but not ‘weak enough’ and has strong hashkofos has NO place to go.
My girls have three hours of chessed requirements on Sundays.
The biggest problem with school on Sunday is that I don’t have time to wash their school clothes from Friday before they need to leave on Sunday. And I also believe it’s important to have a day free of carpools.
I have the opposite problem – I LOVE school and I love college and I would like to keep taking classes for the next forty years instead of working. The student loans provide a nice income and if I never stop talking classes I never have to pay them back. Hmmm . . .
I agree with Fashionablee and Oomis, if it’s your car you can say something.Just a suggestion tho, when I was pregnant I was often ‘about to throw up’ and I used to carry a cinnamon stick with me. When any smell got overwhelming, I would smell the cinnamon and it would go away. (My first pregnancy I had to carry around toothpaste cuz only that would work, but only pregnant women can get away with that 🙂
Baal HaBooze – Mazel Tov and may Hashem give your wife and you koach and nachas for and from all your children!
Because in Europe it was a good idea. Now the kids are choking/drowning but nobody really cares. And most parents are too stupid/incompetent to know what to do with their kids so they are happy when their kids have no down time, even if they are drowning. But that’s just my own personal/humble opinion, it’s not like the question hit a nerve or anything.
Working on it . . .
I loved Marathon bars and Bartons almond kisses.
avhaben – I was offered a comparable salary working only 10 months a year. When we thought I wasn’t gonna be having kids anymore, until the time our youngest goes to school, we switched places. He did say it is harder to stay home, but much more enjoyable (and he doesn’t have to wear a tie).
Health – no opposition to Musser, I was specifically referring to condescension, humiliation and inflicting pain. BTW – if I may add that I have been very impressed with your efforts in the tone of your posts, thank you. I hope you don’t mind me saying so,
Thats how it has been for a few years in my house.
Television shows were much better. Yes, I am joking.
I second that (would that make it Sam4?)
Goq – I think I figured you out but I’ll be discreet. The “o” and “q” are for “of Queens” aren”t they? (I have a chili dog riding on this one)
shticky – tzaddiQ
Okay Gefen, confess. You took math with Debra Feldman. Fourth anniversary since his twentieth . . .he’s been twenty for four years!
And they dont seem to realize that watching what goes into their mouths but not what comes out of their mouths does not make them better Jews. They are like the big brother who beats up the little brother. When confronted by his dad he says, ‘I did it for you dad! He was doing something to shame you.’ Dad responds, ‘You fool! He is my child. Do you think hurting my child to save my pride brings me relief? Next time leave me to take care of my childrens discipline since only I know what each deserves.’
I havent heard anyone else mention this but I find the extreme intensity of his being private to be worrisome. In some kids I know it was a symptom of sxl abuse. I dont throw that around loosely, Im just finding some of your descriptions unsettling in that way. Is it a possibility?
37000 on hand? Count me in.
Musser zoger: If only!
Im pretty sure accepting maaser is different than non-maaser tzedaka.
dhl144 – I wish I had your hashkafic insight at your age! What a great concept. My thought is that since 21 is when they exercise independence and freedom to do what they want to do, maybe we can “counter” that in parallel with exercising restraint and control. Building on middos that specifically address saying “no” to extra junk food, being extra careful about what you say to someone, thinking twice about something you wear or spend money on. Not just within halacha, but even beyond that into the halachically appropriate but, perhaps, spiritually lacking. I am far from turning 21, but it is a couple of months before my 21st anniversary so can I qualify?
abcd2: Thank you for modeling respectful disagreement. Its a dying midda.
Leaving aside the content but looking at the words you used to put down others to convey your point I guess you are trying to make the point that its okay to be sarcastic and condescending to another Jew, as long as you aren’t a Zionist.
I was a stay at home mom for many many years. Now my husband is one.
You are SO right!
MCP-I do
Oh dont depress me. I miss my sons so much when they go back : (
To grow in depth.
42: dont despair. Thats like being told you are a Yisroel but finding out you are really a chashuva Kohen!
Popa: another chicago boy needs donations, care to step up to the plate next time you pass through?
Popa: you are so not similar
I am an einekel of Reb Chaim of Vilozhins brother Zalman.
Hello99: Oh no, youre gonna be in Chicago and we wont know who you are! How can we shower you with our trademark warmth and kindness? Care to meet us all at starbucks? : )
Kapusta: Are you really? Maybe you, Goq and I can go together when they get to the world series this year! Musser Zoger, you can come too
Lots of detail about drug use. no problems regarding tznius. depends on what you want her to get from it. not a recreational read for a teen, imo.
We forget that some of our good buddies in the CR are disenchanted teens, overwhelmed new BTs, and struggling yidden. It is probably best to be honest but careful even in here. Imaofthree: yasher kocheich
We only buy what we need in order to not hear the kids tell us they are malnourished and starving, ch”v. That includes leben, pizza sauce, cheese, leben, coke, leben, pizza sauce and coke. We even bought an electric ice cream maker that we put coke into to make slurpees. Oh yes, and chocolate bars. Forgot to buy macaroons this year 🙁 Nobody eats them but it wouldn’t be Pesach without a can on the shelves.
I have a “Blumenkrantz” from 1977.
I have one from 1961, 1993, 1995, 1996 etc. (V’Hamayvin Yavin)
sigh
kind of a funny comment coming from a person who put up more than one thread about all the “work” that was being done/needing to be done.
My sentiments exactly
20: Will this help?
I also dont like discord, but why read through the thread and then complain about the “whole cr” being hostile and negative. There are hundreds of other threads you could have chosen instead. Its like when people see something done in Brooklyn and refer to it as something ‘all chareidim’ do. If you dont like what you see, take two steps in a different direction. There is a beautiful world out there beyond your daled amos.
Can’t give details but I have to say CHICAGO ROCKS! Thank you to all you pillars of Chessed who make life easier for everyone of us in this windy city. The giving is non-stop and so many people are a part of it. TIZKU L’MITZVOS and we should be zoche to see moshiach put an end to all this craziness NOW!
Goq – Growing up I went to the cubs games for the tan you got in the bleachers.