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I did a bad job of trying to explain myself (late at night on my keyboardless phone) I can’t decide if its worth clarifying or waiting for it all to go away.
Just one explanation:
I said – “However, I find these bandwagon threads calling for justice on a crime that never happened spread negativity.”
You opened this with a comment about someone leaving because of a certain thread, putting down the MODS for their modding, mussering the posters for their general LH, and insulting someone you defended. In the end, she hadn’t really “left” and not for that reason. So your thread put down a lot of people unnecessarily, though well meant.
I think that is what I was trying to say.
CA: I dont like name calling either but I have noticed that you sometimes jump to defend posters who were called names without noticing that perhaps they had asked for it on some level. I think when posters twist other posters words into things they never said and then slam them for saying it it brings a lot of discord, and people dont always respond with restraint. And this happens a lot in political threads. However, I find these bandwagon threads calling for justice on a crime that never happened spread negativity. But I do think you do it with a caring heart and all the right intentions. JMO for whatever its worth.
thank you for clarifying
that’s your response? I said I was answering your post, not commenting on the thread.
CA: I am speaking out of great respect for you so please make the effort to understand that. I have NOT read the posts in question, but I believe strongly that you are making assumptions and stating them as fact, and you would do better to level opinions instead of accusations. Sometimes these seemingly heroic protests are more damaging than you intend or realize.
SG: I disagree. We can discuss the concept but I dont think we should be discussing whether or not the gedolim wasted our time. There are defensive people bent on discrediting the Rabbeim to clear their concienses. If it was a talk of hashgofa it would be fine.
what’s your point?
That is so awful. Maybe if they waited til families were notified you would have known not to look. But nobody wins journalism awards for being thoughtful.
Unicycles are not as expensive as I thought they would be.
How did YWN get to you first? Did you try complaining at the time? Im not sure that it would have mattered, just wondering.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
A house near me had three owners who had babies with serious issues but the present owner is fine, BE*H. I would worry more about Tuma than mazel.
Hey, I thought we were friends 😛
We dont need modding, we dont say stupid things.
So much for intelligent conversation.
Cmon Goq, Ill take you for a chili dog.
Are you sure the men will let you in?
Oh moski, you beat me to the dryer! I have to admit, though, this one was funny.
Do we have to talk about recipes and laundry or can we have a real conversation?
My son is
Totally agree. Never understood why frum photographers would take them, or why a frum website would post it. Im also very sorry about your loss
You may want to have your post deleted before people start laughing.
Popa: thats too bad. After winning that million dollar lawsuit from Starbucks for not providing enough outlets for all their customers she was really looking forward to settling down.
42 : mine too. and so do my kids sometimes.
Can you explain that?
I don’t think it is so complicated. kfb and poster are correct. It is not an age thing, we got married and we picked an apartment we could afford. We did not have cell phones and things we could not afford. It’s like anything else in life. If you pick a lifestyle and your income does not match it, you assume your parents should be paying the rest. If you pick a lifestyle that matches your income, you manage. When I say this to friends of mine who are CRUMBLING under the weight of their children’s bills they don’t say, “but this way is such a great idea”, they say, “but this is how it’s done”
When I told my 4 year old we cancelled the internet she said, “what?! how could you do that with <siblings> in Israel waiting for emails!”
think first – thanks. Your compliments always come at such great times.
I personally loved the toysRus idea. Maybe my husband and I will do that for our anniversary next week . . .
computer777 – When I read his books I worked on internalizing them, thinking about how his words apply to me and how I can change. It really made a big difference. The books I personally found most useful in that way were:
When do the good things start – for a good intro to personality types
Life’s too short
Self improvement? I’m Jewish
Angels don’t leave footprints
He also deals with bringing more meaning into your life (spiritually) which I found helped tremendously in giving me an understanding of what our role is (and isn’t) as people, and how to turn to Hashem for strength and approval. I see this step as important in supporting you while you grow/change. My favorite books in that category are:
The enemy within
Dearer than life
His Haggada is also amazing.
Maybe mine do 😛
Most of his 60 plus books are on self esteem. He himself says that he just wrote the same book over in different ways. If you want I would be happy to list the ones I got the most from, but Ive read almost all of them.
I am so upset. I just picked up the picture I ordered of my daughter for her resume and instead of just charging me the 70 dollars to photoshop the skin and hair, and 50 to upgrade the headband and glasses to look more stylish, he charged me an additional 40 to change her eye color. Can you believe it? Its an outrage!
*blush* thanks
Just dont hold it in your palm for more than a nanosecond or it will byte, which can burn but its nothing a tylenol tablet cant wipe out.
Besides, I would rather splash barefoot.
Love the word but hate the look 🙂
Give it up Goq, I think shes too old for you.
Lots and lots of Dr Twerski books
20: Thats what I was gonna say! Ill just pretend your post didn’t go up yet.
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I have found that while I am working on strengthening my emuna and worrying less, Hashem brings me problems to test and strengthen me. Many resolve themselves after I refuse to fall from it.
Ateres also came to my mind. Great place. But I have tried to get my daughter to tell me what yeshivish means and I still dont get it.
Did you get to see her photo first?
2qwerty didn’t just make A point, it is THE point. Of course you need to be attracted to the person and there is nothing wrong with ending a shidduch because you were not attracted. But that is NOT the same thing as picking a date with someone because of their picture. There are probably a lot of people who you would not have picked if you used a picture as criteria but once you met them you saw them differently. If you start a date thinking someone is not attractive, but you have to spend an obligitory hour with them, you may actually find them attractive by the end of the hour. It has happened many times to many people. Looking at a picture in two dimensions only offers lustful options. Looking at and speaking to a person gives you the option to see if you are indeed attracted to them in the way that matters when establishing a friendship/life together.
I think the conversation here is really going off on a separate tangent. It is not about whether or not guys put too much emphasis on physical attraction (which they do of course, but Im a female) but about whether or not you can even know if you are attracted to someone through a photo. You would be surprised how many people knew they had found “the right one” before the chemistry kicked in. If they had given the girl/boy only a photo glance instead of a date, it would not have happened so easily.
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You got me rolling on that one! touche!
Whatever
ZK: Thanks for going out of your way to give chizuk. MP: as always you are gifted. SaysMe: I wish I could do more for you. Thanx for the hug