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If you want the “oilam” to be aware of this Halacha, why don’t you post it in English as well for those who may not understand all the words that you posted in Hebrew. I found it very disturbing that ppl who had already finished davening would converse and intefere with my kavana. and truthfully, it was usually the men. They had the loudest voices. I guess in the time of the Taz, we had the same issues. Nothing new under the sun!
He didn’t exactly seem like a mental patient; more like a lost soul and he did not recite the possuk Hamakon yinachem as he left.
There are many unfortunate genetic conditions r”l that do not as yet have tests to identify them or prevent them from occurring. Dor Yesharim tests for specific genetic diseases. When they say a couple is compatible, it is only for those eight or nine conditions and not for the hundreds that there are no tests for at this time.
If a couple is already engaged, I think Dor Yesharim will not deal with them.
I think that single girls should for sure learn how to drive. As a matter of fact, I think single girls should learn whatever they can get under their belt before they get married because anything they have to take up after they are already married and certainly after they have children is that much harder. If girls have the time, there’s no better time than the present to learn all the things that would stand them in good staid for the future.
I also r’l had the same experience when my family was sitting shiva last year. A man came in, asked a few questions like was the niftar a rabbi and another question regarding him and threw a brand new mechanical pencil(on it’s cardboard and plastic wrapper) on the table that held the plates for tzedaka and walked out. People from my neighborhood had the same (presumably) individual pay a call on them. Someone told me he actually came back and claimed his ‘gift.’
You will not be able to call Dor Yesharim unless you are the parent of one of the parties and in some cases, the shadchan although D.Y. discourages that. In order to call, you need the each party’s Dor Yesharim number, their birthdate and their control number. Those numbers (not the birthdates of course) should be in a safe place in the parents’ home or in the single person’s possession. There is very little possibility of “bothering” them with random combinations. Besides for the fact that it wouldn’t happen, who has so much time to waste for no useful purpose. If anyone remembers back to the time before Dor Yesharim, they would remember a Tay-Sachs ward in Kingsbrook with a population of Jewish children r”l. A few years ago it was empty, due to the efforts of Dor Yesharim and the compliance of the community b”H. There have been isolated cases and the heartbreak of it is enough reason to go with the system.
If a person is smart, he will check the Dor Yesharim numbers before the couple even go out one time. With all the phone calls that you make to check out a shidduch, this call is easy and they get back to you with an answer about if your kids are genetically compatible regarding the diseases they check for right away. Think about it, what does it matter if everything else matches up perfectly if the genetics are not compatible?Do it before the couple meets or if for some reason it wasn’t done then, don’t let a second date happen before you do it. You will never be sorry nor will you feel like you are pressuring the other side and making them think you are holding by getting engaged when you ask for the numbers in the middle of a shidduch. When the person who designed the system set it up, he made it very clear that you are supposed to check the numbers before a couple meet. If you think it’s too much bother for something that might not amount to more than one date, ask yourself if it may be more important than looking to find out if the other family stacks their dishes at the table or uses plastic tablecloths.
I have two very different types of offerings. EDITED the first item has been removed. please refrain from illegal (prescription requiring drug) offerings. I also have quite a large collection of the magazines many ppl like to read. I have many Mishpachas with Family First and Junior. I also have many Binah and Binah Bunch as well as many Hamodia magazines. I don’t want to throw them away, that’s how I accumulated them. I would like them to have a good home and give them to ppl who would appreciate them and maybe cannot afford to subscribe or buy them on the news-stand. A Kesiva Vachasima Tova to all.