i think it shouldn’t be allowed at all, I mean how many women do you know that actually can drive?

and if we ban them, we can say for sure that men are the better and safer drivers

Me

I read more than I post, but having been posting more lately.

What number am I 117? 118?

And isn’t an issur d’oriassa to count CR participants?

i don’t know about the kashrus but go and see Rebbe David Aabuchatzeira shlita, if you don’t your time in Nahariya is wasted, though you do have to push him for answers

when i was a kid veryone g-d fearing jew in london would never drive a german car, only volvo this was halacha moshe m’sinai. now everyone drives anything particulary japanese cars even though they were with the nazi’s against the allies during ww2. althougb everyone has german washers and fridges e.t.c

germany paid millions in repatriations to israel during the 50’s which obviously built a lot of the infastructure in israel.

recently i wanted to go to germany for a trip, but didnt because my mother doesnt allow it and says her mother would turn in her grave if i ever went to germany and so i didn`t go. despite the fact my grandmother’s parents were from russia and she was born in london, and never even went to germany.

sof ma’aseh it’s a mixed bag and depends who you ask

just refreshing this thread

paradoxescliches – are you there.

Given that this the coffee room is anonymous, maybe you could post your advice for me on this thread?

Or Mods if your reading this please put us in contact.

jump leads (why doesn’t everyone have these), de-icer, a bit of food and some plastic bags

Tell them the yeshiva sent you because it will cause the least bitul torah, because your a bum at learning and therefore have nothing to say. If they want a vort, invite them to go visit your yeshiva’s beis hamedrash during seder

Obviously has the Gemara in Kiddushin says you need to be physically attracted to yor wife.

But has a wise person once said to me you dont want to mary someone who looks like a supermodel because do you really what every guy walking down the street to LOOK at YOUR wife?

there is nothing wrong with wearing a ‘holy’ sock. has long has it is not too cold outside

m th point is very basic economics. if you have e.g $10 and you spend $5 on shloach manos and then you can only spend $5 on matnos levyonim. If you only spend $2 on shloach manos then you can spend $8 on matnos evyonim. It is called opportunity cost.

The point is spend a smalller amount on doing enough to fufil shloach manos and then you will have more matnos evyonim, and in almost all cases those recieving the matnos evyonim will need and appreciate the $ spent on them more than thos who recieve the ‘extra’ shloach manos.

The $10 can be $1000 or $1 mil, th point is the same. Shloach manos can be fufilled for a few $, then more can be given to those who need it.

If chazal wanted us to give so many mishloach manos then they why would they not decree that we give so many. Be yotze the mitzvah and then some, not too much.

If you still feel a need to spend loads more money use it for extra matanos l’evyonim. We all know that in all our communitites there are people who struggle to feed their kids, and if you cant find them use your money to support the poor and hungry in eretz yisroel rather than to keep your friends kids dentist in business.

what do you call a guy who sells shoes all by himself? A sole trader

I am also depressed. I had a hard family life as a teenager and am now still struggling many years later. I dont feel like I make any progress in life and am just living for the sake of it with no real purpose. I am hugely capable and get frustrated that I dont use my abilities (I am very clever and capable of doing pretty much anything if I want to and put my mind to it) to accomplish anything this makes me even more depressed. I am now well passed the age I should have been married and this is diffucult because all my firends are married and seem so happy and I want this but dont seem to be able to put myself in a position where I feel ready to start dating, even though I want to for many reasons including spiritually, phyiscal desires, loneliness and I know it will help me and make me happier. I dont feel that I can go on a date and look a girl in the eye unless I know what I am doing with my life and where I am going, – goals in life. Girls what is pshat in this? What are you specifically taking about when you say goals in life? Where you want to live? How many kids? Kollel/work? e.t.c

I have taken on part time work and this is good because it gives me a fair amount of money and some kind of purpose but it is not a job I want to do. I am just doing it for something to do and because my fanily kind of made me get a job. My friends and family dont really get how I feel. I hide it from them because I am embaressed about my problems, and so they just think I am fine and put pressure on my to go on shidduchim and get on with life and I cant tell them I dont feel in a position to do so.

Without being to not humble I have good middos, and am good looking, smart funny and a normal guy so on the outside everyone sees this and thinks that I am fine, and only I know I am not so I have to keep putting people of with all sorts nonsense reasons when they suggest this girl and that girl, all of whom may be great. So despite my desire for the intimacy and closeness that a person has with his wife, I feel uncomfortable about sharing my true feelings with a potential kallah until I would be so close with her that we would be engaged but obviously I have a duty to tell any girl about my depression and true feelings well before we would reach this stage, maybe after a few dates. So I am in a catch 22. Espically seeing I am sure that having a kallah would greatly help me to overcome my problems because I would have a soul mate, best firend, confident and someone to share absloutely everything with all rolled into one. Just thinking about this it seems so great kol v’chomer actually having it.

Please help with any advice, particulary girls, how would you feel about going out with a guy like me/ in my position?

And shaddachnim/ people with experince in shidduchim what advice can you give me?

Thanks