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I am not from new york, but I feel like seminary tuition is similar to day school tuition in new york, and I have heard that it is very difficult to get scholarships for day school tuition in new york. I am not trying to dismiss the tuition as inexpensive for people in new york, but it is just a thought.
it is sometimes harder to figure these things out when you don’t know the person…
Or, you can do the following things that will allow your kids to feel like they have more privacy:
1. Block Data
2. Block texting
3. Get a Kosher Phone
4. Get a phone that is not able to have internet on it, but can have texting
Also, I don’t think it is appropriate to refer to people who use the internet as sinners, especially because you are on the internet yourself.
I think that it is important to compromise a bit. Maybe, you will decide not to have a tv in your house, but you can also watch tv shows on the internet, and most computers can have dvds put into them, so that way, you can still get all the benefits of a television (although I am against watching tv myself, I don’t want a TV in my house, or secular literature outside of what my kids are stuck reading for school. The only barriers for me between where I am and where i want to be is internet usage, lack of background, and fact that I don’t like it when people tell me what to do). But as a baal teshuva, I can assure you that there are always ways to compromise with people without being so sheltered or feeling like your children do not know about the outside world.
It seems like the girl you are going out with is really growth oriented, and she probably wants to marry someone who is also really growth oriented as well. I think that the bottom line is that as long as you are willing to grow hashkafically along with her, that you both will be happy. It was very hard for me to stop watching tv as well, and stop reading teen vogue, and other magazines like that, so I started limiting the tv shows I was watching one by one, and I realized that I felt so much better about myself and felt holier each time I eliminated a tv show.
*menahel
Oorah
NCSY (Regional, National, Torah Fund)
Kupat Ha’ir
The rest of them were limited to people who live in my community. I don’t live in New York.
It helps defray the cost of the menthol traveling to and from interviews. Also, when you apply to college, you also have to pay a non-refundable application fee and might not get accepted, the same goes for applying anywhere. It costs money to hire someone to process the paperwork and for people who fly in to interview the girls…
For lakewood, Check to see if you can get a bus from laguardia to newark, there is a bus from newark to lakewood.
Gili’s Goodies! My mom sent me a package through them, and it was amazing! All my friends prefer Gili’s Goodies over anything else!
For women, or for men?
With so many locations, I am sure that each location is smaller than the size of yu/ stern…
Check List:
Federation
Shul
Your NCSY region
National NCSY
NCSY Torah Fund
Set up a website
Get babysitting jobs
Speak to your rabbi
Ask other girls that went before
Save money (like birthday money)
That is all I can think of right now.
In addition to writing tons of essays (for me, writing is easier than having interviews), I went to a number of rabbis in my community, and I also set up a website, and constantly spoke about how I needed to raise so much money, and then people suggested that I go to a variety of places based on what I needed, I often would ask someone to list all the places that they thought of for getting scholarships from (I did this later on in the year) and that way, I made sure I covered all my bases (which towards the end of the year, I already got money from all the places most people seemed to mention), and then I would ask if they could think of any other places, and then I got some “last resort” suggestions, and then worked on those. Basically, fundraising that amount of money while still in high school is a pretty big undertaking, I would say that I lost a ton of sleep over it, and also felt like during that time, it was all I could think about (I am very driven when it comes to meeting goals like that, which helped a lot, but also stressed me a bit as well). I also davened a ton and made sure to check in with people every once in a while to make sure I was on the top of their list of people who needed money.
Like the school I went to in 12th grade was a bais yaakov, so I could not use the internet at school, yet I had special permission to bring my laptop to school to take notes, and on days I got out earlier than everyone else (like a friday), I would occasionally go somewhere else (a Jewish organization) that would let me use their wifi, and I told them I wanted to use their wifi to search for seminary related information, and then they saw that I was serious, and helped me. Its all about strategic planning. An army will lose a war if they don’t have a strategy for the battlefield, so to, you can’t do this alone, and you need to rally up people to support you.
Its completely possible!
Littlemiss: The answer to your question will be different depending on what community you live in. For me, although it was really hard to write all the essays, I have a very unique background because I went to public school, did ncsy, became a baal teshuva, transferred to a local bais yaakov, and my family isn’t so wealthy. So depending on your background and where you live, it might not be possible to get a full scholarship. However, the key thing is to search online.
If you know that you are going to a Jewish College after your year in seminary, then I do not recommend participating in an Israel experience program unless fafsa allows you to get grants instead of loans/ nothing. Otherwise, you could be spending $2,000 on a program for a transcript to be in debt.
Also, most seminaries have some sort of scholarship or work study fund that can help a bit as well.
Nanny: I was never a straight a student, and I even got a D in a class and a bunch of C on my transcript and although that meant I could not apply for the merit scholarship from my federation, people that ask you to send in a transcript usually also look at other factors such as essays, and possibly interviews- if applicable.
There are also scholarships that I don’t know about for other communities because I live in the midwest, but there are probably funds available from places that have paper applications as well.
Milchig:
Baked Potatoes with slices or chunks of cheese melted into them with butter as well.
Wacky Mac with peas on the side.
Cheese Sandwiches with sliced tomatoes on them (or on the side- nobody eats an entire tomato at once so these can easily be shared. You can use oil to grill fry the sandwiches, although that won’t be as healthy, you can get instructions for how to do that online.
Parve:
Peanut Butter and Jelly with baby carrots as a side dish.
Fleishig:
Rotisserie Chicken with peas as a side dish.
*If you buy frozen vegetables, you can reheat them later when you plan on eating them.
** I am sure that there are some kosher protein bars you can purchase for around $1.00 to make sure you get more nutrients as well.
I agree, Ikea always has the best stuff, but at the same time, I feel like wooden bunk beds feel more homey and for the person who is sleeping on the top bunk, it is easier on their feet to climb up a wooden ladder than a metal one, the metal ladder kills the person’s feet because of the pressure. Wood has more give than metal. Target and Walmart probably have some as well.
Michlelet is an ncsy summer program for girls that is a lot like seminary. There is 4-5 hours of learning a day in the form of speakers, chaburas with madrichot, and there are some teachers that work for other seminaries during the school year that teach some classes as well. There is a big mix of girls from all different backgrounds ranging from public school girls to bais yaakov girls, they are all very good girls. I went two summers ago and had an amazing time!
Its based in Yeshivat Reshit, in Ramat Beit Shemesh, so the dorms are really nice and you don’t have to worry about staying in hotels every night and packing everything up every morning. Although we do plenty of traveling as well. I think that if you haven’t been to Israel before on a touring trip that if possible, you should do one first, or you can even extend your stay by either flying in early and spending a few days touring and staying by family or friends and then joining the program when it starts or you can stay after a bit longer so that you can do more touring as well because although they go to the really important tourist areas, they don’t go to all of the ones that a more touring type program would go to (I went on a two week touring trip at the end of eighth grade, so I was fine with doing less touring and more learning).
The staff are really nice and I had amazing madrichot and I still keep in touch with a few girls that I was there with. Although I only knew two people before the summer started, I was able to make a ton of friends and I found that it was a great oasis from being in public school all the time (I ended up transferring to a bais yaakov type school for 12th grade two weeks after the program ended, but since I didn’t know that until after I got home, I found that it was amazing to be making friends for the first time in my high school career and feel like I was normal, which I never felt in public school).
NCSY gives very generous need based scholarships for people who have been involved very involved in ncsy before they apply to the summer program they want to go on. I also found that the federation was very helpful with me as well. And (since I tend to have a lot of success raising money for Jewish experiences) I ended up raising with NCSY and the federation combined, more than I needed to pay for the price of the program in scholarship money.
Like any high school israel experience, even though you have already paid the sticker price on the program, there are still other shopping expenses that would not be covered by scholarships that you need to take care of before going (I feel like, and keep in mind that I am not wealthy so I am just saying this for information and not for the sake of saying everyone can afford everything because I know that is not true at all) which if you stay home for the summer would end up needing to be taken care of anyway such as food, sunscreen, bathing suits, and other things that you would need to enjoy your summer at home, which if you stayed home would be absorbed into your family’s expenses, but at the same time cannot be neglected when deciding to participate in a summer program (i have had throughout my fundraising career to justify why I needed full scholarships if, by staying home, my mom would have to buy me food to eat and since I can’t just sit around and do nothing, money for entertaining activities, like going to a museum…).
I don’t know anything about camp machanayim, but I would definitely recommend michlelet and you should definitely take all that information into account when deciding which program to do on.
There are so many organizations that give scholarship money for seminary. I raised $23,730 for seminary and even though I have had to switch seminaries, I have still found ways to get scholarships for the seminary I am at now. The key thing is to always ask your; school, rabbi, federation, and search online (there are so many online like the alissa flatlow one and others like that that you can’t find anywhere else but online).
I would have her see a social worker, and then take it from there. Ignore any stigmas that you have about the situation. Intervention is most successful when the parents are being supplemented by social workers, and attending social skill groups if applicable. Check your local Jewish and Child family services place/ Jewish Childrens center for culturally respected/ acceptable intervention services on a sliding scale.
the girls were bullying me, and the school did nothing about it. They told me I was fat, and they went to the eim bayit and told her I was eating ice cream all day, and she accused me of having an eating disorder, then they wondered why I was not able to show up to class, because I was to scared of people making comments. On top of that, I was there for two months and the school did not know me at all, and considering how few people were there, they could have gotten to know me. The social worker told my friend medical information about me that she was not authorized to tell. Its embarrassing to have to go to a social worker to get ear plugs, on top of that we were forced to fill out medical forms in class, and girls kept on staring at me because it was taking me a long time to fill mine out (I am sorry I have ADHD and some other issues), it was humiliating and accused me of lying on my initial medical form, in front of the whole school.
Hockey_Fan, you were not forcing your opinion at all, you just wanted to help her.
ok, fine.
I am a baal teshuva. NCSY was really good for me because it provided things that I needed to become frum on a more holistic level than any other Jewish organization could in my community.
What a perfect solution!?!?! Drug them up, you could promise them a sip of bartenura at the next meal if they behave at the current meal.
My high school let me see someone during school hours. There is no excuse to accommodate depending on the time of day. The student can daven shacharis at home and then have that time free the one morning a week…
Afikei is closing down at the end of this year…
both… I have a lot of drama going on. I could embarrass Rabbi Segel and entire seminary right now and talk about the girls this year in relation to my anxiety disorder and how those factors prevented me from being able to attend class (for very legit reasons due to innapropriate stuff that went on, that was not my fault at all, but rather because of the other girls_ and then I was asked to leave, or I can just be quiet on this matter and say nothing more because I already said enough as it is.
ok, i am not trying to promote aliyah here…
There are many different ways of serving Hashem within a Torah network. Don’t try to box yourself in. Within the Chareidi/ Yeshivish community, there are many different customs. The Gedolim say not to use the internet, yet many yeshivish people do. Some people have filtered internet, and some people have no internet, and some people have nonfiltered internet. At the end of the day, Halacha is the same for all Jews, no matter what community you affiliate yourself with. The key thing is to not stress out. If I had to label myself, I could call myself the black hat- Bais Yaakov- NCSYer, because I consider myself all these things equally, other people look at me differently, and say “She is religious” or “She is a baal teshuva and therefore it makes sense for her to do ______________” I remember when I decided two weeks before 12th grade started to switch from my public school to one of the local bais yaakov that I thought to myself, I am not so sure I want to go in the black hat direction, yet I knew absolutely nothing about being a bais yaakov girl, and I am in Israel now, and I had a number of issues with seminary “A” and I had to leave that seminary, and I just keep on thinking to myself, wow, I actually want to go to a Bais Yaakov seminary, my year at that bais yaakov school in my community was amazing! and I have realized that I have taken on many blackhat nuances, yet, I am still the same me, I might wear slightly different clothes, but I still have a personality, and most of the same interests that I had before, I still fight with my mom over wantin designer clothes, but now I just go to a gemach and get them, and I don’t freak out anymore about the hashkafa, I just grow at my own pace, and I strongly suggest that you do that as well.
no comment… long story, I am not the one to speak to about this…
as if he would know, in the midwest rabbi Rovinsky from st. louis certified a rabbi from chicago to perform bris milah If you call the midwest ncsy office they can give you his number.