snooper

First of all, thank you all for all the ideas and recommendations!

I want to address a few points:

A. regarding learning together, we actually did start doing that

after lunch( when we put our kids for nap) and it is the best time for it, because we still have the mental engery for it at that point.

However, I’ll be honest, by time my kids actually fall asleep( these days only at 8:30…and yes we tried changing that to earlier with no success), and after taking care of a few household duties( laundry dishes etc)

the last thing I can focus on is a shiur…for some it is less mentally straining than others…for me it is just not a way to unwind.

My husband also puts in many hours of his day to learn, so adding more learning at night isn’t easy for him either ( even if it is “lighter” reading/learning)

B. We didn’t make a decision to stop games, we just got tired of the ones we have…I guess that means time to get new ones.

C.I liked the idea of working on a hobby together….I guess I have to figure out which one.

D. going to sleep early will mean that my husband and I won’t be spending quality time together…our day will only be comprised of errands, duties, kids etc….

I think quality time is of utmost important in a marriage.

lilmud ulelamed- Amein! thank you! it is VERY difficult to give it up…especially since it has been status quo for so long and the Entertainment Industry sure knows how to make everything glamorous and entertaining…but the garbage ( and waste of time) isn’t worth it in the long haul!