SmokedSalmon

dovrosenbaum: If any SY marries a ger, they’re out of the community. No exceptions.

They also do not allow gerim to hold membership or have aliyos in their shuls.”

Is it fair to treat the ger tzedek who is 100% Jewish and for whom there is a mitzvah to love him in this way? I understand pushing people away if they dated a goyishe girl and then had her converted for marriage. There are many gerim whose sincerity is so obvious…the lengths they go to, the sacrifices they make. I don’t think many of us could show that commitment.

it’s a complicated question with lots of things to consider. For example, how amenable is the giyores’s family to her conversion and to Jews in general? There has historically (since the ’60s) been a lot of friction between Jews and blacks, for example. Another consideration is politics- most minorities are liberal and most frum Jews are conservative, so that could be a sticking point. Finally, the gap in knowledge could be problematic. The husband will need to step it up and take the bulk of responsibility for raising a talmidei chachomim, sharing divrei Torah at the shabbos table, helping kids with their limudei kodesh homework, etc. Those are big responsibilities that are best shared…

So while I as a single would have no issues going on a date w/ a giyores, I’d be more skeptical of it working out.

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I find it quite interesting that you work on the assumption that geirim are less knowledegable than FFB Jews. Sincere geirim are known to be very knowledgeable even more than the many FFBs who just do but don’t ask why. It takes years of study and more intense than becoming a BT.

Joseph, I don’t think having a skin color preference is inherently wrong, but clearly something is the matter when this lovely lady who converted about 6 months ago after spending time in sem seems to be overlooked when others who share her status as a geir do not experience as much difficulty.

Meno, I hear what you are saying but for many geirim the process takes a lot longer than 1/2 years in yeshiva/seminary, requires a lot more work and I would think that to successfully complete the geirus process, they’ve had to do a lot of figuring themselves out and soul searching. If their rabbeim say they are ready to date, who are we to dictate to them?

The Wolf, thank you for answering.