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  • in reply to: do 'mazinka' dance or not? #753107
    smartcookie
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    Ok grand- I hear you. You’re taking the term very literal.

    I’m not sure how others do it, but yes, in our family the Mechitzas never come down. Never.

    (Only by Mitzvah Tantz)

    But I still wouldn’t judge others like you do. I would be them Dan Lkaf ZChus that they (hopefully) got some Heter.

    And believe me, I don’t either understand how mixed dancing can ever be allowed, but who am I to judge?

    In the next world, we each have to give a Din Vcheshbon, and until then, every Yid is free to follow the Torah in whichever way they understand is right.

    in reply to: do 'mazinka' dance or not? #753104
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    No grandmaster- because the OP didn’t ask if it’s OK to do the Mezinka Dance. She asked a question about her DOING it. So obviously, if they do the dance, it’s in a Kosher enough way.

    in reply to: do 'mazinka' dance or not? #753102
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    Grandmaster- no we dance separate- not in the men’s section.

    Anyway, b4 attacking the OP that it’s against Halacha, maybe ask exactly how it will be done.

    When a Frum woman asks such a question, it should be assumed that they will do it in accordance with Halacha.

    in reply to: do 'mazinka' dance or not? #753097
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    Grandmaster- at wedding where there is NO mixed dancing, like in my family, we do the dance according to Halacha. (Mother with kallah or father with Chosson.)

    Guess what? We can follow Halacha and have normal lives. Not everything someone mentions is done in a wrong fashion.

    in reply to: How to Change Your YWN/CR Password #752960
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    So Joseph was a help, after all…. 🙂

    in reply to: Living With Poppa Is Hard TO Bear #756184
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    Eclipse, how do you stay normal? This is so hard. I’m glad you found the CR at least!

    in reply to: To talk or not to talk?? #758293
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    Good job Yoyo. I’m happy your mother knows about this now. You just keep showing UNinterest and snob him off!

    in reply to: Can You Help Me With The Pro's? #753463
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    Eclipse- if they will continue visiting their father, and his new wife, it does make sense for them to attend the wedding.

    You are in a very difficult situation and I hope you have the strength to go through it all.

    I know I’m sooooo encouraging, but I’m telling you you’ll still see Nachas after all the work you’re putting in!

    in reply to: Z'MAN MAGAZINE ARTICLE ON "BABY JESSICA" #753078
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    Amazing story. Didn’t read it in the Zman, though.

    in reply to: Who Would You Elect as Mayor of Coffeetown #1111053
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    I vote for JOSEPH. All of his screen names actually.

    I think my REAL vote would go to Wolf or Mod 80 as I mentioned b4.

    in reply to: Boro Park/ Kensington #752797
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    Aha! Yeah! That will pay off well! Good for you!

    are you originally from Florida?

    in reply to: Anxiety #753004
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    No fair 🙁

    in reply to: Boro Park/ Kensington #752794
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    Check the Hamodia.

    MBachur- stay in Florida! Don’t come to NY doesn’t pay!

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752903
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    S2021- I’m curious what your cousin had to say when you confronted her.

    in reply to: To talk or not to talk?? #758286
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    Yoyo- please tell us WHY you wouldn’t share it with your mom. At least tell her that you feel that HE has a crush on you. (Put the blame on him!)

    in reply to: Anxiety #752991
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    Whhhaaaa??? Another poster trying to steal my identity?

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752895
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    S2021- I’m happy to see your post because I’m usually a good listener to someone’s problems. This just started out so innocently and before I knew it I’m in a argument here.

    I come to the CR to enjoy. So let’s leave this conversation as is and not continue. I hope you get over these hard times, and you find your Zivug whom you’ll be so proud of forever!

    in reply to: Limericks! #1221556
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    Blinky, you hardly post anymore

    Well all miss you for sure

    Perhaps this will make your heart soften

    And you’ll come more often

    And you’ll stop being such a bore!

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752886
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    If someone needs to let off steam sbout what is obviously a very difficult situation, I think an anonymous forum would be the best place to do it. I don’t think there’s anything wrong [loshon horoh-wise] with that

    The only difference here is that we’re not so anonymous. I figured out quite a few people here and I might be very close to knowing who S2021 is.

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752878
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    Why am I the only person on this forum who finds that talking against an ex on a public website is wrong?

    What is going on?

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752877
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    2021- I apologize if I hurt you. I would never want to do that.

    We have our Torah which obligates us not to believe Loshon Hora. THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT U WERENT ABUSED. U PROBABLY WERE AND I FEEL FOR YOU.

    But since I, or anyone else for that matter, wasn’t witness to the abuse, we may not make conclusions. So I believe you, but I will not draw conclusions.I’m just following Halacha. I’m so sorry.

    Please understand me and accept my apology.

    This is just the way I work.

    I NEVER totally believe things that I hear. I sometimes believe but also leave a little space to be Dan Lkaf Zchus.(No, not for abuse.)

    Can’t explain myself better since I’m typing without my glasses and one eye closed. I’m trying to sleep for the past hour!

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752875
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    2021- I know I’m supposed to be in dreamland now, but I’m trying to figure out what was SO bad about me saying that other people don’t know the truth about about your husband like you do, and therefore, they still might like him.

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752874
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    2021- I never told you what you’re thinking and NOWHERE did I make light of abusers.

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752869
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    Nope, I’ll learn self control right now!

    G’night 2021. Let’s stay friends although you don’t like my posts. I’ll daven for you!

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752867
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    MODS STOP MODERATING PLEASE! You’re not letting me go to sleep with all this noise here.

    I can block your account until tomorrow if that will help.

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752865
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    Thanks Syag!

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752863
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    Cookie: What she said is called supportive. Or nice. Or smart.

    So 2021- you’re not really looking for support. You’re just looking for more and more people to talk against your ex-hub, even though they never met him.

    Sorry, I can’t do that. And I don’t think it’s right to make others do it when nobody can really know what went on in your home.

    in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over �Not Tzniyus� Advertisement #759809
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    I saw that sprayed up ad and was horrified at the Chutzpah. It is pure Geneiva and shouldve been handled better by talking to H&M.

    It was weird to me though as to why H&M would want to advertise here, but that’s already their choice!

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752857
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    Sorry 2021- I don’t wanna get you angry! I’m just trying to bring out Syag’s words exactly: some abusive husbands may be good to their friends, and therefore, the outside world might not understand you.

    Now back to the ex bashing!

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752851
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    2021- I didn’t think you’ll buy it! But that’s the fact! People don’t know the whole story and only see the way the hub/wife acts in public.

    in reply to: Who Would You Elect as Mayor of Coffeetown #1111021
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    Mod 80. (He’s the boss here anyway ;))

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752846
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    S2021- you’re saying he abused YOU. That doesn’t mean he gives a bad impression to outside people. He might actually be a great friend to others. Just helping you understand why people don’t realize that he’s a bad person.

    So don’t be upset at your cousin.

    (I have no idea if he really is a good or bad person, but I can definitely understand why he may look worse in your eyes and others might still like him.)

    in reply to: Limericks! #1221552
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    Today I did a lot of Pesach cleaning

    Don’t take in Chometz I’ve been screaming

    Now I’m finally relaxed

    After working to the max

    And I can write a limerick with meaning.

    in reply to: What have I missed in the past 3 months in the CR? #850727
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    Na, you were probably hidden under some other screen name!

    in reply to: we need a laugh a bit… #887240
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    I think they need hundreds of people to do this and drei them a kup!

    in reply to: we need a laugh a bit… #887236
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    Great idea!

    in reply to: Ma Rotzeh Hashem Mimeni? #1110840
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    Now b4 pesach? You expect to find for thurs or fri?

    This is a Purim joke, correct?

    in reply to: Mother Theresa And Bikur Cholim (l'havdil…) #751810
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    I will continue to post whatever I feel like posting and if it doesn’t pass the mods -ok that’s their perjorative. But my posts don’t have to meet anyone else’s approval!

    Btw Health- that, to me, looked like you were offended. I didn’t see that coming from Eclipse and S2021 (and you’re a man!)

    So, sorry if you were or weren’t offended!

    in reply to: When the MODS fall asleep…… #1209564
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    shticky- don’t think I chose my screen name because I think I’m smartest in the world. I just liked that name!

    in reply to: Ciao (for now) #752271
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    Kapusta well miss you!

    in reply to: Mother Theresa And Bikur Cholim (l'havdil…) #751809
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    Health- sometimes it’s not something a mod would delete because the content is fine. But the post doesn’t reflect well on the writer.

    That was my point. It just wasn’t nice!

    But please! Do as you feel is right!

    Ok next please!

    in reply to: malls #760352
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    Where in NY?

    in reply to: Mother Theresa And Bikur Cholim (l'havdil…) #751805
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    Health- how can you be so certain that I’m not a mod?

    I’m not here to tell you to stop talking. I can’t control anyone but myself.

    I was just making you aware that what you were doing isn’t the nicest thing in the world, in case you didn’t realize it.

    Sorry if you were offended.

    in reply to: Go To Sleep!!!! #751471
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    Observe- wait till you become a mother bezras Hashem!

    in reply to: Touchy Subject Support Group #752819
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    Ok, I knew this was gonna come 🙂

    Btw- 2021- I was wondering how long you were married (you just sound like a young woman). If it’s private, skip it!

    in reply to: How would you react? #752077
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    This woman is definitely either not totally normal, or she’s going through a very big crisis in life now. Therefore she didn’t act logically.

    This is not the way people usually behave.

    in reply to: Mother Theresa And Bikur Cholim (l'havdil…) #751799
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    I don’t think it’s nice to discuss ex spouses here. Sorry to ruin the fun. I don’t know why some posts were approved.

    (Am I being a goody goody?)

    in reply to: When the MODS fall asleep…… #1209560
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    I am an old timer here!

    in reply to: Brocha on Gum? #751885
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    Esther- is it allowed to only lick and chew pork without swallowing it? To me it’s the same thing.

    in reply to: would you use an unopened box of last year's matzah meal this pesach #751815
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    No, besides if you really can’t afford more.

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