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smartcookieMember
Ok grand- I hear you. You’re taking the term very literal.
I’m not sure how others do it, but yes, in our family the Mechitzas never come down. Never.
(Only by Mitzvah Tantz)
But I still wouldn’t judge others like you do. I would be them Dan Lkaf ZChus that they (hopefully) got some Heter.
And believe me, I don’t either understand how mixed dancing can ever be allowed, but who am I to judge?
In the next world, we each have to give a Din Vcheshbon, and until then, every Yid is free to follow the Torah in whichever way they understand is right.
smartcookieMemberNo grandmaster- because the OP didn’t ask if it’s OK to do the Mezinka Dance. She asked a question about her DOING it. So obviously, if they do the dance, it’s in a Kosher enough way.
smartcookieMemberGrandmaster- no we dance separate- not in the men’s section.
Anyway, b4 attacking the OP that it’s against Halacha, maybe ask exactly how it will be done.
When a Frum woman asks such a question, it should be assumed that they will do it in accordance with Halacha.
smartcookieMemberGrandmaster- at wedding where there is NO mixed dancing, like in my family, we do the dance according to Halacha. (Mother with kallah or father with Chosson.)
Guess what? We can follow Halacha and have normal lives. Not everything someone mentions is done in a wrong fashion.
smartcookieMemberSo Joseph was a help, after all…. 🙂
smartcookieMemberEclipse, how do you stay normal? This is so hard. I’m glad you found the CR at least!
smartcookieMemberGood job Yoyo. I’m happy your mother knows about this now. You just keep showing UNinterest and snob him off!
smartcookieMemberEclipse- if they will continue visiting their father, and his new wife, it does make sense for them to attend the wedding.
You are in a very difficult situation and I hope you have the strength to go through it all.
I know I’m sooooo encouraging, but I’m telling you you’ll still see Nachas after all the work you’re putting in!
smartcookieMemberAmazing story. Didn’t read it in the Zman, though.
smartcookieMemberI vote for JOSEPH. All of his screen names actually.
I think my REAL vote would go to Wolf or Mod 80 as I mentioned b4.
smartcookieMemberAha! Yeah! That will pay off well! Good for you!
are you originally from Florida?
smartcookieMemberNo fair 🙁
smartcookieMemberCheck the Hamodia.
MBachur- stay in Florida! Don’t come to NY doesn’t pay!
smartcookieMemberS2021- I’m curious what your cousin had to say when you confronted her.
smartcookieMemberYoyo- please tell us WHY you wouldn’t share it with your mom. At least tell her that you feel that HE has a crush on you. (Put the blame on him!)
smartcookieMemberWhhhaaaa??? Another poster trying to steal my identity?
smartcookieMemberS2021- I’m happy to see your post because I’m usually a good listener to someone’s problems. This just started out so innocently and before I knew it I’m in a argument here.
I come to the CR to enjoy. So let’s leave this conversation as is and not continue. I hope you get over these hard times, and you find your Zivug whom you’ll be so proud of forever!
smartcookieMemberBlinky, you hardly post anymore
Well all miss you for sure
Perhaps this will make your heart soften
And you’ll come more often
And you’ll stop being such a bore!
smartcookieMemberIf someone needs to let off steam sbout what is obviously a very difficult situation, I think an anonymous forum would be the best place to do it. I don’t think there’s anything wrong [loshon horoh-wise] with that
The only difference here is that we’re not so anonymous. I figured out quite a few people here and I might be very close to knowing who S2021 is.
smartcookieMemberWhy am I the only person on this forum who finds that talking against an ex on a public website is wrong?
What is going on?
smartcookieMember2021- I apologize if I hurt you. I would never want to do that.
We have our Torah which obligates us not to believe Loshon Hora. THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT U WERENT ABUSED. U PROBABLY WERE AND I FEEL FOR YOU.
But since I, or anyone else for that matter, wasn’t witness to the abuse, we may not make conclusions. So I believe you, but I will not draw conclusions.I’m just following Halacha. I’m so sorry.
Please understand me and accept my apology.
This is just the way I work.
I NEVER totally believe things that I hear. I sometimes believe but also leave a little space to be Dan Lkaf Zchus.(No, not for abuse.)
Can’t explain myself better since I’m typing without my glasses and one eye closed. I’m trying to sleep for the past hour!
smartcookieMember2021- I know I’m supposed to be in dreamland now, but I’m trying to figure out what was SO bad about me saying that other people don’t know the truth about about your husband like you do, and therefore, they still might like him.
smartcookieMember2021- I never told you what you’re thinking and NOWHERE did I make light of abusers.
smartcookieMemberNope, I’ll learn self control right now!
G’night 2021. Let’s stay friends although you don’t like my posts. I’ll daven for you!
smartcookieMemberMODS STOP MODERATING PLEASE! You’re not letting me go to sleep with all this noise here.
I can block your account until tomorrow if that will help.
smartcookieMemberThanks Syag!
smartcookieMemberCookie: What she said is called supportive. Or nice. Or smart.
So 2021- you’re not really looking for support. You’re just looking for more and more people to talk against your ex-hub, even though they never met him.
Sorry, I can’t do that. And I don’t think it’s right to make others do it when nobody can really know what went on in your home.
March 24, 2011 4:38 am at 4:38 am in reply to: Bochrim Spray-Paint Over �Not Tzniyus� Advertisement #759809smartcookieMemberI saw that sprayed up ad and was horrified at the Chutzpah. It is pure Geneiva and shouldve been handled better by talking to H&M.
It was weird to me though as to why H&M would want to advertise here, but that’s already their choice!
smartcookieMemberSorry 2021- I don’t wanna get you angry! I’m just trying to bring out Syag’s words exactly: some abusive husbands may be good to their friends, and therefore, the outside world might not understand you.
Now back to the ex bashing!
smartcookieMember2021- I didn’t think you’ll buy it! But that’s the fact! People don’t know the whole story and only see the way the hub/wife acts in public.
smartcookieMemberMod 80. (He’s the boss here anyway ;))
smartcookieMemberS2021- you’re saying he abused YOU. That doesn’t mean he gives a bad impression to outside people. He might actually be a great friend to others. Just helping you understand why people don’t realize that he’s a bad person.
So don’t be upset at your cousin.
(I have no idea if he really is a good or bad person, but I can definitely understand why he may look worse in your eyes and others might still like him.)
smartcookieMemberToday I did a lot of Pesach cleaning
Don’t take in Chometz I’ve been screaming
Now I’m finally relaxed
After working to the max
And I can write a limerick with meaning.
March 23, 2011 10:26 pm at 10:26 pm in reply to: What have I missed in the past 3 months in the CR? #850727smartcookieMemberNa, you were probably hidden under some other screen name!
smartcookieMemberI think they need hundreds of people to do this and drei them a kup!
smartcookieMemberGreat idea!
smartcookieMemberNow b4 pesach? You expect to find for thurs or fri?
This is a Purim joke, correct?
smartcookieMemberI will continue to post whatever I feel like posting and if it doesn’t pass the mods -ok that’s their perjorative. But my posts don’t have to meet anyone else’s approval!
Btw Health- that, to me, looked like you were offended. I didn’t see that coming from Eclipse and S2021 (and you’re a man!)
So, sorry if you were or weren’t offended!
smartcookieMembershticky- don’t think I chose my screen name because I think I’m smartest in the world. I just liked that name!
smartcookieMemberKapusta well miss you!
March 23, 2011 11:57 am at 11:57 am in reply to: Mother Theresa And Bikur Cholim (l'havdil…) #751809smartcookieMemberHealth- sometimes it’s not something a mod would delete because the content is fine. But the post doesn’t reflect well on the writer.
That was my point. It just wasn’t nice!
But please! Do as you feel is right!
Ok next please!
smartcookieMemberWhere in NY?
smartcookieMemberHealth- how can you be so certain that I’m not a mod?
I’m not here to tell you to stop talking. I can’t control anyone but myself.
I was just making you aware that what you were doing isn’t the nicest thing in the world, in case you didn’t realize it.
Sorry if you were offended.
smartcookieMemberObserve- wait till you become a mother bezras Hashem!
smartcookieMemberOk, I knew this was gonna come 🙂
Btw- 2021- I was wondering how long you were married (you just sound like a young woman). If it’s private, skip it!
smartcookieMemberThis woman is definitely either not totally normal, or she’s going through a very big crisis in life now. Therefore she didn’t act logically.
This is not the way people usually behave.
smartcookieMemberI don’t think it’s nice to discuss ex spouses here. Sorry to ruin the fun. I don’t know why some posts were approved.
(Am I being a goody goody?)
smartcookieMemberI am an old timer here!
smartcookieMemberEsther- is it allowed to only lick and chew pork without swallowing it? To me it’s the same thing.
March 23, 2011 12:16 am at 12:16 am in reply to: would you use an unopened box of last year's matzah meal this pesach #751815smartcookieMemberNo, besides if you really can’t afford more.
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