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Goq, I rarely still post here, but I do read, and had to log in to respond!
I don’t know why or if you are different IRL, but here in cyberland, you are one of the very few normal people left on this site!
You’re incredibly nice to everyone, post intelligently, and I love your humor!
So yeah, perhaps you’re weird because there aren’t many normal people left in our world! The normal ones become the rare weirdos! 🙂
Never use silver foil. Parchment paper only.
It’s hard. BTDT. I worked with 1 child, and then 2.
First of all, do you have a babysitter? Once you find the right one, you’ll feel a lot better. Make sure that you’re 100% comfortable with her. If you have doubts, you won’t be calm.
You will get used to it as time goes on, but you will be so excited at the end of every day to finally see him! I used to really miss my babies when I left them over!
Is there any way you can cut your hours so you won’t be away from him all day?
When I said trees, I meant socks.
Haifa, I’m enjoying your humor! Oh, and your grammar lessons too! I love finding grammar mistakes…
Rabbiofberlin- I’ve heard about this concept only by Rebbish weddings. Perhaps not all.
I don’t get why people are so worked up about this.
Covering at the Mitzvah tantz is a Rebbish Minhagim, not Belz. It is done in all Rebbish circles.
As a Belzer, I can assure you that no other Belzers do this, it definitely has nothing to do with Halacha.
And if someone feels they want to take an extra step in Tznius, without bothering anyone else, then good for them.
Many Minhagim is far beyond my understanding, but as long as it isn’t done on another person’s expense, I respect it.
And about the smiles,I’ve seen plenty smiles throughout this wedding. Yes, it was very serious too, considering all the emotions involved, for those who know Belz history.
Don’t dig up more problems than our communities already have. We have enough, no need to search for more.
Danielle, 2scents, Morah Rach and others who think a doula is just an extra:
A doula is not just instead of mommy there. It also doesn’t mean that the husband isn’t there throughout the entire birth.
You’ll be surprised how many drs don’t care very much about their patients, and put their own time and convenience before the patient’s.
A doula is there to offer her professionalism and knowledge which drs wont bother giving you, to help with special exercises and techniques to make the woman in labor more comfortable, to guide you while in labor still at home, and then in the hospital, and to be there as a support in addition to husband.
Many women, myself included, would never give birth without a doula, for very good reasons.
But since this is a weird discussion here on a board with men included, I don’t think it’s very appropo to discuss at length, especially of OP is just asking for conversation purposes.
I don’t know specifics about this orphanage, but I do know that orphanages definitely exist in Israel, sadly. I know someone who grew up in one of those.
The only thing I don’t share with my husband is if I buy myself some chocolate. Then I’ll buy him his own, because half isn’t enough for me!
Otherwise, we share everything.
Funny you ask, because while people are terrified of mice, bugs are a lot more atrocious to me. They don’t just pop out in a surprise and are gone a second later after scaring you to death, like mice do.
Roaches, especially humongous water bugs, sit on your walls with Chutzpah and crawl around so nauseatingly. Ugh!
As for spraying them, my best insect spray is pure windex. Nothing works better than drowning them in good ol’ windex.
I’m here 4 years but do a lot more reading than posting.
Aaah the good old days…
Oomis, your 5th bday is coming up!
Morahrach, I’m so sorry. I apologize for coming across harsh toward you. I so didn’t mean to. You seem to be a great mother and I can see you don’t want to let him CIO from your post.
My post was directed to mothers in general. The CIO method is becoming so popular. For the one reason that today’s generation doesn’t leave time/patience for their children. We are such a rushed, busy generation, we are losing sight of our priorities.
I’m talking to myself too.
Babies cry. All babies do. That’s what they are supposed to do. It hurts me so that the CIO method is so recommended these days. It sickens me.
Letting a baby CIO is cruel and disgusting. You had a baby, now you have to take care of it forever.
This isn’t to say that his needs need to be attended to at the first whimper. He is allowed to cry a few minutes. you can let them cya little bit for them to realize that mommy won’t come running at the first sound.
Sometimes I just calm them down, walk out of the room, and then I keep coming back in to calm them if the crying persists.
But letting a baby cry for hours is just abusive.
7 months old is very young. My kids all woke up throughout the night until they were about 2-3 years old, when they were old enough to communicate and understand when I speak to them. At that point I’d explain to them that I will ignore their crying during the night. I tell them that if there’s something urgent they need, they can wake me, otherwise it’s time to sleep.
No, it’s not easy to be a mother.
A lot more than I get.
BP girl, they are far from perfect. Some look good, most look fake. They certainly didn’t study the scene in BP well enough. Their details just don’t add up.
Mazel Tov Middlepath!
I hardly post these days, but I still read through the threads daily, and I’m thrilled to this news!
May you have a happy life together full of Mazel and Bracha!
Why can’t you write all LHs you want in your diary, WITHOUT mentioning names. Or change tiny details to ensure that anyone reading it cannot figure out whom youre talking about.
I once had a similar story here.
So I left the PO and went right to the DMV office to make myself a non drivers license which is also valid Photo ID , but it had my married name on it.
I waited a few days to receive the license in the mail, and then rushed right back to the PO to claim my package.
I said my name and asked for my package, the guy said no problem, turned around, and brought out my package!
Not a word mentioned about ID needed! I almost plotzed!
The litvishe- sorry, people have got to learn to spell right, otherwise it shows of some lack in intelligence or education.
The Chassidishe, this isn’t the first error I’ve come across in publications or websites…yeah it irks me…oh well…
Shmoel, schools aren’t a babysitting service, yet they are a business.
And stop talking about salaries. Any rebbe can go become a lawyer if he doesn’t like his current salary.
Mirichtka, I’ve been saying that for years.
My husband works on all those “off” days, yet he manages to build the succah, buy an esrog, help clean for pesach, buy nosh for my kids weekly shabbos party, and he also learns a
couple of hours every day and davens with a minyan 3 times a day.
How does he manage? Wonders!
Rabbeim get too much vacation, sorry if you don’t like to hear that.
A 2 day yom tov turns into a full week yom tov by them with b4 and after.
When shabbos is at 8, my boys are home at 12.
Sundays, they go late and come home early.
Summer vacation is 8 weeks, plus a week before and a week after.
chodesh tishrei they constantly start late and finish early. It almost didn’t pay to send them at all.
Why?
I love my kids dearly, but kids need schedule and routine. Any mother can tell you that. And I don’t think any mother wants to describe how her kids act at the end of a week’s yom tov.
I know 2 siblings who married another pair of siblings, and one of the couples divorced.
Mazel tov Coffee! Lots of Yiddish Nachas!
Goq, I just wanted to say that I like your letter.
I think many people can learn from you.
A shpitzel covers the whole head- with not Sheitel underneath.
A hat is supposed to cover a big part of the sheitel- so only the front and back should be seen. The style now- where the hat barely lies on top of the head, defeats the purpose of wearing one.
WIY, from a woman’s point of view, I can understand what you want, I don’t think you’re asking for something too extreme.
However, I do not believe you can NOT see this about a girl while dating. Even if you date for months.
I can’t see it wrong to ask the girl outright, in a respectful way if she’s this way or the other.
Tell her it’s one of your important requirements. You’re not being shallow here. It’s quite important.
If she’s the way you want, she’ll let you know, otherwise, she’ll fly for her life. No lazy girl wants a husband who wants her to be not lazy.
The Goq- that’s the reason our Rav allows only greenhouse grown.
My Rav says not to eat fresh broccoli as it cannot be checked right. But that doesn’t mean it’s your psak as well. Ask your LOR I guess?
Just as a side point, every single recipe I came across with broccoli, can be substituted for frozen. Maybe try that. I buy the greenhouse grown from Eden and that is all I’m allowed to buy according to this Rav.
Shopping- there’s a like button on many forums I visit. I guess the idea originally comes from Facebook.
Why somebody would want 2 shviggers is beyond me.
Funny, even bridges are in awe of popa….
It was on a Friday when the fox quacked like a duck.
Wiy- your only answer to that is that Hashem instructed man to marry.
You have an obligation.
And yes, marriages can turn out bad, but for most, marriage is beautiful.
Easy? Not always, but most people would never turn back the clock and be single again.
Coffee, you’re saying Sunday is the most convenitent day which makes sense. However, sunday Erev Rosh Hashana would be difficult for a “party” in my home. You gotta be all ready for y”t then.
I guess it’s up to your wife’s preference.
Mazel tov! Upsherins are beautiful!
It depends if you’re planning an event and inviting family, Erev Yom Tov might be a very hard day for that.
How about doing it right b4 the shabbos before Rosh Hashana to avoid the Erev rush?
Marbehshalom- how many wives did you live with that you give such brilliant advice?
Haaaaiiiifa girl? Where are you when we need you?
Funny, I have the same question.
Wiy- I do not recall last year’s amount. But I do know that this year’s goal was one million and they reached well beyond that.
BPT- you can go onto their website bike4chai.com and see the itinerary details. so you’re a biker too. You should give it a try next year! Perhaps the team here in the CR will give a substantial donation 🙂
Na, we’re a bunch of poor family 🙂
He only raised about $4000 but I guess every bit added up to the $1.8 million!
And the fact that last year they had 100 bikers and this year it doubled to 200 says something about the experience!
He literally talks about next year’s trip as soon as the current one is over!
And what if women do take a few weeks vacation in the summer? So they treat themselves to outings. Good for them! What is this interrogation all about?
Mothers work hard enough all year to relax in a different atmosphere for a while.
Anyway, any mother can tell you she’s busier in a bungalow colony. The kids are out about 2 morning hrs and 2 hrs in the afternoon. Versus in the city, the kids are out of the house for about 6 consecutive hours.
Lol, Wolf, we should all learn from your Ehrlichkeit.
BPT, yes he did. They did do 100 miles on day 1, then 60 miles on the second day.
You gotta be a biker and love biking to do such a distance.
My sister’s husband rides up each year. I forgot the numbers already with my bad memory, but I do know it’s an amazing experience that inspires the bikers, their families, and the whole camp.
And Chai Lifeline got $1.8 million in donations 🙂
Shopping, what’s this “silently screaming”?
I’d scream VERY LOUD not caring whatever hour it is.
My Bubby once told me, that she hopes to die before her husband, cuz if she’ll stay alone, who will kill the bugs in her house? 😀
Thanks, Goq, I’m havin a great time here! Great party!
Why doesn’t yourbirthday come around more often than once a year?
Thank you 18. You just said what I was thinking for weeks.
Some poeple think they absolutely have to impose their advice onto others. Here in the CR and IRL.
Oh no, that goes back about 20 years ago! Those were fun to watch!
All jokes aside, when posting on an online forum, you gotta assume every poster is that Popa pic you put up.
One can never know who’s behind those posts, and people don’t seem to realize that enough.
It definitely happened in Croatia and not Zimbabwe.
You know what? Never mind, my feet really hurt.