Now that the group has gathered, what’s the plan ……..

I can relate to being different. But that’s what makes us special 🙂

Hopefully, bezras Hashem you’ll find people who are similar to you and lift you

I heard that we shouldn’t learn on that night because we don’t want to lift his soul

It also breaks my heart. We are a very special family of Yidden.

Worse than antisemitism is fighting each other. At least when others are against us, we have each other and are strong.

It’s also sad when people don’t recognize how special it is to be part of this family. The outside world looks so tempting. But we have something deeper than that. A Divine mission and purpose that connects us to Hashem while bringing light to the world through Torah and Mitzvos. Obviously, we Jews sometimes mess up, and we need to improve our selves. But we can stand back up and go forward. We need to stand together in order to be strong. Like family, we can disagree but still love each other.

There definitely needs to be a respect for fellow Jews. Even if we disagree with others, we can still respect them as fellow Jews. While an MO individual is not As strict, they basically follow the general halachot. One’s anger toward a fellow Jew is No better, since we also should consider bein adam l’chavero. We should be a good example to our children and show them that while we don’t hold by the MO hashkafah, we still respect them as fellow Jews.

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The rebellious teen

Another thing I want to mention is the teen themselves. They are going through a transitional time. They can go from a range of emotions like happy, sad, excited, confused, scared. There is so much they want to do like an independent adult, but they are not yet adults, and so they try to do what they can to express themself. That sometimes comes off as rebellious. But they don’t mean to be misbehave. They just don’t know what to do.

Pushing or pressuring them to do what we want, like davening, will only make go further away.

We want to help them, but we have to do it slowly and patiently. When they need to vent out their thoughts, let them vent, and just listen to them. When they are in a Good mood, talk to them and ask them How You Can Help them with what they need emotionally, academically, spiritually………

Some ideas I got from aish.com/f/p/Teenage-Rebel.html

It helps for people to have positive experiences and so they see and feel the beauty and joy

On the one hand, medicine might help him to be able to focus, which would help with his learning. On the other hand, there are other ways to help him learn without medicine. I personally feel that a natural alternative is better for people. Medicine for focus seems so forceful. But it’s really up to you 🙂 what to do

On the one hand, if the parents find out information like hashkafa of the both of them and their values and goals and other things, then the two already know that and just need to see if they would like to marry each other or not.

On the other hand, it could be that if they meet only a few times and they are Not interested at first, but then start to be interested, they shouldn’t discontinue because of a time limit. They should go out some more and see if they want to go forward.

Also, sometimes people have certain traits that don’t show up until later. Someone might have a temper that you don’t notice until later. So it’s good to see them in different situations to see how they react.

Of course, you don’t really know someone until you are married, but deffinately look out beforehand for good middos in different situations before marrying

http://aish.com http://Torahanytime.com, http://www.breslev.co.il/ and for shemiras halashon, http://chofetzchaim.shemayisrael.com/lesson/lesson2.htm

While medicine can sometimes help with ADD and ADHD, there are drawbacks. I read somewhere that these types of medicines can have a negative side effects both mentally and physically. One article I read mentioned that while the side effects go away, people might become use to the drug and it’s not effective anymore. But if they go off it, the symptoms come back.

I feel that it’s much better to solve the problem. We need to look at the child needs. It could be better nutrition, more exercise, better sleep, etc. Plus, behavioral therapy. This way we help the child both now and in the long run, without negative side effects

How is it coming along? Sometimes things take time, but every effort counts.

True there are many people becoming bt, but that is very little, we are still losing a lot, with both the assimilation of secular Jews and the otd thing with frum Jews. What pains me is that there is answers, people are just not willing to seek different ways. oh well

Something you can try is thinking of the blessings that you have in your life and feeling grateful.

If you don’t understand the words in the siddur, study beforehand the translation so you know what you are saying and it’s more meaningful.

Imagine yourself in a spiritual realm connecting to Hashem

And pray to Him to help you enjoy

on my dates, we just let the conversation flow. Talk about interests like music etc. Or things going on in our life at the moment. Try to learn some things about each other’s family. It’s mainly a time to learn and become familar with each other, our values, interests, general goals. The heavier stuff comes up when you are both ready and feel that you are both leading somewhere