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A rich person has an obligation to give maaser. Anything after that is his or her choice.
I’m tired of people saying “Turn to the rich people!” Guess who we HAVE been turning to? Most communities have the rich people they turn to when the schools need extra money or their shul needs a new roof etc etc etc.
How about the regular people start giving up some of their luxuries? If I were rich, I would look around at the standard of living of even the “poor” people (I’m not talking about the real poor, I’m talking about people who say they can’t pay their bills and still have cleaning help and large cell phone plans and go to the country every summer), and say “Why in the world should I be supporting them? They have excess…
Seriously, people need to get off their high horses on what rich people do with their own money and worry about how well they are spending their own.
Aries, thumbs up.
No tzedaka organizations (or individuals who need tzedaka) have the rights to another person’s money.
<—- pregnant and walking on ice.
My options are walk on the sidewalk which is much more slippery or walk on the street. If I fall on the street, its dark and I’ll get run over.
I know most of the people who don’t shovel or salt. I think I’m going to mention it to them. But it makes for very awkward situations, especially since many of them go to my shul.
DH, I’ve had many people ask my why a high percentage of Lakewood is on government assistance and why they don’t get jobs. So I defend them to the best of my ability (even though I don’t agree with them), but people are usually left flumoxed.
A healthy young man, married and often with a family, relying on government assistance? A healthy young man from a supposedly well brought up family? Expects society to take care of him for no reason?
Like it or not, social services are a charity provided by the American public. People don’t like when segments of society (or even individuals) play the system by not getting jobs to qualify. Its unethical in most people’s minds, even if its legal.
observanteen? Then why aren’t they respected? I respect them the same way I respect others.
observanteen, I think a lot of bachurim assume they deserve kavod, when they in no way qualify over a regular human being. Usually, when someone demands kavod (except when they are in a position of authority that they need to maintain and ther exceptions), they are usually the last person you should be giving it to.
I know what you mean. But that isn’t tangible. That is on an esoteric plain. Please review the meaning to the word tangible.
Kavod,
Kollel today generally means the wife is out of the house working full time. If that’s the case, shouldn’t the husband pitch in more with household responsibilities to make sure his wife can maintain breadwinning status as long as possible without being overburdened with too much housework?
Shlishi,
If that’s true (in a tangible sense), have a man learning in Kollel use his divrei Torah to buy food.
I guess you don’t quite understand the word tangible.
Real-brisker,
The difference is that (presumably) going to college increases your wage potential. You are more likely to contribute to society both in terms of your skills/job availability and tax money.
A person who sits and learns in Kollel does not increase his earning potential or skill set in any way that is tangibly helpful to the American public.
I would faster go for a Rav Kook halachic opinion (even though my Rav disagrees with Rav Kook on many things) than I would Rav Elyashiv.
That doesn’t mean I think Rav Elyashiv is anti-Torah.
And BTW, to your definition of who is Torah observant – no one keeps halacha 100%. So therefore, no one is actually Torah observant. I am sure that isn’t what you meant.
And of course we treat our wives like queens but the way its supposed to be woman doing housework.
If a man is not fulfilling his terms of the ketubah (AKA financial support), why does the housework fall to the woman? I can guarantee that a Prince is likely to take out the garbage before a Queen in all cultures.
I live in Teaneck. The men who work do not just float in, mumble words and then leave. They come, they daven with a lot of kavana, learn when they can, and leave. Perhaps Teaneck is the true Ir hakodesh, not Lakewood? LOL
Kavod, aren’t women supposed to be treated like queens? Queens don’t take out the garbage either.
Kavod Hatorah, what do you mean by “how many balabatim are bney aliyah {and the few that are, its great}”? Most working men I know absolutely are “bnei aliyah”!
If you are smoking (absolutely assur according to rabbonim nowadays to start) are they actually doing Hashem’s will? Learning in and of itself does not make a person deserving of respect if they don’t apply halacha. Otherwise, an apikorus who learns would be deserving of our respect!
And yes, please list rabbonim that matir a man from taking out the garbage.
It is not a rich person’s obligation to support others (after fulfilling maaser of course, although even that is debatable).
If they have the money, why shouldn’t they spend Pesach in a nice place? Why should they stay at home and do all the work themselves? To make you feel better about your lot in life.
Signed,
Someone who has only been to a hotel on Pesach as staff.
Wait, only rich working men deserve respect? Don’t the men and woman who struggle to earn a living and give $18 or $36 or even $1 to help support Torah (and by Torah, I don’t necessarily mean just Kollel) deserve respect?
Sof kol sof, people deserve respect for who they are. I try to assume everyone deserves respect unless they show me otherwise. I don’t know why a Yeshiva bachur moves up in ranks. A gadol? Sure.
Maybe we should afford the hardworking people more respect. The money they earn is what upholds the bachurim’s ability to learn by supporting them.
Just saw that someone was worried about brussel sprouts and I didn’t answer. We use bodek brussel sprouts and they are awesome.
Feel free not to use them. But we do and there is nothing halachically wrong with that.
Mod88, how true, especially because some name sites list Caleb as possibly meaning dog in Hebrew. Um, no.
Yossi, AYLOR. I was told giving to poor non-Jews is maaser. At least directly to the person – I have no idea if non-Jewish organizations would count or not count.
Interesting.
Does that mean YWN beleives Twitter is a good network?
I’m not on it.
Get a job. Work as many house as you can.
If that won’t be enough to cover the ticket by the time you need to buy, find a friend or relative who will loan you the money. Then continue working as hard as you can until you pay off every dime.
Wolf, that’s just because his wife is invisible 🙂
Its not tzanua to post pictures of women on the web.
Do people use onlysimchas anymore? Isn’t that so 1999?
RB, Health enjoys skewing what posters say and not really being factual all the time. I’ve given up and recommend you do the same. Sanity is well worth it.
I’ve had excellent dealings with Columbia, as has my family. This includes heart transplant, aortic valve replacements, cancer surgery/recovery, broken bones, neurological testing, pregnancy issues, birth, and plenty more that I am sure I am forgetting.
My only complaint was that they didn’t have any place for family to stay over – they kicked them out of the waiting room. My husband, mother and sister had to sit in the bikur cholim room all night long…[Shout out to the wonderful Satmar Bikur Cholim for providing amazing food and space for Shabbos!]
But for patients? Its top notch
I know a Zevulun. My son’s middle name is Dan.
I know a few Elyasaf’s, Elyashivs and one Yochai.
I recommend not giving your child a popular name. My sister’s name is Chani and she was one of 9 in her class. 9! Made it hard and confusing especially because most were really good friends.
WADR to R’ Chaim Kanievsky, I’ll keep my name.
Perhaps if you are going on a date as a chesed to the girl…
Why in the world can this be maaser money?
Attraction is an important part of marriage. Certain people find different traits attractive – height, weight, hair color, eye color…I’m human, so sue me.
Height was not my only criteria. In fact, I met my husband on my own, so I didn’t actively reject anyone who was short. My husband is a true baal middos. He is an extremely wonderful, frum person.
I didn’t realize I was supposed to find all Torah giants attractive. I thought I was meant to find my husband attractive.
Also, google Jewish Alliance for Women in Science. It was started by a frum woman and is a great resource.
miritchka, my sister is deaf (not hard of hearing) but doesn’t sign. She has not had a cochlear implant. She married a wonderful, 100% hearing boy who is a great catch. Your daughter will find a wonderful husband IYH.
The better question is what is a woman doing outside? 😛
To be serious, are women halachically allowed to ride horses?
Health, this is my last post on this issue.
I didn’t say medical negligence caused my grandmother’s death. I said that being in the hospital increases the risk of c. diff in many elderly patients, my grandmother included.
I did NOT blame medical negligence. My entire point in that thread was hospitals are not these clean, perfect places and home births have their own unique set of risks, as do hospitals.
Stop trying to twist my words.
Apologies to the OP.
Health,
I didn’t say doctors killed my grandmother. I said my grandmother contracted c. diff while in the hospital. I do not blame my grandmothers doctors for her death.
You however have been trying to twist my words from day one. Thank you to the mods for editing whatever drivel you were trying push through.
toomuch00, AP is an advance placement exam. If you don’t know what they are, chances are your school doesn’t offer them.
You can volunteer at many clinics without any problem (you may need working papers and/or parental consent). Call up your local ambulance and see if they take volunteers. You won’t be doing the “exciting” stuff like administering care – you will likely be doing errands and paperwork. But it is great resume building and good for seeing if the work is for you. You generally don’t need experience.
You can also look into taking first aid, CPR, and possibly EMT certification (you may need to be 18 for that, but I’m not sure).
From talking to a few PAs, it doesn’t sound worth it to me, but definitely do your own research. A PA is neither here nor there and many people don’t trust them as much.
Sac, I’m short. If a guy is my height, he is practically literally half a man.
if I visit LA, I tell people I’m from out of town. I’m not from there.
If you are in the NY area, then yes, they are in town and you are out of town. If people are talking NYers to NYers, then can still use in-town/out of town terminology.
Health, that is the worst advice ever.
OP, a few of my friends went to medical school and are in the process of becoming doctors. My cousin is finishing her residency now.
My suggestion: volunteer at a clinic or as an EMT on an ambulance to get some experience in the medical field. See if you really enjoy the work.
Also, does your school offer AP exams? Consider taking AP Bio and AP Chem if they do to help move you along in school.
Additionally, if you are truly serious about this, consider going to YU/Stern for undergrade and Einstein for Medical School. There are amazing scholarships for Stern graduates and Einstein (its almost full tuition).
Becoming a doctor takes a lot of hard work and dedication getting off the ground. Its serious work. Its also extremely rewarding.
Hatzlacha!
No.
Attraction is a part of marriage.
I find short men “half-men” – I can’t help it. I know plenty of short, wonderful men, but I could never have married one of them.
Cherrybim, except that I know women who have gotten heterim!
My sister however, did not get a heter from a very left leaning MO Rabbi.
When people call me MO, I wear the label proudly, even if they think its an insult.
Cherrybim, I know a few people who have gotten heterim. I don’t feel comfortable posting their rabbonim though, because I did not get the heter.
“Would you?”
I know people who don’t wear jeans because they don’t own a pair and wouldn’t bother investing in a pair because they wouldn’t wear it enough. But they aren’t against wearing them and if given a pair, they would.
Itche, I never realized singing adon olam was MO. I’ve heard singing Anim Zemiros is though…which I thought was odd too. I didn’t realize tefila was MO.