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Australia.
The scenery is unprecedented. I even got to hold a koala. Expensive, but worth every penny!
Health, my MO friends insist their kids call me Mrs. How is this a “frum” thing.
Growing up, I called my friends parents by their first names. Even my yeshivish friends.
I don’t claim to represent anyone but myself.
Charliehall, in my high school (Bruriah), Arabic was an option (I took it for 1 year).
Mod80, but they wouldn’t let me have my kids call them by their first name. IMO, that’s my version of chinuch. I don’t think calling someone Mr so and so really teaches any form of respect. So why is it a one way street?
Mod80, I agree with that statement 100%!
I hate when people try to call me Mrs. SJS. I vastly prefer to be called by my first name. I hate when people insist their kids call me Mrs. SJS. Its my name, shouldnt MY preference be primary?
With people like that, I usually compromise on calling me Ms. Shira.
How can you say yiddish is a clean language? There are excellent curses in Yiddish…there are words for everything. Its a regularly used language.
Yeshivish is NOT a language. Its much less of a language than ebonics anyway.
I buy them for my nieces when they turned 4 because I always wanted one as a child, but would never ask my mother to spend $89 on a doll! But for my nieces, I can splurge.
real-brisker, if you have the ability to learn in the Aramaic and just reference the Artscroll when you are having difficulty, that is definitely preferable.
That’s really true of any “literature” (and no, I am not really comparing Torah to regular literature) – its best read in its original language to avoid mistranslations and misunderstandings. But I wouldn’t read Dante’s Inferno in Italian because I am not fluent enough to grasp it, likewise, a person who can’t learn gemara in Aramaic without misunderstanding it should use whatever aids he can.
Don’t count schar really…count the effort you put in to truly learn something.
Sometimes I wonder how some people on this forum are married.
I’m with Popa.
Sacrilege,
Its not assur 🙂 But its not a prerequisite to seeing a happy marriage from your parents. You can see love in your parents in many ways, much more than an empty “I love you” that lacks true meaning.
Arranged marriages in pre-school? That would solve the shidduch crisis too.
I honestly wonder how we let brothers and sisters live in the same house. It can spiral down to the girl meeting her brothers friend accidentally for a moment and…a marriage may occur.
Shouldn’t be here, that was my point. You did experience their affection.
Sacrilege, there are ways to show your spouse love and affection without being physical in front of others. Its dependant on the people and their relationships.
Is there any more amaylus/hurivanya (schar) by learning from a hebrew artscroll gemorah, rather than an english one?
By asking this question, and the subsequent answers, its saying if you learn from an english Artscroll, you are not getting as much schar.
Now granted, if you are using it as a tool to be lazy, you are probably NOT getting as much schar as someone toiling over it. But you can toil over the english text (slightly differently) than the aramaic.
We don’t judge how much schar a person gets from learning either way.
I would also gather that the English artscroll editions have helped many, many more people pick up a gemara. Many people don’t have the skills, even after attending yeshiva and this gives them a venue to study gemara.
Posts like these show how far our society has sunk. We take someone who wants to learn and for whatever reason can’t use the aramaic version by itself (doesn’t know enough aramaic, afraid of misunderstanding or various other reasons). Now we chastise him as “eh its not real learning” or “he gets less schar.” I’m not keeping score, but I would think sincere learning is more important than learning in Aramaic.
I’m glad my Rav agrees.
Affection doesn’t have to mean literal physical affection. Seeing your parents treat each other nicely, with respect and enjoying each other is seeing affection. There are plenty of ways to show this.
Shouldntbehere, I bet if you thought about it, you would realize your parents showed plenty of affection.
Health,
I have basic cable (I get it for sports and cooking shows). But in order to get pornographic channels, you have to pay for it. In all my time of TV surfing, I have NEVER come across pornography on TV. Those channels are “premium” channels and you have to specifically pay for them.
Unless someone knows about channels I don’t?
So right just called me frummer. I guess my opinion counts more now.
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Ofcourse, I have a different experience. I know quite a few men OTD who went off in their mid to late 20s.
Just because a man can get a lot of dates, doesn’t mean he can find the right spouse.
This is an interesting post considering IME more single men go OTD than single women.
Oomis, I think its a generational thing.
We ALWAYS open doors for our grandparents, no matter what. It wouldn’t occur to me (or DH really) to open for either of our parents, unless there was a reason to (hands are full, dirty, or something else). This is probably a product of growing up with automatic locks in cars – its no longer a huge deal.
I would automatically hold the door open for someone to let them through – anyone really. I think that’s more common courtesy than anything. And I expect others to do so as well, without turning them into a pretzel.
This story happens all the time. Its a nice story, but not a “Wow, that’s amazing” kind of story.
We don’t do date night per se right now because the kids are young enough that we do “date night at home.”
When they get older and we need to find more “us” time, we’ll start going out again. Its also hard with little kids sometimes and being pregnant.
Honestly, this is something that wasn’t a big deal to me. I don’t remember if my husband opened the door for me or not while we were dating. But I do expect him to open the door for me if my hands are full, and obviously vice versa.
I do think if its important to your spouse, you should do it, even if you don’t think its a big deal. This goes both ways.
dunno, so right is usually so wrong.
Health, sure, a TV is easier. But I know a lot of people who say “I would never have a TV in my house” and keep up with the latest shows on their computer. And watch a ton of things. And waste plenty of time.
Its also a lot easier to fall into the trap of watching pornography on the internet rather than a TV. You need to pay specifically for pornographic services on TV, but you can get a multitude of free stuff on the internet.
There are plenty of reasons to keep TV out of your home. I’m not knocking that. But if you have unfiltered internet access, you effectively have a TV in your home, whether you call it that or not.
Wolf, its excellent.
GAW, its well worth it. I’m in middle of rereading it.
How many roads must a man walk down? 42.
BP Totty,
To be honest, I think computers (especially unfiltered) are much worse. Both in time and content.
If your internet is filtered and you can’t access TV shows, then yes, you don’t have a TV. If you do have unfiltered access, then you have a TV. Whether or not you choose to use it.
There are plenty of times we go weeks without turning on our TV.
Facebook is a tool. I don’t friend people I don’t know.
Its possible to use Facebook improperly. Its possible to use it properly.
Be aware if your child says “I’ll friend you” they can still block you from seeing a lot. So if you let them have it, make sure you have access to the password.
Another consideration is that if you say no, they may do it behind your back. Some family kids did that and lets just say…they didn’t use facebook properly. Their parents just dug their head into the sand and ignored the internet and their kids using it for a long time. Luckily, they grew up and have outgrown most of that.
Brings me back to an interesting discussion we had here once…about how women should open the doors for men because men shouldn’t walk through behind women. Ah those were the days!
At work, our front doors are HEAVY. When I’m pregnant, I always ask people to help me (men or women). Those doors are a strain even when I am not pregnant and I am no lightweight!
Yes.
If you have unfiltered internet access, you have television access.
I agree with Popa. No need to get up unless there is a reason to.
If I need a seat on the subway for some reason (like I feel sick or I’m pregnant and am having trouble standing), I politely ask a group of people. One usually gives me a seat.
When I was in College, I got a call from an organization. I explained I was currently in college and not earning money so I didn’t have anything to give. They really strong-armed me and made me feel guilry and I promised them $18. It wasn’t my money to give (I was being supported by my family at that time) and I had to ask my mother for the money.
I didn’t feel good about donating the money. The organization gave me such a bad feeling that I no longer donate to them.
Popa, there is nothing wrong with a man wanting an attractive wife. Nor is there something wrong with a woman wanting an attractive husband.
There is something wrong when its the primary importance to the person. I know a man who is now in his 40s. A decent looking guy with a decent job. Interesting, fairly funny…a good catch. BUT. When you asked him what he was looking for, his list was preposterous. He wanted someone tall, thin, but athletic thin but not too muscular, preferably a natural blond woman with light eyes….his list went on and on. He never even got to the part about what she should be like.
That’s wrong.
My son had about 12 ear infections in his short life (he got tubes at 14 months). Antibiotics didn’t work on most of his ear infections (not all are bacterial). Chiropractic care didn’t clear up the problem and neither did dairy removal.
Our ENT (not an alarmist) recommended them. My son starting balancing much better by the next day.
A few notes about the procedure: if the person who goes with your child to surgery is pregnant, they are not allowed in with the child when anastesia is being applied.
If the child’s mother is still nursing, its best to continue at least until after surgery. When my son came out of surgery, he woke up out of sorts and crying, and I nursed him for about an hour and he felt much better.
It was a tough decision, but I’m glad we ultimately did it.
People who support hitting children nowadays make me vomit.
Popa, on most things I don’t care at all.
I’m around.
The awful attitude of the agunah thread really makes me question my involvement here.
Hair is subjectively erva. Meaning, her own hair once she is married is erva. Other hair is NOT erva.
A woman’s body is erva. At all times of her adult life.
chesedname, by your own (false) logic, you must be female.