Sister Bear

To do the 5 year plan before getting annoyed…basically if something upsetting happens you say will this matter in 5 min, 5 days, 5 weeks, 5 moths, 5 years and if the answer to any of those is no then don’t blow up about it. Wish me luck!!!!!!

Especially when I wear green socks 🙂

(: ?????? ???? o? bu?????os ?o s??? p??? o? s????p?s p??? ?no? p?u?n? no? ???? s?? ?? ?nq sp?o? ???x? ??? ?ob?o? ? ‘????s-? ? ?o ?? spu???? (: s?sod ?s??? p??? o? u?op ?p?sdn p??? ?? bu?u?n? ???? ?,? bu??ouu? os s,?? ‘du

You cannot imagine how annoying it is to moderate this thread. We deserve an extra upside down thank you today. -95

It’s a thing, I wouldn’t give anyone my password to my computer, email….and if I did because I needed them to do something for me or they really really need my computer or something then I’ll change the password the second that I get back on.

It’s nothing to do with a trust thing. It’s more of a privacy thing. I don’t want people to have the liberty to be able to go through my computer/emails without me knowing not because I’m trying to hide something.

You say vus machst ah yid and when he replies geloibt is der aibershter you know your child is in good hands.

Not necessarily does every frum person speak Yiddish. I for one would stare at you blankly, not necessarily a good litmus test.

At least I’m not the only one…I just have one site that sends me all these things so I created a filter to send it to spam (didn’t really work) and then every time I got one in my inbox I clicked mark as spam and deleted. Now I don’t get anything.

Rav Nosson Weisz wrote an article about how do deal with a tragedy. I got it from aish.com it’s Parshas Chukas under advanced and Mayanot – the title “The Tragedy of Tragedy” here’s a part that I think deals with how to deal with this horrific tragedy:

CAUSE OF INNOCENT DEATHS

Rav Dessler in his eulogy of the Chazon Ish expressed a thought that can be applied as an approach to this problem. When a believer in Divine Providence is witness to a tragedy in which innocent victims lose their lives, his reaction should inspire him to follow a certain train of logic:

Step 1: The people who died were deserving of life at least as much as I, if not more. I believe that God runs the world and that He is just. It follows, therefore, that if they suffered such tragic untimely deaths — and I am no better or more deserving than they — that I should also have suffered a similar fate. But I know that I have committed no crime that deserves such severe punishment. Logic therefore dictates that they did not die as a punishment for their sins. But if so where is Divine Justice?

Step 2: As the victims did not lose their lives to atone for their personal sins, and yet as God is just, they must have suffered justly, therefore, it follows that their deaths are an indication that there is something seriously wrong with my society. My society must be infected with the disease of unjustifiable cruelty toward some of its members. I know that the punishments of God are “measure for measure.” In a world run by God, a society that is functioning as it ought, would be protected from senseless evil. Senseless evil that occurs in the outside world is a certain indication that we the Jewish people are practicing senseless evil against each other.

Step 3: It follows that God allowed this tragic event to take place in order to shock us out of our complacency. We should, therefore, assemble for an introspection session and attempt to identify the areas in which we are failing in the fulfillment of our obligations to our fellow Jews and in the observance of our duty towards God.

Step 4: If we do this, than the people who died in the tragedy will not have died in vain. On the other hand, if we remain in our state of complacent slumber, it is we who are responsible for turning their deaths into pointless tragedies, and it is we who will be held responsible for the human waste.

Step 5: This means that we should not focus the brunt of our attention on the natural causes of the tragedy. Every event that occurs in our world even one that is Divinely ordained has some natural cause. We do not live in a world of miracles. When the building collapses it was obviously structurally weak. But it doesn’t follow that the structural weakness was the ultimate cause of the deaths of the victims. God has an infinite number of methods at His disposal, none of them miraculous to insure that weak buildings collapse without harming anyone. No scientific test ever devised could possibly determine that the building had to collapse precisely when it did collapse. The most brilliant engineers would not have been shocked had the floor managed to hold up under pressure through the night or only developed a large crack instead of collapsing outright.

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WHO CAUSED THE TRAGEDY?

Therefore, to focus our attention exclusively on the owners, engineers and licensing authorities as though they were entirely responsible for the tragedy is the ultimate form of cruelty. They may have caused the collapse. God brought on the tragedy. (See Maimonides, “Laws of Fasting,” Chapter 1.)

How can the rest of us go on about our business as usual, satisfied that we have discovered the culprits and solved the problem, expecting to live peacefully on as though nothing had happened?

Such expectations border on heresy. For if I am allowed to live on in peace, and I am no better than the people who perished, than their deaths were totally senseless. Thus I am really saying that God is indifferent to what happens in the world and He doesn’t give a hoot when the innocent suffer. I avoided their fate purely by chance. It was blind luck that placed the victims there at the wrong place and the wrong time. Such a thought must be rejected as anathema as soon as it enters the mind of a true believer.

How can a believer possibly entertain the notion that God allowed a senseless tragedy to afflict His children?

The thought that God works in mysterious ways and we cannot penetrate the workings of Divine Justice, while no doubt perfectly true, is not much better in this case. How can a believer possibly entertain the notion that God allowed a shocking tragedy to afflict His children, the Jewish people, without specifically intending to shock them? Was He asleep?

Therefore, my expectation of a continued peaceful life can only be termed an empty fantasy. The only reason I did not perish along with the victims is because God took mercy on me. I had better wake up and do something.

The cruelty to which Maimonides refers (in Laws of Fasting, chapter 1) is as obvious as it is enormous. If tragedies are indeed warnings, when they are ignored, it is obvious that the need for further warnings has hardly been eliminated. On the contrary, if small tragedies are insufficient to wake us up, greater tragedies are obviously called for.

The ignorance of Divine warnings causes the appearance of an even greater danger on the horizon of Providence, the reaching of the point of no hope, when God abandons His attempts to arouse us from the smugness of our slumbers as beyond His reach. If that time ever arrives, then God forbid, another policy entirely comes into effect, the policy of destruction.

God stated in the clearest terms that He isn’t interested in supporting pointless existence. It was evening it was morning the sixth day (Genesis 1:31) Rashi states regarding this passage: God stipulated, “If Israel accepts the Torah on the sixth day of Sivan, then I am willing to have a world. If not, I see no point in it.”

There is little difference between non-acceptance and non- compliance. A Jewish society that does not concern itself with the purpose of life and focuses the bulk of its energy on maximizing the quality of life in this world — while abandoning spiritual concerns by the wayside and entrusting fellow Jews to the tender mercy of uncaring governments — is a Jewish society that is going nowhere fast. Such a Jewish society is in danger of facing very great tragedies which involve mass annihilation. It is infinitely preferable to heed God’s warnings and wake up.

123bubby – ahhhhhh jealous I wish I could sleep in that much for school 🙂 (its an extra couple of hours of sleep that you get)

a mamin – whenever there’s a mod around?

Spirit Air, if you join the $9 club you can get really good deals. We got tickets to Detroit for $50 (that was round trip, including taxes and everything). Good luck!!

There is a good book called “Raising a Spirited Child” that explains introverts and extroverts really well.

The difference between them is where they get their energy from. Meaning, after a long day at school an introvert needs to be by themselves so they could have energy to be able to be by themselves and therefore will go to their room to recharge, it doesn’t mean that they’re “in a shell”; while extroverts get their energy from people so after a long day at school they will tell you everything that happened.

Also extroverts think through problems aloud while introverts think through a problem quietly.

It’s not bad or good, their just DIFFERENT

the brainy guy will get a high powered, high paying job, bringing in boatloads of cash. what good will the social skills do?

Help you become the president 🙂 if you’re good with people and charismatic…

Seriously though, if you’re popular, in general it means that you have good middos because people don’t like hanging out with nasty people (I’m totally generalizing here). Now I’m not saying that if you’re smart you don’t have good middos I’m just focusing on popular. So I’d rather be popular than smart because books aren’t going to be there when you’re down and going through something difficult in life, like friends will.

And for those that said that friends come and go, true but there is nothing like a lifelong friend.

lol sorry Sender Av, so what is considered “THE SOUTH”

There is this organization called IBDSF (their website is ibdsf.com) and it’s a support foundation for people with Crohn’s and Colitis. Although I don’t, thank G-d have Crohn’s or Colitis, I know people who are part of the organization and it’s really good. They also do Support Groups for kids.

Me!!!!!!! If I can get there in time 🙂

heres my favorite one of the yetzer harah:

Letter of Truth:

To my star pupil,

I am writing this letter to let you know what I think of you. Up here in heaven things are not like they are down on Earth. Over there, people only know what they can see. If they see a person is “successful”, they think that he is the greatest guy. When they see somebody struggling, they think he might be one of the weaker elements.

Let me tell you something. Hashem gives every person certain abilities that nobody knows about down where you live. Some people are capable of tremendous things, while others were put there for much smaller purposes. Only Hashem in His infinite wisdom is able to give every person exactly what he needs, to reach his potential.

I am very misunderstood. Most people hate me, and I don’t really blame them. Most people think that my job is to make sure that they fail in all aspects of Mitzvos, and that I rejoice every time they sin. This is the furthest thing from the truth. Did you ever watch a boxing coach train his student? It is really a funny sight. The coach will put on gloves, and fight against his student. At first, he won’t hit him so hard, or throw his best punches. But, as the student gets better and better, the coach will start to fight him harder and harder. He does this so that the student will improve his skills, and become the best boxer he can be. This is where it gets strange. Every time the coach knocks down the student, the student gets yelled at!! But finally, when the coach threw everything he has at his student, and not only does he withstand the beating, but he knocks the coach down, there is nobody in the world happier then the coach himself!

This is exactly how I feel. If you fail right away, and don’t even try to fight back, I see that there is not much talent to work with, and so I take it easy on you. But if you get back up swinging, I realize that I may have a real winner here, and so I start to intensify the beating. With every level that you go up, I increase the intensity of the fight. If you finally deal me a blow that knocks me out, I will get up and embrace you and rejoice with your success.

Sometimes my job is very disappointing I see a person with a lot of potential and I start right in on him. He fights back for a while, but when the fight gets too tough, he quits and just remains on whatever level he was on. (And he usually ends up going down!) I feel like yelling at him, “Get up you fool! Do you have any idea how much more you could be accomplishing?!” But I am not allowed to do so. I just leave him alone, and go try to find another promising candidate.

If I have chosen you to be the target of my more fierce battles, it was not for no reason! You have tremendous ability! You were born into a very special family, you have Rabbeim who really care about you, and parents who would help you grow in Torah and Mitzvos. You are a very respectful and kind person.

Always remember one thing: you have a secret weapon at your disposal. I shouldn’t really be telling you – but I will anyway. Hashem himself is watching our “training” sessions very closely. I’m pleased to inform you that He’s rooting for you! If things should ever get tough, almost too tough to bear, just callout to Him with a prayer, and He will immediately come to your aid. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that after 120 years when your time is up in that world of falsehood, you will come up here to the world of truth, where I will be waiting for you with open arms, to congratulate you on your victory, and personally escort you to your place next to the Kisey HaKavod.

Sincerely, and with great admiration I remain,

Your Yetzer Harah

what’s yours?

And how does that say anything about the person?

I’ve had pictures of snow, a t-shirt that said “sorry babe i’m shomer”, a picture of my sister, a picture of the beach…what does that say about me?

Sorry to say but this thread makes me sick.

Call up the one in your neighborhood and tell them you want to join. They’ll take it from there.

of course – Rabbi Goldwasser is awesome!!!!! He’s not “my Rav” (like my families Rav) but I would feel comfortable asking him anything (and I’m not one of those people who become BFF’s with teachers and all.)

please do not start writing code (computer code). It’s gonna take away whatever present happiness that I have. 🙂

A lot of my friends went/go there. Its a great camp. Looks like a lot of fun. The girls (at least my friends are) good girls who come from solid frum homes.

I always do it!!!!!!! (My father HATES it!!!!) Because I have no idea how to express whatever I want to say. When I write though, I NEVER put in like, um, whatever…

Most BTs do not blend perfectly into the FFB world. Their backgrounds are different, and it shows.

Not necessarily true. I know a lot of BT’s that nobody would ever guess that are BT and they are perfectly fine, respectable people among the very yeshivish and FFB’s.