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  • February 6, 2013 2:24 am at 2:24 am in reply to: Touro 23rd Street #930760
    singleme
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    It depends on the girl if you just go in and out of class-no socializing it’s not a real issue. also depends on what type of guys your dating (If it’s solely to go to class-not a big deal in my opinion but if your going to touro why not go to touro thats separate?-if that’s a concern)

    January 3, 2013 9:34 pm at 9:34 pm in reply to: Another dating question??? #920389
    singleme
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    as a single girl (who’s actively involved in kiruv with girls who are constantly in relationships) I see shomer as a basic requirement to a long lasting relationship–leading to marriage….I heard something very powerful when I was 15 and I use it whenever girls ask me questions about their personal relationships(which mostly are non-shomer)it goes as follows the guy you’ll marry is going to give you a completely whole ring, when you’re dating and get close to the guy but not commited to…you loose chips of that diamond b/c your giving of yourself to somoeone who’s not yours/commited/married to you… Shomer is making sure your whole and not fragmented along with every guy you date…

    January 2, 2013 12:44 am at 12:44 am in reply to: Dating/marriage question, Am I realistic…? #917474
    singleme
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    because of all the opportunities and shuirim available specifically for ladies…anyone who wants can take advantage of them…most girls who went to seminary/and HS are encouraged to continue learning afterwards…It will come across if a girl is interasted in growing and learning…with regards to once someone’s married with a family it’s much harder to get out and go unless they have a babysitter–but a book/sefer/online shiur is a great alternative…

    December 28, 2012 3:31 am at 3:31 am in reply to: Working and Learning #916724
    singleme
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    thanks that sounds reasonable…are there other yeshivas that allow college as well?

    December 26, 2012 2:57 pm at 2:57 pm in reply to: Working and Learning #916718
    singleme
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    just as an aside after “3-4 years” with IY”H having a family,maternity leave And running back to work b/c otherwise we’ll be poor)

    How is it possible for a guy to just pick up and get a successful career after they have no work experience (and college) unless it’s a family business it doesn’t make sense

    BTW I don’t agree with the notion of using govr’t aid to provide –it’s not ehrlich! if you do it without good but leave the govr’t money for really poor unemployed people..

    December 26, 2012 3:34 am at 3:34 am in reply to: Working and Learning #916713
    singleme
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    Fine, So what if I don’t feel obligated to support my husband b/c I plan on having a family and devoting time to them IY”H.?

    If I’d work full time as I do now…. well ya, I’ll be able to support (prob. wont be able to afford much)

    Am I crazy for wanting to raise a normal family and have a p/t job to Supplement the income??

    Why is it so uncommon?

    December 26, 2012 1:10 am at 1:10 am in reply to: Working and Learning #916708
    singleme
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    so it seems noone knows where they exist? A regular daily shiur/seder going guy (after or before work)

    So many pples fathers do it like you mentioned not so many(if any) in the single guys attend.

    Why is that??

    Has it become the norm if your working youre working and if youre learning youre just learning???

    December 25, 2012 2:36 pm at 2:36 pm in reply to: Working and Learning #916705
    singleme
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    Back to the original question:

    Who deals with the type?

    —it’s not even a type per se’ it’s the direction and strength in Yiddishkiet that makes them both successful professionally and keeping up in their learning..

    December 24, 2012 9:06 pm at 9:06 pm in reply to: Working and Learning #916701
    singleme
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    BTW I don’t really care if he’s black hat yeshivish or any other label you tend to put on the “type” but even without all that the guys seem to be tooo career oriented and arent as into yiddishkeit as I’d like

    I go for YU too b/c they’re also sincere but the one’s who are learned want to go into chinuch or rabbanus it’s a no-win situation If you know of a shadchan who knows the type thats great

    Age wise it gets worse as they get older—less and less yeshiva oriented and more secular

    December 24, 2012 3:32 am at 3:32 am in reply to: Working and Learning #916676
    singleme
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    funny you mention YU I’d be open to it but they wouldn’t consider me (on paper our backgrounds don’t match up)

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