Shtika

Monseymom read the post again, he was answering Joseph not you

I’d go back to the times of the Gra and Baal Hatanya and try to bring shalom between them… or at least hear them debate who’s right ion the inyan of tzimzum

I’ve been trying to move to Baltimore for some time. I think it’s very similar to Lakewood, just not too yeshivish

Kitov, just the opposite, in order to avoid a wife that you describe, you better make sure she’s your best friend.
I never understood that chazal. What does it mean if he is zoche-then she’s an ezer, does it mean if he gets lucky? Or is he deserves it? That can’t be cause the gemora says first shiduch is based on mazal and only second on maasim

a friend is someone who you connect with, in whatever area it might be, based on common interests. The more interests, the better connection the better the friendship. I do believe that the wife has to be a very good friend. Otherwise it’s not a deep relationship. There’s a great book called The river, the kettle and the bird. The lowest level of a martial life is like a river between 2 countries ..i do for you, you do for me. The next level is the kettle where 2 opposite forces (water and fire) come together for a common goal.. In this case to boil the water. But the ultimate level is the bird, when all aspects of life (walking, flying, eating of the bird) are like part of one unit, like the bird itself.

I’m sorry but some of my best friends are modern.. It’s just easier that way. I try not to judge them, but as they say themselves “you got to live according to the times” which includes watching movies with pritzus, having mixed get togethers on Friday night, etc. It’s everyone else who missed the point. NOBODY CAN EVER DISPROVE ANYONE ELSE’S BEHAVIOR cause as Rav Dessler writes “everyone wants to feel good about themselves, and recognizing one’s faults would be saying to a person with not healthy self esteem, that he not good.” it’s just too painful. SO PLEASE EVERYONE STOP WASTING YOUR TIME, YOU WON’T CHANGE ANYTHING

INCREASE THE SHLEPPING IN THE SHUL!
I can’t believe it.. Instead of blaming everyone else, why don’t we try to really understand the basics. I’m not talking about chasidim harishonim that took 1 hour to prepare for davening, and 1 hour after, nobody is on that madrega obviously. But we do have to strive to improve our davening just like we need to improve our learning and middos. But even without that, what about basic mentshlechkeit. I daven in a minyan that goes for at least 3 hours on shabbos and nobody out of 200+people complain that it’s too slow and almost nobody talks during davening.
For all you out there who feel davening is what you must do, so then a shul is just a place to be yotzi Zain, where you come and check off that you davened, well guess what, you didn’t. You just came and speed-red the words and left. No wonder you try to shave off time from davening. Instead of complaining like, get a sefer that explains davening and learn it when you’re waiting for everyone else to finish.

Wouldn’t being allowed to marry many wives solve the shiduch crisis.. i mean rabbeinu Gershons takkanah ended not too long ago, so maybe it’s Hashems way of trying to increase the Jewish population? Chazal say that Moshiach isn’t going to come untill all the souls are brought down to this world. I heard in recently that the Jewish people reaccepted the Takkana but honestly i don’t know what that means