shtarky

Forum Replies Created

Viewing 18 posts - 1 through 18 (of 18 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • in reply to: seminary #742856
    shtarky
    Member

    on the contrary, how much greater such a girl is, that she didnt feel it necissary to blow 20 grand of her parents much needed money on her spending 9 months in israel partying. that such a girl, even though “everyone” else was going had her priorities straight and realised it was unnecissary. i think to stop a shidduch from such a girl would be a real pity and loss on ur part for a girl who sees things with reality in mind.

    in reply to: The Math of the Age Gap #723767
    shtarky
    Member

    az. the people sitting around in the coffee room arent solving this “crisis” their just getting people worked up over it. yes we have doctors who a messengers of Hashem to heal people and specialist who are messengers of Hashem who help people have children and we have Shadchanim who are messengers of Hashem who make shidduchim. but all these things are from hashem, why dont you sit around a whole day and worry about not enough doctors for sick paitents???? because you know its out of your control, so is all these numbers, if you want to actually help these people and be a shadchan go ahead, if not leave it to the ultimate shadchan-Hashem

    in reply to: The Math of the Age Gap #723758
    shtarky
    Member

    its really funny how people are always trying to figure out the numbers and ratios of boys to girls and how “we” can solve the “crisis”. Hashem determined a zivug for every person and an age at which this person will meet theri zivug. stop worrying about all the numbers all you need is one and dont worry hashem will help you and make sure that happens. dont stop girls from finding their zivug at the right time because their are older girls still single. Hashem has a cheshbon for everyone and instead of sitting a whole day tring to figure out numbers all you should be doing is BELIEVING. Hashem has never let us down till now dont think he will now.

    in reply to: Staying in Beis Medrash vs. Getting a Degree #699511
    shtarky
    Member

    d9, being a baal teshuva yourself you probaly understand the desire for more torah and learning and their is no reason for you to discorage their will to learn. as they correctly said, parnassah is all in the hands of the abishter and if they are learning torah for hashem, parnassah isnt a fear. every parent davens for their children to be talmedei chachamim but many along the way discorage it way to much so please allow them to remain in yeshiva as long as they like and leave the parnassah up to hashem, believe me He knows how to run the world.

    in reply to: Chol Hamoed Concerts #897260
    shtarky
    Member

    wow it mamash is a hard choice

    in reply to: Chol Hamoed Concerts #897257
    shtarky
    Member

    please post some of these concerts, i am intersted in going to them. thanks!!

    in reply to: Sibling Rivalry: How to get them to stop fighting #652770
    shtarky
    Member

    of course that was what i meant dont be biased . everyone has favorites but dont show it and if you dont act on your favoritism after time it will pass

    in reply to: Tipping At Day Camp #657785
    shtarky
    Member

    forsure write a nice note but the counslers need the money cuz the camp really doesnt pay well. it is not that much and you dont have to give the exact emount but u most definitly should give them some money

    in reply to: Sibling Rivalry: How to get them to stop fighting #652767
    shtarky
    Member

    my take on this matter is to elimante things that would cause a child to be jealus of the other. a parent has to be careful to treat each child equally while mantaining a special bond with each one. its hard but fighting shouldnt be something a child is exposed to. its not a concept they should know. if they arent exposed to it a young age than they wont fight as they get older.

    in reply to: What Will Become Of All The Memories? #817831
    shtarky
    Member

    wow feif un that is beatiful story.

    in reply to: Soups, Soups and more Soups #884965
    shtarky
    Member

    i desperatly need a good cholent recipe. any ideas???

    in reply to: Mazel Tov! #1223057
    shtarky
    Member

    now I know why my sister’s never answer their phones. she had the baby last week.

    in reply to: The AZ thread – discuss the shidduch “age gap” #648693
    shtarky
    Member

    I have a cousin-23 who married an 18 year old girl and got so many speeches from differant relatives and even strangers. such behavior was not appropriate from the people who yelled at him. Dont yell at someone for going out with someone so young once they are already engaged. dont you think that caused some bad feelings in the engagement.(expecially with the boy’s mother)

    in reply to: Learner/Earner #648309
    shtarky
    Member

    we shouldnt be discoraging learning f/t. many girls are looking for learner earner but majority are still looking for s/o in kollel.Many yeshivos dont allow the boys to go to college and the boys dont want to because it creates embaressment for them. the parents are the ones encoraging it, usually what happens are the boys who cant learn full time remain in yeshivos and hang around while the good boys end up going to get jobs.

    in reply to: Mazel Tov! #1223050
    shtarky
    Member

    my sister had a girl.

    in reply to: The CR Anniversary Thread #650164
    shtarky
    Member

    i didnt know it was open for so long. i thought it was relativly new

    in reply to: Chalomos, the Meaning to Dreams! #686021
    shtarky
    Member

    i used to not think about my dreams as reality but about 2 weeks ago i had a very creepy dream with so much of the info correct about my future and i told people about it. some people belived it and others laughed it away. i still think about it often because it was really scary and some parts very true that it was true.

    in reply to: New And Returning Members! #855906
    shtarky
    Member

    Hi everyone.

Viewing 18 posts - 1 through 18 (of 18 total)