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shtark bais yaakov girlParticipant
Everyone: thank you for your answers
Haimy:
You’re right. Maybe I shouldn’t ask why I can’t be מחויבת במצוות עשה שהזמן גרמא, but I have already asked the question and gotten a few answers.
Perhaps my original question was stated wrongly, and it sounded as if I was complaining and doubting whether the way Hashem made the world was right or not, but I did not mean to come across that way. I was simply and sincerely wondering why women are exempt and why I was feeling jealous of the men who are מחויבים.“Let’s trust him for the way he made it, let’s trust that this crazy world makes perfect sense because he’s in full control.”
One thousand percent.
Chassidish-theorist:
“If women are holier, why not enhance their spiritual opportunities? Wouldn’t it lead to a greater spiritual output?”
Every person in עולם הזה has a תפקיד they must fulfill as a means to reach עולם הבא. That תפקיד is fulfilled by amassing מצוות ,תורה, and קדושה etc. After a person accomplishes and completes their תפקיד in this world, they are brought to the next. Perhaps the answer to your question of why the holiness in women can’t be enhanced with מצוות עשה שהזמן גרמא, is that for us to be מחויבות in them is too much for us.
We women have a task to fulfill, and clearly, that task does not include מצוות עשה שהזמן גרמא. We definitely can and do, fulfill many of them, yet being מחויבות would be more than what our תפקיד requires.Ironically, I have a question about what I just said ….
Isn’t there no such thing as reaching and growing too high? Isn’t there no such thing as doing too many מצוות?
… And I just thought of a possible answer right now …
Yes, there is such a thing as too much. Think קבלה, think the קדש קדשים, think of overdoing any מצוה to such an extent that it prevents you from doing other מצוות.
So apparently, if we would attempt to fulfill every מצוה עשה שהזמן גרמא, it would be overdoing, thereby “over-fulfilling” our תפקיד…Makes sense?
shtark bais yaakov girlParticipantRav –
“Also the question is based on the modern feminist way of thinking of yourself as an individual instead of as one part of a family unit where everyone in the family does their part”
I specifically pointed out quite the contrary in my question.
I understand very well that a woman has the special תפקיד to take care of her home and family. This doesn’t negate my question of why we can’t have this familial responsibility while having מצוות עשה שהזמן גרמא.Haimy-
“Why did Hashem make this world the way it is & not some other way? That is the outline of this question.
The answer: This fantasy question has no relevance to your life. We are totally underequipped to start contemplating a better way for the world to have been created.”Yidden are encouraged to ask questions and to seek answers, so whether or not this question may be imaginative, it nonetheless deserves an answer.
I am not wondering why Hashem won’t change the world to how I think it would be better, rather I am wondering why Hashem chose to make it this way and not differently.“Ignore these types of questions & start living purposefully, the questions will hopefully go away on their own.”
I choose not to ignore questions and let them “go away on their own” because I don’t like pushing away an opportunity to satisfy my questions with intelligent answers. I have already gained much insight from this forum and from other outside sources regarding this topic. Some questions in Yiddishkeit don’t have answers, but it is apparent through the responses here that my questions have countless satisfying answers.
Having questions isn’t a contradiction to living a purposeful life. Quite the contrary, it’s the questions themselves that help us live meaningful, stimulating, inspiring, and fulfilled lives.
Maybe you should stop pushing valid questions under the rug without giving them answers just because you refuse to acknowledge that answers exist.
shtark bais yaakov girlParticipantEveryone who answered – Tyvm
BrooklyGirl7:
The in-between-the-lines that you read were all true…Always_Ask_Questions:
My house is fine bh. The literal definition of ימשל is to lord and that’s why I worded it that way -
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