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Davka that’s why Joseph shouldn’t quote your site, because it will give you bad PR.
I don’t understand. Anyone can comment even if it wasn’t a direct quote and if people want to disrespect and mock rabanim, they’ll do it anyways.
I can’t belive THESE people are making money off of his teachings.
It should be free, for everyone..Letakein!!! Long time no speak!
I’ve missed hearing from you…The Little I know: +1 Totally spot on!
I’m sure the website exists, but seriously?
Copyright? I mean….it’s torah!Why are you afraid people will comment on it? If people mock daas torah, they’ll do it even without direct quotes from your site…
Do you even know what the halochos of chilul Hashem are?
Did you check, read sefarim, and ask a Rav possibly if this constitutes a chilul hashem before making that assumption.Also, it’s a joke.
If anyone thinks this is serious, even goyim, they must need mental help.I am related and know quite a few of those unaffiliated Jews in said school.
I also know/heard of many others who are relatives of friends of mine.
All the people I know do not seemed interested in yiidishkeit, and see us as the crazy distant relatives.I’m not a big excersize fan. But I like sports, I’d run around a ball for an hour a day.
Unfortunately there’s no private female only sports where I live….Exactly, the goyim won’t see it that way.
Gun control wouldn’t of stopped this.
If you have gun control, homemade bomb making will just go up.8 months ago the shooter in question posted on Social Media that he “Plans on becoming a School Shooter”.
Post was reported by police and all they did was taken down.
He called the school multiple times and said he would come and kill people there.
He was a former student and known to be mentally unsound…Yet no one really did anything.
I mean…seriously?Guards would of worked.
Also submitting him into the psych ward when he was a student there for his erratic behavior would of worked too.The whole situation is so sad. I know quite a few people who are freshman there, (the shooter was only in the freshman building)
Midwest2: If you deny the fact that Joseph is actually serious, you are denying the fact there are thousands of other frum, yidden who have the same hashkafa.
Are they all trolls too?
most people say at the third or fourth month. for the first baby some wait till 5th or 6th..
Hm…icould there be a mcholokes on this?
The rabbi who taught us in seminary, is one of the main poseks and rav of a large chareidi neighborhood in Yerushalayim. I don’t want to say which because I don’t want to give that information away..Look, I’m not a man, but we learned this very clearly in seminary last year, from a very well respected posek and rabbi in Yerushalayim….
Joseph, we learned if you are visiting you keep your own minhag hamakom. Davka I heard it’s assur to follow the place you are visiting. Let’s say a woman from wears only tichels, as that is the minhag hamakom, goes into another city for a wedding, and she is the only woman wearing a tichel at the wedding since the second city, the inhag is to wear sheitals.
I learned it’s assur for the woman to wear a sheitel. She has to wear her tichel.
Minhag hamakom doesn’t go by your shul, community, bungalow colony, nor street. It goes by the top rabanim in the city.
Unhealthy liftstyle exists everywhere.
Why is this a thread?I hear that. Here in Israel where tuition can be 50 dollars a month, home schooling IS more expensive for sure. Not everyone wants their kids on the internet.
Not all kids make friends with their neighbors and many families I know have too many kids to sign up for activities or extra curricular things that aren’t free out of school, so where else do kids make friends? Where I live many people do not have families over, its’ not really done over here.How do you teach 10 kids of multiple ages all at once?
Most children go to school, it’s a mutual expirience the majority of kids do, so when a kid doesn’t go they may feel not normal. Depends on the kid..I know many people who homeschool. Here are some downsides:
– Kids not feeling “normal”
– Lack of social interaction/kids not having friends
– Kids don’t know how to work in groups, as a unit, and can get scared from being with too many people
– Lack of a parent’s knowledge
– Expense of hiring tutors if the parent cannot teach, teaching multiple ages/levels at once
– A mother being tired of seeing her kids 24/7 and acting at both teacher and parents and nurse and cookIn my city there’s a support group and meetups, but I know it’s only like 5 or 6 families…and very little friendship opportunity for kids, there aren’t n essesarily other kids in the group on the same hashkafaic level, age, and gender…
Who said it’s ok?
Wolfish Musings, I agree wholeheartedly.
So I assume you also don’t believe in following any work code or any other cultural norm?
So I assume you walk down the street and don’t ask people how they are unless you actually want and care to hear an answer, and you won’t ask someone that in passing where there actually isn’t enough time to give an answer but it’s still a norm to ask.Do you keep your hair short? Isn’t that a society norm? Why don’t you dye is purple? Or a natural color even?
Why can’t men wear jewlery? Didn’t they do so in the time of tanach?I could go on and on…..
@Takes2toTango:
Your basically saying that one must cave in to social pressures if they live in that society. Thats no different then saying that you must live up to the joneses and the Goldstein’s.
This concept of living up to societies is actually the recipes for a downfall. I truly hop you find a striped white shirt guy.
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1. The torah tells us to go with the rov, with the rabim, the majoirty.
2. It also tells us to go along with society, yes to a point that’s why we have rabanim and we know if something is against the torah etc, and it’s a fine line.
3. Your argument is just not valid. Is a doctor who wear a wear coat “keeping up with the other doctors”? No! It’s his uniform. iT’S a dress code.And like DY said just now, and I SAID myself earlier, as a woman I also have to wear the dress code. Nowadays people are anti society, telling us what to do. Isn’t it funny how you give this argument of “keeping up with everyone else” when those same people who wear colored shirts to NOT keep up with everyone else are wearing the latest fashions in colored shirts, socks etc.
Do you know of people wearing colored shirts, that think they should not be a part of a greater society and don’t with to follow any latest fashion trends too? I only know of one such person, a good friend of mine, and bezrat Hashem she will find a bochur like that too…but I don’t see very many…
Takes2toTango, you think ONLY yeshiva bochurim get called in? When I was in high school I got yelled out by my principal when I ran into her at the local day camp I worked at and I was wearing a plain black skirt down to the floor. It wasn’t tight, it DEFINITELY covered my knees, it wasn’t bright, or eye catching, but she told me I shouldn’t wear it cuz it wasn’t dignified and didn’t look like a proper bais yaakov. (Long skirts are a big no-no is bais yaakovs).
Don’t act like you hold a monopoly on frustration with society’s rules.
And even secular society has social rules, a sort of uniform, etc….BTW Zion Gate, the magazine in question commented that after many emails that they reveived the image ALREADY pixelated, and as a rule wold never pixelate an image of a woman. They assumed it was pixelated because of the graphic nature of the picture. I did not see the picture, so I do not know how graphic it was.
The little I know:
In an ideal world, in my opinion it shouldn’t matter.
But it does, that’s reality.Your clothes send a message across, and I know this very much as a girl. There’s things I can’t wear that are actually tzniyus, because they send the wrong message. They send a message that I belong to a different crowd, or that I’m an “edgy” type of girl, etc. As much as you boys think you have problems with clothing, us girls have it much worse. It’s not between to articles, we have to choose all the time, and ask our selves ALL the time over any accesory, article of clothing, shoes…what message does this send the world?
And to deny that part of reality is basically living denial. I’m sorry.
Now, there ARE places where white and colored shirts don’t send different messages, AND if you live in such a place, great! But to live in a place where it’s a fact that the color of your shirt will send a message, and you think that “it’s stupid, I don’t want to be a part of that, I’ll wear what I want, and people shouldn’t judge me” is ridiculous. If your motto is “I think it’s ridiculous, but I resepect the society and their standards, and the price I am choosing to pay is to not be a part of the mainstream society, and I’m not angry or upset at them or my choice” is another story completely.
Be mature. Be honest with yourself.
Be realistic.These are things I’m looking for in a husband.
I never said yo have to like it, agree with it, but be realistic, be honest, don’t be in denial, and make decisions.Welcome!
I’m a young FFB, but both my parents are BT’s, and became so when I was a little girl. So although I didn’t really have a choice, I remember eating treif, going to parties, celebrating non jewish holidays, and more. All of my extended family is not religous, and although we don’t talk much (my parents talk to them more) questions like this do come up, and I try my best to explain.The Torah is the blueprint of the world. We don’t need to look into secular history to learn from, look in the Torah and you’ll find plenty of rape, betrayal, etc. There’s plenty of books and commentaries on that, in Israel through out high school all of the history classes were about rabanim, the holocaust, and not just history itself but the flame and the ideas, what it was like to live in Europe during WW2 and the secular influences. Split up and makes cases against and for keeping torah at the time. We learned in depth about the different idealistic movements throughout history, communism, industrial, when literature became big, and science became big, etc.
So for history, were good.
Okay, so does everything have to connect to Torah? YES! The Torah was written 2000 years before Hashem even created the world! And the aleph beis was created anther 2000 years before that! The Torah has everything we could ever need, and is the basis of life itself. Everything even in the secular world, has roots in the Torah, science has proven things written in the Torah time and time again.
Does relaxing serve a prpose? Yes it does, we need to unwind to be able to be productive human beings.
So what’s wrong with secular books?Well, first of all there’s a lot of kefirah in secular books. i DON’T know the halachos about kefirah, but I remember in seminary a teacher had told us her husband forced her to burn a secular novel after she told him that there’s a scene where scientists come up with another explanation for what seemed to be the remains of noah’s ark, and how the story couldn’t be real.
So I know many books have kefirah, and unless you know the halachos really well and are on the constant look out, science and politcal books can be dangerous. If you do want to read such books I suggest to consult a rabbi, leanr the halachos etc. The reson why the thread was deleted is because for the average FFB, these are of no interest and they don’t really add anything to our lives, like I said before, if you are looking to learn from things there’s PLENTY in our own history, and there’s frum science books if you know where to get them. (At ;least IN HEBREW I know…)
About novels, even the ones that are “clean” and have no language at all, the undercurrents and values in the book can be against our own. Sneaking around, lying, stealing, and more are prevalent in these novels. Everything you read and see DOES affect you, you are less sensitive to these things. When I stopped reading and watching for the most part, every time I watch something I can pause the video and say “hey that’s stealing” “hey that’s lying” even in KIDS movies, I’m talking about Disney movies my sister begs me to watch with her, whose intended audience is 5-10 year olds.
Now, I don’t blame you for wanting to read those things, they are more interesting often times, and you do you. As a BT, I don’t think you need to give them up just yet, but that’s the ideal place…..
Do you understand?
Doesn’t there need to be a king to build the beis makidsah?
it’s not about shallowness…
it’s about the society.I cannot speak for the USA, but I do know white shirts are of a great deal of importance in many places in Israel, it’s a part of society. If you live in Yerushalayim you have no way of being accepted into any school, in a colored shirt.
Ok, I never said I wanted to spefically live in Yerushalayim. I’m comfortable living in many different areas in Israel as long as thee’s people in the community whom share my hashkafa and values. I’m also looking to marry a bochur who doesn’t have any major issues with the chareidi world. No, you don’t have to agree with every part of it, but someone who understand it’s the bigger picture, is willing to sacrifice, and isn’t looking for fights…
And it’s funny how all the boys I meet that where colored shirts, are either not comfortable with it, not comfortable with people wearing white shirts, and lots of them still carry anger towards those people and the society in general.
So, if you find me someone wearing colored shirts who has worked out his anger issues with society, and knows we can only live in speicifc cities or neighborhoods, I’ll take a look.
Getting picked up? Hahahaha, I have to travel by bus. You wish I got picked up.
Dinner? Even more of a joke. After we get engaged, you go out for dinner.I spend much time, physical, and emotional energy on each date. I do my homework in advance.
I’ve never heard, been redt, or known that boys learn alone. My father does, but he’s much older. I also know many married folk who learn while their kids are sleeping at home and gives their wife time to go out with family or friends.But not single boys.
Not opposed, just never heard of it.There’s otlets…and there’s outlets.
If so I’d love to write a story on using that concept.
MTAB, you are talking about those entitled girls who want it all and don’t know what they are getting into? Yes there are those, I don’t really understand why anyone would marry such spoiled brats.
You can usually tell while you are dating if the girl is the entitled kind.
Who cares about the future, and money, why would you want to marry anyone with such bad middos?I live in Israel in a yeshivish american community. There’s plenty of the entitled spoiled brats, I’ve babysat tons, and there were plenty in my high school class too, but there’s also plenty of wonderful girls who grew up in regular home with not to little or too much and know how hard it is out there to make it.
I agree.
All the people I’ve gone out with are OOT, I cannot imagine marrying someone from in town, but then again, you never know. If it gets redt, and sonds good…I’ll see.But I totally get you, it’s like 2 different planets.
MTAB: I’m not expecting money to fall from the sky. Most people I KNOW who are in kollel/looking for kollel, know what they are getting into. They are having basic bills (if even THAT) paid by parents, getting one sheitel, and don’t really buy any clothing, jewlery, and or makeup for the first few years of marriage.
Their kids don’t get dressed in luxury clothing, and sometimes the electricity goes off or there’s no food in th house at the end of the month.
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Don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll find a great girl.
You just worry about what Hashem wants from you.I don’t know why girls always assume there needs to be a chavrusa involved, lol. Maybe because girls are social creatures, or it’s just mainstream to hear about chavrusas?
In any case, MalachOfCholent is correct, you need to be prouder of your accomplishments. Davka like I said, I’m looking for someone real and honest, and on some level a bochur like you interests me MORE than someone in full time learning, why?
Because I can see you made decisions. You are doing whatever you are doing because you truly want to, you are being emesdik to your true self, when someone tells me he is learning full time, I don’t know if he is doing is because he wants to and is really there, or because someone else is paying tuition and rent and he can get a good catch that way.
The right girl will appreciate the choices you have made, the middos you have, etc. Don’t worry about it, you only gotta marry one.
My parents aren’t going to support me at all, so just like you, it sounds kinda scary, because isn’t that what people look at? Money and yichus and prominent schools?
I’m also originally from OOT, and we don’t have money, frum family, or much yichus, but Hashem will worry for my zivug…
Hi, girl in shidduchim here.
You sound like a great guy, if I was redt it to you, I’d find out a few things. For one, I know how important Torah is, and I understand not everyone is cut out to learn, but I’d be wary of the fact you don’t learn at all. Yes, not everyone is cut out for even 1 3/4 hur seder, but no daily chavrusa for an hour learning at your own pace? Or shuir at night? Not even daf yomi? What about a chabura? A mussar shuir? A shuir that isn’t such in depth learning? There’s so much out there, Torah is what makes a man closer to God and gives him life. Maybe the tradition seder isn’t for you, but not learning at all on a daily basis in any way, shape, or form?What are you doing to stay true to your ideals? To have the right mindset and values in yourself? To keep growing spiritually? This worries me, being that you are still very young, although I’d be wary if you were 25 too, the fact that you are 21 and learning isn’t really in your life at all doesn’t make me run, but rather want/need to get more information.
BESIDES for the learning, if you had valid reasons, and it turns out you are doing SOMETHING, ANYTHING in the learning/growing department. Even learning a sefer with a friend for a half an hour a day, I’d look at your middos and your hashkafah.
For me, I’m looking for someone who wants to stay in Israel, who fits into the chareidi society and doesn’t have issues with it. Someone honest, real to themselves about where they are and what they need to do, have a rabbi they talk to, don’t watch movies, don’t have a smartphone, have filtered internet, etc.
Also I don’t speak yeshivish, what is knaas?
No one actually reads those before they post.
And we all are dishonest sometimes, we make mistakes.
Dan Likaf zechut people!She’s clearly new.
She didn’t realize that opening 2 accounts is against the rules, and probably did not know the moderators can see your IP address and immediately see when two users have posted from the same computer.This thread is loshon hora.
ALSO, any projects I create, I always get rabinical backing and involvement. I personally think that’s not only necessary but vital.
It should. All the magazines I have written for/write for have a rabinical team. Mainstream stuff.
But, I wouldn’t necessarily take those rabbis to be MY personal rabbi.What about those who live in abusive homes that have helped create emotional disorders?
Right DY, it’s about what crosses the line.
The whole idea of calling yourself a foodie does sound like that. This word is a recent word, and is also created with yeridos hadoros.But as always, every person must ask themselves if they are seeking pleasure, or if this is a hobby they like/are good at. We cannot judge others.
But, IMHO, terming yourself a foodie sounds like you are in the first camp by definition. It says “seek out new expiriences”. So, objectively I think one should not call them a foodie. If I ever meet a foodie of course I will be dan lifak zechut that I do not known their intentions.
GAON said it better than I could have.
Terming yourself a foodie is basically announcing to everyone that you indulge in the taivoh of food too often.
Say you like food, say your a chef, a caterer, tell people that you’re good with food, it’s your hobby, or that your naturally inclined to be a food critic or something…Lo Sasuru Achray Levavchem Viachray Eineychem…
I believe that food is considered to be a taivah. If it’s not coming from a taivadik place, then it’s fine.
Writing is not a taivah.@ubiquitin It’s not necessarily the word that makes the difference. Lots of people have a hobby, and lots of people have hobbies that they love and could not live without. I love writing, and singing and many other things, and I call myself a writer.
Food isn’t a hobby. Hashem created food for us to eat.
This world is so upside down that we don’t even realize it.What if someone told you that he/she “seeks new experiences” and is obsessed over other taivos Hashem gave us? I don’t think I need to elaborate further, but we would send them to a therapist.
Uber Chacham is correct.
No other answer matters.
The Torah is the guide to what’s right and wrong, and morality.Any other answer is based on human feelings and biases.