Song of Blessing

what do you mean by music styles for keyboards?

I actually like this cd it grows on you and I’m not a fan of all his CD’s. I specially love the song Mizrach!! It has a great beat, my kids dance around the house to it all the time.

Say IDidIt

Yeah I am actually new its weird that it says for four years???? I dunno I have a bunch of posts in my name but it just changed it to shira1988 so weird i was messing about on my profile page now i can’t see how to change it back oh well.. but i think i’m the ones that it says shira all over the place lol.

And who’s Joseph?

And back to the topic i think you shouldnt worry about what people say about holding grudges or not. You seem to know very well that you don’t and you dont care for it so why worry about it. And I agree with nitpicker – i mean do you forget that your little sister tore up your coloring book when you were 7. Probably not, and maybe at the time you were upset but remembering it 20 years later doesn’t mean you hold a grudge about it. Most probably its funny after the fact.

I dont think it has anything to do with it that coz you remember the story you have a grudge. But think about it if you are in a really bad mood and everything is going wrong – if you’d think about that story would it make your mood worse or you’d stay the same as you were before…

in other words do YOU think you have a grudge? Maybe it would help to talk to the person that was supposed to give you the item in question and ask them casually “hey remember…” it might help you see if you really forgave them or not to talk to them about it.

Ah well I guess just badger them till they pay up ;). There’s no sense in loosing out money for the yeshiva just coz people can’t be honest or on top of their game. I know that the yeshiva here doesn’t stop badgering us till we pay, and I’m ok with it. Its hard to remember everything!

Also It would DEF work to tell them they can’t advertise next time. But I don’t get how can they deny it, dont they get an ad there that they tell you what it should say? It would be hard for someone who sends in their business card to deny that they sent it in no?

wow a year already. Crazy… Hashem Yishmor

almar hats?

I have a question Goq. Why is the admin in the Yeshiva waiting so long till the people forget? An organized yeshiva would:

a) send a confirmation of the phone call/pledge made by mail to the person in question

b) would send a reminder no more than 3 weeks later of an unpaid pledge

c) unpaid pledges should be recorded, and those people who made the pledge unable to place further ad’s until their pledge is paid.

Doesn’t that make sense? Its kind of like a classroom when you run any operation or business. You have to set the rules. Then people will have no choice.

You can’t as WHY people do things. they just do, they have other things on their heads, and busy lifes. We can’t judge why they’re not doing it. Just give consistent and firm reminders that they are required to keep their promise.

lol thanks Ben Levi. And todah rabba – yes now facebook is used so much its almost like an extension of the internet. you barley need google any more because you can do the same search on facebook and find the page that offers the thing you’re looking for… I wonder what they’re going to do about it coz obviously its not going away..

DassYochid: If you’d say “excuse me” to these people you’d be asking to get beaten up.. or pushed over… trust me… im talking about low lifes…

growing up in a city where most of the time a group specially of non jewish guys would walk straight into you without blinking I tend to dodge to the side. And hanab – yeah its annoying but if they’re so rude then they’re not worth your time or frustration… take a deep breath and know you’re better than them and go on with you’re day 🙂

YW Band: I actually disagree because sometimes I can’t come up with the words until I hear the music, and its the music that inspires me to write beautiful lyrics. I guess it depends HOW a person composes some people’s inspiration comes out in words – whilst mine comes out in my music. Its my music that tells the story and once its made I can come up with the lyrics that translates the story into words… My best songs came out that way – the ones that I made the lyrics first are good but my top ones are music first.

I guess it depends on the individual…

And I agree about if the song is a real niggun it can be sung at the Shabbos table – but… not all songs have to be niggunim 🙂

Dear popa bar abby

No BH it hasn’t gotten to the point of my ability to function but close enough. I think after 2 days I’m over it.

Interesting concept on Bitachon I didn’t think of it that way. Its good to know that it doesn’t mean I have a weak bitachon 🙂

And Bekitzur – no I know I’m not crazy for feeling scared – specifically in this situation, but I’m not sure how to handle being scared in the first place since I’m used to being pretty fearless lol.

o wow hahaha chinese much?

What do you want to compose in the song? The music? The lyrics? Or the whole thing?

For lyrics I think its practice and inspiration – you need to have a message – write it down, and usually since songs that rhyme sound better you’d want to find words in your message that go together. Its just practice makes perfect

For music lol you’d first need to learn an instrument… once you know how to play one thats when you can start to just play around with it and try to make your own tunes.

I do think its down to talent but I do believe anyone can do anything if they really really want to.

very nice idea!! I took on 1, 2, and 3. Can I spread the word?

Wow this thread is really long I wish I had time to read it all.

I have alot to say so I want to try make it short.

You said he gets angry. So throwing him out of the house that would just re-enforce that.

And throwing religion aside just for a second – I think your main problem is that he is closed – not that he’s not keeping anything. If you knew what went on in his head then you’d know why he was reacting in certain ways

The computer – is a mistake – it’ll bring into your house what you dont want, and he can go on a computer outside of the house if he wants.

One thing you said was interesting a few pages back was that “He has always been independent and controlling, and he is now expressing it in its fullest.”

This could be your key to figuring out how to give him what he wants while getting what you want.

Independence he can get in a few ways – if he wants a computer to be independent and do what he wants he should earn it. Get a job and pay for it himself. It will give him a sense of independence and accomplishment.

Honestly without internet he cant do much… but being computer savvy I know how easy it is to put movies on an mp4 player and transfer it to the computer.

Music.. movies.. yeah they arent the best but really they’re not your main concern he isn’t breaking halacha by doing that. BUT if he knows you’re against them saying they’re ok wont work. He needs to know WHY you think they’re not ok. And dealing with an independent teen what he needs from you is your opinion “i feel that movies/music are bad because…. but in the end of the day I know you are a smart boy and you will make your own decisions now that you have the understanding about it”.. and leave it be. Let him make his own decisions. But you’ve let him know you dont approve and WHY (very important) and that you respect that he can make his own decisions and you respect his decisions.

However as a parent I would make it very clear no singing out loud and not in the house because he has a responsibility. If thats the case you are the parent you can still issue consequences, but the biggest trick is put him in your shoes, as him what he would do if he was you and his child was disobeying a basic rule…

I feel like he does want you to put your foot down, and look how scared he got when he said that “you’re responsible for him till he’s 18”. He’s scared you’ll throw him out! But if you do that you’ll create a very big enemy in him. Against you and his religion. What you CAN do is send him away to a Yeshiva that you know knows how to deal with these types of boys and will keep on top of them but let them choose their own way.

Also about the connection with your husband that could be a very big part of the problem unfortunately it is for alot of boys… it could be he could use a big brother but you’d have to be tactful in introducing someone like that. (Like inviting him shabbos meals or times when you know your son will for sure be around).

Wishing you so much hatzlacha and remember:

a) sooo many parents are in your shoes! Its unfortunate but you’re not alone

b) be happy – he is healthy – so many parents have to deal with a down-syndrome or child with other terminal illnesses – think positive that he is healthy and has the ability to challenge you. BH.

c) Daven… mothers tefilos are the strongest. and so are their tears

Never give up!