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We said “oy vey” and “moshiach must be on his way”
halloo…
I’m still around. Snooping for a topic thats worth my 10 minutes :p.
No really – sometimes I just have too much to say it’ll take too long to say it so I don’t say anything 🙂
Welll, I read and don’t post but that’s not coz I have nothing to say its coz I usually have tooo much to say that it takes too long to type out n then I realize after I do type out my answer that even though it made sense in my head it doesn’t make sense on paper… So.. I’m just happy with reading what all u interesting people have to say 😀
Lol I just have this to say – being a gamer and having been married to one… Once u have kids forget games!! And the WORST is when u have to be the responsible wife and take care of the house and ur husband cant get off a game.
Not only that theyr so full of shtus I got fed up with the fact that instead of doing something productive with my life like…. Working on my graphic skills, musical skills, or just simply organizing and keeping my house clean… Not to mention learning torah coz seriosuly I”YH ad meah v’esrim shana, I don’t wna say I spent my whole life gaming, I was sitting on stupid games all day. A wife that’s a gamer… Meh I think u must be reallyyy amazing if u can prioritize properly, for me I just can’t so I don’t play 🙂
Better? Harder? Which world do u all live in?
Every person has their own nisyonos and each deals with it in their own unique way.
In my opinion the status of a “good boy” or “good girl” in any person looking for a shidduch is someone who works on themselves and generally fights rather than gives into their yetzer hara. For a shidduch good is only as good as you are.
The whole chinuch system/shidduch scene and marriage scene is in the pits more than ever now. Stereotyping doesn’t work any more. All we need is moshiach!
I dont get it – there is one thing that my school that I went to did which is the smartest thing I ever heard.
They basically let the parents pay whatever they can afford etc… but they still owe the rest of the balance. After their child finishes school the parent carrys on paying up the rest of the tuition at a pace they can afford. It is SO much smarter!! Coz now the school gets paid for the next 20 years – maybe small amounts but imaging 100’s or parents still paying off their kids tutition at the same amount they paid before – the school is making the money they have to and it covers the teachers salaries because the new parents who aren’t paying enough are being covered by those who are still paying up.
It is super smart – as a parent I would love to feel good that I invested in my childs tuition plus its a huge bracha to pay full tuition for your child. But honestly I cant do it – but I would for sure agree that to pay up in full in the end of the day would be something I would feel was right to do.
Schools should do this. Parents who cry and bla bla bla… if thats the schools policy and you don’t like it send ur kid elsewhere – they wont do that coz usually there’s not too many options with frum schools… after 15 years of this being implemented PROBLEM SOLVED!! they’ll carry on surviving the same way they have been for the past 50 years for 15 years only and slowly it will improve as they keep getting paid back!
lots of judging going on here…
1. you can’t judge those who get nanny’s. I am totally against it – but some people need it – how do you know? Maybe they’re doing the best thing for their kids coz maybe they have no clue how to take proper care of a child.
2. I agree that the workplace isn’t the best place for a woman. As a professional – and having had enough experiences in the workplace – it is very hard for a woman to find a place of work that respects her frumkeit – her tznius – and her as a woman.
3. I disagree with the comment “do something more professional than feeding a toddler”. There is nothing more stimulating or amazing than watching your child grow and evolve to become an amazing human being. If you don’t see that you’re missing out and I feel bad for you. If you need to get out wait till they are asleep and then go out! work in the evening. if your reason is because you’re bored or want to feel good coz your a professional – find a profession that gives you more flexibility and you can work without it affecting your kids life so much.
4. i don’t see whats the big deal with the spanish/english.. who cares? thats not the point. the point is that this shiksa could be playing her music and saying stuff to your child and RAISING YOUR child.. its detrimental! I know i’m contradicting my #1 – I’m not judging those who do it – but that doesn’t mean I think its ok or would EVER do it myself.
multitasking is one thing. but talking on the phone while texting or typing on the computer – or talking to someone face to face whilst texting is nothing to do with multitasking its just plain RUDE! and I really try very hard not to do that….
it looks like its trying to copy jDate.
I have my personal opinion about online dating. I think a) anyone can log on and can pretend their this amazing person. You have to be careful. My experiences went from ok, to talking to a stalker, to completely wasting my time…
It CAN work but you gotta sift through the “garbage” before you can come across someone normal. But my theory is – of your normal and your on it – chances are there are some guys that are normal and are on it.
HOWEVER the biggest problem with online dating sites is I found the majority guys there were frum but much more lenient in things I found important (like being shomer). It was a big let down… I think I prefer the shadchan scene…
but that still doesn’t make a difference coz it doesn’ t matter which part of the stairs you’re standing on it matters which direction ur going 😀
o n the stairs rules is old.. we used to have to do that in school…
whats the difference between right and left? as far as I know looking to my right or left always depends on which direction I’m standing.
Yes I’m joking but really think about it…
Englishman – Hashem created Chava because Adam asked Him to!!
And why from the rib – I remember hearing a very good explanation to that once but I dont really remember it…
And it teaches us…
Be careful what you wish for 🙂
RSRH: Of course, there is the “other” approach,
If thats the case I think I throw up my hands n give up now… nothing but a miracle will change this world…
Hahahah off the top of my head… just for fun…
I was sitting in the garden
Drinking some tea
When someone
Came up to me
“Hi” they said
“Whats your name
And why are you sitting
Are you insane?
There’s so much to do
Before its too late
How can you sit
Watching the gate
The clock is ticking
The time is near
Get up and work
And have no fear!”
I look up at them
With my big green eyes
And wonder why
In great surprise
Do they think that sitting
In a garden is lazy
I started to feel
Kind of Shaky
“Now look here you”
I said pretty strongly
“Dont tell me what to do
You put it all wrongly
I’m not just sitting
And wasting time
I’m making sure that I
Will feel just fine
I know there is
So much to do
But I’m not just sitting
Staring at my shoe
I’m relaxing you see
And I think thats ok
So maybe you should go
And have a nice day”
-SB 😀
does the older child try to influence the younger one? can the older child be spoken to to try and help them see that they’re influencing the younger one?
Also why is the older one “messed up” and why are you calling it “messed up”? anyone thats going through stages is certainly not messed up – maybe they have questions that need answering. and maybe you should focus on helping the older sibling rather than focusing on the damage they’re doing to the younger one.
if the younger sibling just sees you blame the older one for the influence it will only make the influence a bigger yetzer hara. specially if the children have something against whoever is trying to teach/educate them.
but if they see you try to help the older one they’ll see that this isn’t the normal since that person needs help, and will not necessarily follow…
Work.. work work… I come on here to take a breath lol
LOL thanx SiDi
Ya so still scared of the dark
and earthquakes make me queezy
Health: Hypocrisy at its’ finest. You can’t blame the spouse, but you can blame a third party, like the teachers
Who said I was blaming the teachers for failed marriages? It was a side point – and completely not meant to blame them for the issues. I was just wondering why they don’t. Sorry for not making that clear…
And to say “If you didn’t get this from your parents or Mechanchim/Rabbeyim, there are mental health professionals that you can go to – even before marriage…” well are there alot of divorces these days or not??
There are..
And who do people rely on for the majority of pre-marital questions?
Usually kallah and chosson teachers. At least thats what I was told when I had the classes that they’re there to help you prepare for whats ahead.
Again I’m not BLAMING them just like you can’t BLAME the parents, or mechanchim bla bla for all the problems. Its golus – this is what the world is today whether we like it or not. I was just wondering how come its not a standard thing that they introduce marriage books and go over them thoroughly during those classes as opposed to just niddah books.
I think pink is fine for guys but some can and some can’t pull it off….
but I don’t like weird sock colors… or weird shoe colors for that matter lol.
its not a deal breaker it was the general thing going when I was a teenager the guys couldn’t care less about what the girls thought coz “when they get married their wives are anyways going to re-do their wardrobe.”
Incidentally…
Do guys prefer to think that when they will get married their wives will choose their clothing or do they generally like to be independent and shop for themselves?
@dhl144 it could be how you react to the fights. Never let them put you in a corner and side with one or the other.
Also dont worry so much if theyr young because some kids that fight tonz when they’re younger grow out of it when they’re older.
If they’re older – seek help! It doesn’t stop at the teenage years. Family feuds result out of siblings not getting along and can last for generations….
ARWSF: There was recently a study done in which they concluded that it takes on average 10 years for a woman to leave a bad marriage.
I’ve seen this so so many times unfortunately…
One thing I don’t get is why the kallah/chosson teachers dont teach more PRACTICAL things during lessons. YES I know how important niddah is – but really… a frum kid that had bare contact with a guy/girl is suddenly going to live with one. How are they supposed to know how to do it or what to look for. Anyone who’s been divorced knows that the problems started from day one… (even during dating) they just didn’t know what to look for… or ignored signs b/c they didn’t realize they were important signals to future issues.
As far as blame… OMG.. why? If you’re looking to blame someone you’re surely the one at fault. Look at YOURSELF. If you work one yourself then it doesn’t matter who what when where how? If you feel you can’t work on yourself in your marriage – then you have a problem. Seek HELP not BLAME!
Something they used to sell on our corner bakery back in the day (ah I feel old now…) when I was growing up called an Ice-Bun. Haven’t seen it anywhere since….
@Brony – thats what I was saying. You shortened it beautifully haha
hmmmm… I dare you to post your worst fear
mine is i’m afraid of the dark
k FIRST of all – eating outdoors will bring bugs regardless of the day n age! (Specially at night!)
and 2nd of all I’m 100% sure they had some natural bug repellant in those days to keep the bugs out of their homes. I mean they didn’t live out in the open they did live in some sort of houses lol. Think about you’re succa’s they dont get soooo many bugs. A little yes but not a crazy amount…
Interesting concept but you need to be more clear… how if someone decides they want to meet someone after they conversed with them bla bla bla… do they contact that person without letting everyone know who they are? Is that something they’d contact YW for?
But its also still DIY. and getting to know someone online isn’t the same as face to face. What you’re proposing is online dating – if you go on frumster thats also annon you don’t have to give your real name – you don’t have to post your face – you can get to know each other without any details except for gender and brief description etc… then if you want to you can exchange other info.
The POINT of a Kosher Shidduch is to eliminate the emotions and time spent on getting to know someone who its really quite straight forward that they’re not for you. (You want cholov yisroel only – and they don’t care…). It can be basic things like that, that you wont find out till you already like the person. That is what Shadchanim are trying to avoid….
OF COURSE we want moshiach to come!! Why wouldn’t me – who by the mid 20’s hasn’t felt suffering, stress, pain, loss of a loved one… and today?? who hasn’t felt the pain of lieby kleitzy, the suffering in israel, mumbai attack…. the list can go on and on and on… we would be crazy not to want moshiach.
And yes we want to be closer to Hashem but I think mainly what people think of when they say they want moshiach is for all the suffering to end…
I know who is Joseph? Why did ppl think i was him at the beginning??
And I guess I profile people so I tend to remember them but here its kinda hard coz ur not the “21 year old girl from NY” as there’s no names/ages/places given here… but really it doesn’t make a difference if u remember who the person was does it??
I don’t understand how people can do that – I’ve had instances where I was dating someone and another person came up. How can you get your head around it?
And for anyone that says you don’t get emotionally attached is lying to themselves. You always form some sort of emotional attachment. If you want to compare then compare BEFORE the dating thats when you pick and choose.
Personally I feel dating more than one person at a time is like cheating.
I nominate….
Everyone who makes this place a laugh – and an interesting place to be 😀 (You know who you are!)
@working harder LOL that one made me laugh
SiDi for extensions what kind of extensions r u looking for? there’s soo many…
Shopping613… shhhhhhhh don’t give away the secret.
Neh reli its not me
and SiDi she was Joking…. lets keep it light in here 😀
n SiDi I like the 2nd version of the signature u made
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Hahahaha rolling at these posts.
And SiDi I like you’re signature Ideas and yeah I guess they belong on the other forum 😀
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Safari!!!! LOL
just had to say that
But Chrome is definitely faster – however firefox has less bugs… you choose 🙂
Also most websites these days are firefox compatible and not all have accepted chrome.
and now the thread’s back to normal lol
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Yeah SiDi how did you get your name into a hyperlink?
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Try hanging it right out of the washing machine – dryers can ruin some shirts… and other shirts actually do well in dryers but you just gotta hang it straight from the machine while its hot if you want to preserve the shape.
I found for my boys the thicker material shirts last way longer and stay much nicer (like 100% cotton ones).. but don’t put them in the dryer….
lol good 1!
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