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We baked chanukah cookies with the healthy kind of margarine, YUM! We need the strength after shoveling all this snow that fell in NY.
TOHIGHSCHOOLGUY-
Good for you! IY”H you will make a good husband one day. may there be more like you
I don’t agree with you brooklyn19, they aren’t lazy. They really want to stay in learning (who wouldn’t want to?) My hubby wanted to stay in learning but guess what, nobody was going to support us so he went to work.
“There are parnasah options for kids who want to remain in the daled amos of the beis medrash, whether safrus, milah, shechita, hashgacha and more.”
Tzippy, do you honestly think that this is a parnosah option for people who have 12 children? I am constantly flooded with calls and mailings from these very people. They do not have jobs that give them much health insurance so if they have one kid with health problems they are wiped out. These are very meager paying jobs, okay if you do hashgocha for a major kashrus organization but how many people want to travel constantly to hong kong and india etc. I guess shechita they can make a living we always need meat and chicken but how many shochets do we need already.
Look what is happening to the lakewood yeshivos. They have no money to pay their teachers. Is this a direct result of most of the parent body not having money to pay full tuition? By not getting an education this will perpetuate this scene over and over again.
They are ossuring the internet, but they will take money from my husband who makes his money by yes, using the internet.
I think what Joseph is saying makes sense, Jews associate X-mas with all the horrible riots and murderous lynch mobs who claimed it was a mitzvah to kill the ones who killed their savior. Isn’t there a minhag not to learn Torah on X-mas?
Yes oomis1105-
That is exactly what I mean. If a family or child decides that getting a secular education is not for them, then that child grows up, marries, has ten or eleven children and then guess what, it is time to marry them off and he has all these debts. Then they have to go door to door collecting. Why anyone would want to chose to be in such a position is beyond me. A Rov from Israel that learns in the Meir told my husband he has never before seen so many people coming to the Meir asking for Tzaddakah. The situation for people in learning is horrible. We just gave $500 to a friend of ours who is collecting for a Talmid Chochum who has a child to marry off in terrible situation, but that is just a drop in the bucket for these people whose need is so great. And the yidden in America have lost their jobs and have their own financial crisis.
I thought it is a mitzvah to teach your son a trade, just like you are supposed to teach him how to swim. It is not fair to teach them how to be a shnorer. I am only hoping I should never be in that position!
To each his own. But don’t start sending me letters when you want to marry off your kids!
Yosher koach!!!!
Wonder what will happen if you put it in the choulent…
I agree with dd. Better to be sitting with people you know. Especially if it is separate seating and you can’t sit with your spouse.
I just got my mail from the mail box and there it is, a kupat ha’ir flier. They are also in my newspaper, stuck in for good measure. I don’t see any advertisements in their flier.
Whenever I see the kupat Ha’ir “magazine” I always wonder who pays for this advertisement, it seems pretty expensive don’t you think?
I love dogs, but they need alot of attention. Almost like having another kid to take care of. Cats are easy to take care of and they don’t bark and make noise. Mine are declawed so my furniture is safe. A bear? I am sure you are joking, a bear is a wild animal and dangerous.
The metal clips in my shaitel were not a problem, but my large metal barettes were! I have learned that when traveling I use pony tail holders or plastic barettes.
It is really of no use saying which group is more successful in doing kiruv. When you are dealing with a kid at risk, they need loads of love even with all their acting up. They need love and understanding. I switched my daughter out of a BY to a modern orthodox school, thinking that this would be more easy going with the laws, but it was a real disappointment. Not saying that all modern orthodox schools wouldn’t have been able to handle her, but this one was not able to. Nowadays many schools are competing one against the other, they are very worried about their name and reputation, making it hard for them to show a little love and understanding to a kid that is going through a rough time. I don’t want to put all the blame on the schools, as there are alot of factors involved, but sometimes if a kid is unhappy with yeshiva they will throw frumkiet out of the window.
Hey, any cat owners out there? We have two cats. Much easier for a frum Jew, you don’t have to walk them and they don’t need as much attention as a dog. My kids love them to pieces, I think it is good for kids to have a pet cause they always have a friend.
“Hypocrisy is also a HUGE reason why kids go off the derech. A few of the people I know, could no longer stomach what terrible things were going on behind the scenes by supposedly respectable people. They were tired of all of it being ignored because the person was “choshov.” They saw all the outward displays of being more frum than the next person, but nothing was internalized. One of the biggest parts of Judaism is how you treat people, and without that, all they saw was a system of repression.”
You hit the nail on the head! I am liking your posts more and more. Enjoy your baby and have yiddishe nachas!
the chavrusahs-
I understand that anyone here is free to express themselves. But some of the posts I am reading are really missing the mark. I too did not understand the kid at risk issue until I had one of my own. May none of you ever experience this, it is very painful and sad.
llmis1105- Actually, Holocaust survivors tend to have german shepards for protection, BECAUSE they went through the war. My father had around six or seven german shepherds surrounding the house.
Unless you have a kid off the derech YOU SHOULD ALL KEEP QUIET.
Nauseas- Well, at least he will be able to cook in case of emergency, chas v’shalom. Personally, I like cleaning better than cooking! One cooks and the other cleans, perfect shidduch.
My parents are European, they told me that in Europe everyone had a dog, the frum yidden had them outside in order to protect their property. Good alarm system!
We actually do not have a dog but we asked our Rov, he said there is no issur but for some reason it is not done. Frum yidden have a hard enough time making ends meet with bli ayin horah all the children, tuition, costs of living and kosher food and meat and chicken. Having a pet is expensive, feeding and the vet bill, plus it is hard to make time taking care of a pet when you have a couple of kids as well.
I wonder what the frum oilam holds about owning cats, are they considered impure (behaimah temaiyah)?
Yashrus20, that is excellent, you will make a great shidduch IY”H, a real catch! It is good to have a husband who can help out.
No, the potato kugel is not sweet. For some reason the sugar brings out the flavor.
dunno-
Thank you for the feed back on the potato kugel. You must be daring, most people are nervous to try a recipe for potato kugel that has sugar in it!
Ashreinu, it is true what you are saying about yad v’shem, although I refrained from writing anything and did not want to offend (who knows who is reading these words). Still, the people who worked on yad v’ shem did do something to help us always remember our dear ones who were lost. Maybe next time I go I’ll go with Rabbi Teller. I also heard there is the diaspora museum in Tel Aviv and you can look up lost relatives, never went there.
I read all the books written by frum survivors to have more of a feel of what they went through, all from a Torah perspective.
Yes, it is excellent. We can never forget what happened. I wonder how it compares with the holocaust museum in washington.
This is a question for anyone who has a daughter who came home from seminary in June. Is your daughter recieving tzaddakah mailings addressed to her? It seems that they are getting a hold of the seminary lists. She just got one letter from a place that already spoke to her seminary while they were in Israel (at least that is what they claim). My daughter is not working, so although we are a family that gives plenty of tzaddakah (and my husband is very generous), I am mildly annoyed at this new leval of marketing their cause. Maybe soon they will send home letters to the pre 1A class, or come speak to them year after year about their cause? Sorry, I am just overwhelmed with all the appeals, mailings, phone calls….I feel guilty saying no and tossing mailings out…anybody relate?
I think there is a difference if it is a young lady or a young yeshiva bochur. Perhaps there should be a separate thread for the young girls. When the girls go to seminary in Israel, a cell phone is MANDATORY. The school needs it in case of emergency and they need to know where the girl is.
I feel that once a girl starts to drive, she should have a cell phone to use in case of emergency. Yes, I can always lend her mine, but what if I need it as well because I am away? I think that it is not a black or white decision, every parent needs to make this decision for their child. But I feel that Hashem has given us the invention of a cell phone to use it letovah.
I remember one time my father was picking up my sister at yeshiva high school to bring her home (we lived out of town, one hour away). My sister waited outside the closed yeshiva building and my father was delayed, he had no way of reaching her to tell her he was delayed, and she waited for a long time. finally she walked to my aunt and uncle, very upset. If there were cell phones then, she would have been spared that trauma.
If a boy is in an out of town school and the school allows cell phones, then I think it is a good idea. When I went to high school, I boarded by families and only went home for shabbos, and there were many times that I could have used a cell phone to call my parents. It was not easy those days. I also like the idea when my kid is in Israel I can call up and check how she or he is doing, and they can call me in case of emergency. As with all things, cell phones can be used for good or for bad. but if you ossur it then kids will want it even more and buy one on their own.
wonder if there is a way to make a tznius support group for women only, so we could really be productive on this thread.
Yashrus20- I recommend the Spice and Spirit Lubavitch kosher cookbook. Lots Of Luck!
Oh, can I be a YW Moderator?
Butternut Squash Pie
2 pie crusts, let them defrost
Then combine:
2 defrosted boxes of butternut squash
1 cup sugar
1 cup flour
5 beaten eggs
1/4 cup oil
1/2 cup of pareve milk (coffee rich or soy milk)
Put mixture into two pie crust, sprinkle with cinn. on top.
BAKE at 350 for one hour, this is absolutely yummy.
Honey nut crusted chicken-
Chicken cutlets, preferably thin
1/4 C teriyaki sauce, plus more for brushing
2 Tbs cranberry/red-currant/ cherry jelly
one six ounce container honey-glazed almonds
salt and pepper
Crush honey-glazed almonds, by hand or in blender. Add the 1/4 C teriyaki sauce and cranberry jelly. Mix or blend.
Salt and pepper both sides of cutlet. Brush with a bit of teriyaki sauce. Press the sauce-nut mixture onto the top of each cutlet, and bake at 350 for 6 minutes (that is what the recipe says but it needs longer, not sure how long).
Do NOT overbake.
It’s really awesome.
OIY! You poor things! Please give us her name so we can daven for her. you are in my thoughts and prayers.
why won’t you buy her a good easy cookbook instead? I recommend the spice and spirit lubavitch cookbook. She will thank you!
Reb Will Hill…..You make me laugh out loud. I doubt you are above the age of 21. Shut off the computer and crack open the sefer, say a kapital tehillim if you really want to make a difference in this world.
yashrus20- Will Hill will say it is mutar because it is leshaim shamayim and it is a mitzvah “considering the great plague of pritzus that has invaded our kehilos.”
As someone who became more religious, I remember very clearly who turned me on to yiddishkiet and who was a total turn off. The ones who impressed me the most were those who were very kind, warm, and sincere. Those who came across all fire and brimstone were a real turn off. Keep this in mind when giving tochacha, very important.
Is this what Thanksgiving has become, stuffing yourself silly and then going to sleep so you can go shopping early and push yourself into the store? It’s a shame.
Will Hill- I really can’t understand your posts, you must have me mistaken with someone else. Please refer to Itzik_s last post to see what I am talking about. I still don’t think a man has any business being on a tznius thread. Do you really think your posts will help women be more tzanuah? I really think that the only way a person can change is to first develop a relationship with them and show you care about them and then very slowly and gently give recommendations. I know tnius is very important and unfortunately it’s horrible especially in the summer time, but if you show these people that you care about them that is the only way. We live in such terrible times and there is such hatred among yidden. We have to be careful when giving tochacha to do it in the right way and from only the purest of intentions, with kindness and respect.
Reb Will Hill, I would like to know how I am not showing kavod hatorah. What posts have shown that? I certainly didn’t mean any lack of kavod hatorah. most of my posts are in the recipe/cooking department.
Reb will hill- I was offended by what you wrote. both posts. I am very upset right now with the petirah of the yidden in India, innocent people were killed. We don’t know each other, and we can at least write in a respectful manner of what we feel, it’s a free country still. I think tznius is very important, I don’t disagree with you. But I do not think it is tznius for a man to write posts on topics that don’t concern him, especially nowadays with what is going on in the internet, I don’t want to write about it but this is what got me very nervous. I hope you understand I don’t mean to write anything nasty, but this is very important to me, that men and women should be tznius will each other. May there be no more trouble in klal yisroel and moshiach should come really soon. shabbat shalom!
Reb Will Hill-
I thought I expressed how I felt in a respectful manner. Your comment “when I need your advise, I’ll ask” is uncalled for. I did not post my age, but I am probably old enough to be your mother, judging from your lack of maturity, so show a little derech eretz. After all, derech eretz kadma latorah. Shabbat Shalom!
Will Hill-
Speaking of Tznius…there are men and women in this coffee room, is it really appropriate for you to be starting all these threads asking personal questions? It’s starting to make me nervous on what your intentions truly are. Please stop it. thanks
I think that celebrating Thankgiving is lovely, although I didn’t grow up with it. I just find that having company Thursday and then cleaning up after and getting the house in order for shabbos too dificult. My kids have a full day of school on Thanksgiving, so it means pulling them out of school. Now if Thanksgiving was on a sunday that would be much better for me!
how about mixing bleach with water?