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THe reason why in the secular world therapy isnt something they hide is because in general when they meet each other its the externals that attract them to each other..they dont know the inner person and all his meshugaisen.
We try to look at the internals of a person,we as around about his middos,character and inner issues a person has ..We are looking to build a stable yiddish home, so we try to take the most stable and normal person possible. So you’re going to argue that a person that went for therapy is stable because they went for help and they are doing well..Well, Y do we need to take something that had issues? i’d rather take the girl/ boy who I (think) Know didn’t have any issues.
listen to you venting! 😉
I always wonder how it could be.. that soo many kids go through school and many many have questions. many are hurt, and not everyone goes off the derech?
Sof davar, yes i agree with you….Many people came out unbelieving.. we may not judge the generation that went through the unimaginable horrors of the holocaust! For some reason i find it hard to believe that hashem will judge them the same way we are judged..
mischiefmaker, it was far from a perfect world then.. I once heard one of the rabbiem speaking, I think it was Reb Avigdor Miller, but i’m not sure..He said don’t think that the holocaust came and everyone was perfect then..assimilation, intermarriage, alot alot of lost youth to all the isms.. It’s just that when u realize that Hitler meant all of us.. if you were chassidush, litvish, even a converted christian it didnt matter. he took each and every single one of them….It didnt help how integrated you were. Maybe they realized that externals didn’t help. running away and turning away from yiddishkeit didnt help.
Also, Hashem shouldnt put us into this nasoyan ever ever, but ppl. have different reactions under different circumstances. If you will look back in history you will see that many many people clung to their faith in all trying times,f.e. spanish inquisition, kazakhs, pogroms, and world wars people gave their life al kiddush hashem.. The yetzer hora failed!! but guess what!? He found a different Technic, He’s trying us with an abundance of good………and many many people are falling!
May hashem bring moshiach bakurev and take us out of this long and bitter exhile!
🙂 bad news! does that mean you have to move into the water on ur banana boat?
Banana boating is tons of fun minus the imaginary fish that i felt once i fell into the water! n seaweed that my hands got stuck in…
Do you count the eees?
Lol
Hmm. You think someone else is me, LAer talks / writes like me.. who am I really?
u tell me, Who knows?
And Wolf y do u refer to ur spouse as Eeees?
I got there @3:30 i saw someone that fit your bill. sitting and drying on the grass sitting next to his wife and i think a lil boy. but i guess it wasnt you.. u say you were gone by then
the family of 10 was a chassidush family? I think i saw them too
ha, bp totty, dont tell me i saw you! was there too!
I asked a shielah, most poskim didnt want to answer it. although finally i did get an answer from one rav. he said that anything that’s older than 5 years (n i bought many of them) is less of a shielah, .(I cant say you’re allowed to, cuz it would be ideal if everyone asks on their own) and anything that’s newer than 5 years should be bought.
Mod,I was just going to say that..
On the same note It says about rabbanim of generations are given according to what the people deserve or on the level they are .
About Eisev, we learnt that he was zoche to have his head buried there because he was great at kibud av
Problem with doing what you like is , ( as music lover29
says), that it doesn’t always bring him enough money.
So it isnt’ practical to do what you like.
So, we take our second best option.
Bp Totty, Do u really think there are people that think this way? I mean i’m sure there are, but why would they be in CR ? I think he’s a bored soul that enjoys making statements so people would respond.
Mosherose you really give me stuff to laugh about.. Depression is assur! WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that was a statement worth writing.. I mean cmon’
sof davar hakol nishma
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You got me all wrong, I agree with you.. since, I myself went for therapy and I think i’m really really normal. 😛
But, unfortunately there are many ppl. out there that think that way. Maybe that person needs someone she respects and whose opinion she really really values to coach her into going.
If she works , maybe she can work out something in middle of the day, and have it as her lunch hour, so her parents wouldnt need to know about it at all. I know of a friend that arranged it that way and it worked really great!
Also, I can see Why people are afraid of going for help.. People around here when they inquire about a shidduch would dismiss and right away so no to such a shidduch, obv. the girlboy is less than perfect if she/he needed therapy , why should I or my child have to live with someone who has problems? Yes, you’re going to argue that alot of people have problems they just didnt take care of it or u dont know about it.. But, why would u take something you DO know?
Ha, a Mod with sucha sense of humor!
I merely implied that it might be the case. Doesnt mean it is true.. as the wolf said, maybe from out of town
First, I think both spouses need to WANT to have a happy marriage. They need to communicate effectively. They need to have the same short and long term goals. They need to learn to live unselfishly. They need to learn to not take advantage of their spouses weaknesses. They need to learn to prioritize in all aspects: money, time, goals, happiness. And they need to be compatable. If you do all these things for each other, I think love, in most cases, will come.
Clearly we are dealing with one spouse that is UNWILLING to do anything or cooperate…. Also, Personally I feel that a person in such a marriage should be coaxed and encouraged to leave. Many times you find that the spouse is soo abused that they dont have the strength to demand a divorce when they really should. Nothing good can come out of such a marriage, not for the spouses and not for the kids..
Also, when either husband or wife wants to get a divorce and they are determined to do so, Is a rav able to say halacha recognized your reason as being invalid therefore, you cannot get divorced?
I dont understand your question.
I know because its someone i know well.. and i wrote i think since i dont live in the house to know for sure,but i heard..
Emotionally abusive. and yes i think has been physically abusive once or twice in the past!
Guess what, some people have different ideas of no alternative.. I know someone personally that is married to an abusive husband, and she called his rosh yeshivah and many rabbonim to try to influence him for the better …Since the guy is totally crazy and they realized they cant deal with him, they advised her to live beside him and be submissive.. OH well!
Mischiefmaker, I guess you from satmar
OH man! you better be careful squeak! you might be kicked outta here
shimmel
Member
Is there a correct Yiddish /english dictionary on how to translate yiddish words into correct spelled english?
‘mochul loch ‘
what on earth????????????
Nopes. Not in school anymore. BH!
Hard economic times @work =Alot of free time..
Dr. Kasha are you here for the depression support group?
Is there a correct Yiddish /english dictionary on how to translate yiddish words into correct spelled english?
Schimmel is a last name BTW in case you don’t know. But schimmel, why would you call urself schimmel, as in moldy?
Because we are sometimes boreed to the point of Moldy 🙁
I’m sure people think divorce is fun and that’s the reason they divorce.
Divorce is dirty, awful , stinky, heart wrenching and every negative word i can think of.
I have a hard time believing ppl. divorce because they have nothing to do! Yes, people divorce for reasons and i’m sure they have good reasons..It isnt always obvious and we don’t always know why….
Squeak? why were you schimmel a minute ago, and off again right now?
Must be there are two people in sucha sorry state!
Shimmel means Moldy.. or bored until you’re moldy
Mosherose you were sarcastic, werent you? Oh well, some ppl. say things to get a conversation going..not because they mean it!
OH! and squeak, how can i forget?
LOL
you were probably reffering to,
Wolf, Bp Totty, Kapusta, and nother one that didnt come up in my brain at the moment. no?
I guess this goes to teach us how careful we have to be while posting. you never know who’s reading or commenting
How do u kids text in school hours? are out of school? or, do u have internet access in school?
Daffy’s we love daffy’s! they have great stuff in their european designer racks..and u can shop for great prices! Century, Tj maxx, Loehmans, marshalls, filenes, off fifth, Woodbury commons..Jersey Gardens! Great places to pick stuff up..
I have the similar thing ur describing. No doctor was able to tell me what it was or help me in any way. One Doctor told me it might be stress related and square breathing would help it..You breath in through your nose hold it to the count of 4 breathe out and hold to the count of 4 so on and so forth. do it for about 5 minutes it should really help.
Yes i’d much rather have them in in smaller proportion! Do trials and tribulations humble you? Yes, do they shape you to be a better person? Most defenite, if you have the right thoughts. I’d be a hypocrite if i’d say that I’m always thinking that hashem loves me and therefore he’s trying me.
Our days arent always good! but we want to believe that they ARE for the better. That hashem is doing it only for our benefit, and that he’s taking care of us and guiding us all through the hard times. but how can u say they are all good?