Shidduch Solution

IS there a way to say it in Hebrew?

For all those who are Makpid in every word, I will rephrase.

I want ….They want ….

I want a learning person … My parents want a college person… or I want a college person… and they want a learning person.

We find many times that singles and their parents are not looking for the same in a Shidduch. How is a single or their parents supposed to try and find a Shidduch if a Shaddchan calls a parent and the parent says that the single is looking for something else than what the single really wants?

The Shidduch World Staff

http://www.shidduchworld.org

732 534-4539

P.S. If you know of anyone in need of a Shidduch, please refer them to us. Our service is free.

Thank you all for posting on this Blog.

Firstly like all rules there are exceptions to the rule like to all rules.

I deal with many Shidduchim daily and have come across many Parents that won’t let me talk to their daughters about a Shiddcuh idea even though their daughters were/are 30 years or older.

Recently I spoke to a parent of a 29 year old single. She was looking for a Yeshiveshe Brisk Lakewood type of boy, must be afull time and long term learner, no divorced boy and so on. Mind you, She and her family wear Chasideshe Levush with a Shtraimel. I explained to him that there are no such guys around and asked to speak to his daughter to explain to her directly that she is looking for the almost impossible. He refused to put her on the phone.

There are many such stories.

It’s in a way a family crises when you have parents that won’t let their children date because of their own Kovod, or not wanting to do a Shidduch with the other family, or for some other ridiculous reason.

To all parents out there who are guilty. STOP CAUSING YOUR CHILDREN’S SHIDDUCH CRISSES

M. Silberstein

Shidduch World

http://www.shidduchworld.org

732 534-4539

To Pashuteh Yid

When I asked R’ Shmuel Kamintzky about my web site, http://www.shidduchworld.org He said it’s a great thing. I then asked Him how can it be great if it uses the internet? His answer was that Hatzolos Nifoshos is Doiche the Issur of the internet.

Thanks for asking.

Moshe S.

To happy girl

It is very important that we have that on our web site. On the third Page it asks about collage and anything that’s not in our questionnaire can be filled in at about yourself on Page 2. If you have any suggestions how we can approve our web site, Please send us an e-mail [email protected]

One of the fetures of Shidduch World is that You can ask A Rav Doctor or Shadchan questions about Shidduchim. (without saying who you are)

Question:

I’ve been wondering, if I wanted to go shopping for a dress, and I sent my sister to the store to find me one and she would come home every day with another dress, I think it would take an awfully long time for me to find what I like. Wouldn’t it be a better idea for me to go to the store and pick out myself what I like? Why is is that in shidduchim we are constantly relying on other people to set us up with someone? Why isn’t it possible for girls/boys to access info about girls/boys themselves and pick who they think would be a good candidate. You will more likely like someone you picked out than someone a third party picked out for you. Please answer.

Our Answer:I’m glad you figured out what shidduch world is all about. Sign up and help yourself.

What is your answer?

To Happy Girl

This website was started 4 months ago and we made shidduchim from the site. Feel free to contact me and I will try to help you.

Thanks

Shidduch World

To Mr. Nasi BB1

We have many national and international Shidduchim dating and we did make shidduchim. (through hire a Shaddchan and through our self search system. I am open to hear of all organizations that are trying to help others with Shidduchim. I did not start Shidduch World in order to solve the Creators problems. In Yiddish its called Klein Keppeldig when you think that only what you are doing is a solution.

The Shidduch World Staff

EDITED

To all those inquiring about hire a shadchan, please realize that it’s is NOT the goal of the website! The main part is our SEARCHABLE DATABASE where singles can look for suitable shidduchim ON THEIR OWN, at no charge.

Hiring a shadchan is a side service for those interested.

emphasis added by moderator

To tzippi

Please clarify your question?

To BB1

The assigned Shaddchan assigned to you is committed to redd you at least one shidduch weekly suitable to your expectations. There is a limited amount of how many singles a shaddchan can work for.

Every hired Shidduch World Shaddchan is required to submit a log to Shidduch Worlds staff with the singles that they suggested to that single.

$360. is a monthly fee.

Thank You

To all my coffee room friends,

As one who is intimately involved in the frum Shidduch scene, we are pleased to inform you of a brand new resource being launched to assist in the Shidduch process for our community. As you surely know, the burgeoning growth of our families bli ayin horah, along with the growing diversity of our community, has made the Shidduch process today, perhaps more challenging then ever before.

While the media focus on this subject has brought about an increased awareness of the issue, it seems that the only real solution to this problem is to create new approaches and venues for accessibility to the growing number of frum singles. Particularly, singles with limited connection or exposure to the broader communal infrastructure.

The proliferation of internet usage has brought about a host of matchmaking websites, many of them ostensibly geared toward the Orthodox community. Yet these websites really do not serve the needs of our circles. As a community, we recognize the inappropriateness of bochurim and Bais Yaakov girls scanning through pictures on a website in search of their basherte. We are in no way prepared to do away with the time-honored approach of consummating our shidduchim through a Shadchan. Nor are we willing to, in any way, compromise on our community’s standards of tznius and discretion within this process.

Yet, the internet is an immensely powerful tool, which can be used to help mitigate the challenge of shidduchim in unprecedented way.

It is with this in mind that ShidduchWorld.org was launched by a group of dedicated volunteers. The mission of Shidduch World is not to revolutionize or change the process of shidduchim in any way.Rather, our goal to harness the power of the web to create a database resource through which singles and Shadchanim would gain access to each other in an expedient and effective manner.

With the guidance of Gedolim and Rabbonim, we have created a website where singles can upload their profiles, which would include a basic description of themselves and their background including their Shul affiliation and personal rabbinic contact. Profiles of our listed singles would then be accessible and searchable, without names or photos, so that other singles would view potential shidduchim in the database based upon compatibility factors alone. Shidduch World will feature a staff of Shadchanim available to carry through Shidduchim upon request. Shidduch World’s Shadchanim would also consistently work on shidduchim for the singles in our database based upon their preferences and listed profiles.

The effectiveness of such a database cannot be overestimated, and has earned the wholehearted support of leading gedolim and rabbonim. The site also features options for hiring a personal Shadchan, as well as for posting one’s name for Tefillah and for asking questions anonymously from our affiliated Shadchanim, Rabbonim and Doctors.

We are reaching out you and others who can assist us in building the Shidduch World database. By compiling a list of singles and their profiles and submitting it to us (with the single’s permission, of course) you can assist us in the creation of this vital resource. We have also attached a convenient letter, which you can forward to your list of singles and their families, urging them to join in this project.

Please visit our site at http://www.shidduchworld.org for a more detailed description of this service and for information on how Shadchanim would maintain access to our database.

For any further questions, please feel free to contact us at [email protected]. We look forward to your assistance and we thank you in advance for your time.

In this zechus, may be blessed from Shomayim with a Happy Chanuka for your entire family; a year filled with nachas and hatzlacha in all endeavors.

Sincerely,

Moshe Silberstein

Founder; ShidduchWorld.org

This service is meant to encourage a shadchan to give your profile more attention than others.