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apy: What about the Tosfos DY cited?
Evidence of its rarity: In the secular world there are many arrests for spousal abuse. In the frum world, such arrests are exceedingly rare.
Do you have any contrary evidence, other than suppositions and assumptions?
A sign on a wall doesn’t make it a big issue. Even an issue like this affecting only a small number, needs to be brought to attention, for those affected.
You didn’t challenge klach when he claimed it is a big issue. Why did you only challenge the opposite assertion?
I agree. A woman *is* better for a man to marry.
Do you know otherwise? How so?
It’s the machashava behind it.
So if someone spreads kefira, without having intended to, it’s okay??
Some even have the minhug of not calling ones wife by her name when non-family is present.
My wife.
The research keeps changing every decade or two.
It can.
It’s smaller than people are made to believe. Of course even one is one too much. But let’s not over dramatize it. B”H it’s pretty good out there.
NY just let you know what the alternative is.
That’s another reason why divorce is so terrible for both the parents (the father in your case) and the children (who lost a parent as a result).
popa: When a rov refers one to a therapist that is okay. He knows when it is needed and can direct to an appropriate therapist. He also knows when a therapist is dangerous. But it is dangerous for one to refer himself to some therapist, who could for all you know be a dangerous clown.
No one’s forcing you to take a new minhug upon yourself. Don’t begrudge those who do have those minhugim.
100 and something. (I saw a mod one hundred and something once.)
I don’t understand. Just because your parents are divorced doesn’t mean you don’t have a father. (Unless the mother didn’t let him see the child.)
Not as big as some would make it out to be. It is relatively rare.
It looks fine to me.
Tell that to the AriZal.
Because they’re from Mars.
I agree 100% klach. The right rov is far far better than any therapist.
The Upsherin long predates the Chasidim. Rav Chaim Vital wrote in (the 1500’s in) Sha’ar HaKavanos that the AriZal gave his son’s hair “the known minhug of upsherin” on Lag B’Omer in Miron. Many Sefardim also practiced it before the Chasidim. The Ridvaz also writes that “it is already a custom in all the surrounding areas to consider upsherin as a full-fledged neder”.
There are good therapists, but I don’t think you can say most of them are good.
So if any older unmarried boy (or even male divorcee or widower) wants to get married, he should not have much problem, since there are more available girls than boys could ever marry.
What are therapists trained for?
Of course Rabbonim and R”Y’s have training.
I’m not surprised. I’m incredulous at that comment.
A Rov and RY doesn’t have training or expertise??
And you think the therapist *will* let you know that he is over his head? Nope. At least not as long as you are paying him (or the insurance is.)
So, DY, in your humble opinion, considering that you feel that there is no way (short of a neis) that all the current older single girls can all get married… what will be with them?
Rav Yisroel Mayer Kagan ZT”L (“The Chofetz Chaim”) founded the Yeshiva in 1864. Until his passing in 1933, he was recognized worldwide as the leader of Klall Yisroel (World Jewry). He spread his message of Torah teachings through proclamations, lectures and through the publishing of his twenty-one books on the laws of daily living, charity, kindness, and careful speech (Refraining from Loshon Horah (gossip) etc.).
The Chofetz Chaim picked his son-in-law Rav Mendel Zaks Zt”l as Rosh HaYeshiva in Radin. Upon Arriving to the US during WWII, Radiner Rosh Hayeshiva gathered his surviving talmidim and restarted the Yeshiva and Kollel Kodshim in New York with his son Rav Geshon Zaks the Rosh Hayeshiva Zt”l.
It is now sixty years since the Yeshiva has been driven out from Radin and Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim continues on the path set out by its founding fathers as a guiding beacon of light in these dark, confusing and turbulent times. In addition to our primary mission to deliver unparalleled quality in Jewish Torah education, the Yeshiva is a center of kindness, charity and assistance to those who are less fortunate. The Yeshiva has established a network for extensive communal assistance reaching out to hundreds of families and individuals in their time of need.
The Yeshiva is under the leadership of the Roshei HaYeshiva
Horav Yisroel Mayer Zaks Shlit”a and Horav Aryeh Zev Zaks Shlit”a.
Sony can give it to me for a fee as well. What’s your fee?
I would say most people would greatly benefit from seeing a Rov or RY.
Why don’t you ask your RY. It is HIS comment.
Can you give me Playstation credentials?
Why isn’t Monsey affiliated? Wasn’t Monsey started by the Chofetz Chaim’s einekel before the war.
Huh?
Very few couples considering divorce would not benefit from therapy. Most divorces could have been prevented. Future divorces should be prevented.
When was CC Monsey started (and by whom)?
The stigma has unfortunately been removed. So it happens far too frequently.
Which is older, CC Monsey or CC Queens? And what is the relationship between the two?
There are more of those than new female b”t?
anon: So if she is married but living apart, she would not include her husband’s income?
What if she’s married and living apart, but living with a new bf — she would exclude her husband’s and include her bf’s?
Divorce is usually the wrong fix. There are a lot more appropo fixes.
Again, the discussion was of the the problem relating to the *current* generation of older girls. We are being told that *there is no solution*. So what else is there but a nes, for *all* the *current* girls to get married?
In any case, should the possibility that things will not be better be a reason to leave the status quo?
The change can be worse than the status quo.
The courts? Surely you jest. The courts make the wrong decision more times than not.
Is this the Chofetz Chaim of Radin yeshiva in Monsey everyone is talking about? Because really, they have the true mesorah of the Chofetz Chaim.
How is their mesorah any more true than anyone elses?