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You can get awesome deals on Dells
Hello to you too. Make yourself comfortable.
Toll booths, right in the middle of nowhere. It may be an endangered species now.
Escalators!!
By the way, it’s normal to have bad days here and there. If it’s more often than that, and/or if it’s more like miserable, try to identify the triggers. Take it from there.
His spouse’s idea. JK
Serach. As in Serach Bas Asher.
Off topic:
2good2btrue = “Exercise definitely usser”
The Ramba”m actually recommends doing exercise, so are you more frum and smarter than the Ramba”m?
All’s well that ends well 😉
In my opinion, this goes by the local minhag. In NYC, the minhag is to bump, because people park so close to each other that you need to. In most other communities, it is highly frowned upon.
I assumed we were talking NYC
In NYC, the people with the fancy cars take up 2.5 parking spots, and the people with the driveways take up 2 parking spots. One for their driveway and one for their car.
So no wonder everyone else around them has no choice but to play bumping cars.
The size of man – the definition is limited to your imagination. The possibilities are plenty.
(Someone mentioned rating posts or posters the other day. Hence my reply.)
I thought it was done intentionally for search purposes. The original spelling.
That’s why rating posts might not be such a great idea after all…
You probably had something else in mind. I have a gut feeling as to what it might be.
Or Bob Grant..
whats wrong with a nice old car?
Would it make you happier if you bumped a nice old car?
I wonder how.
How would you respond to Savage on Metzitzah
I would borrow a famous line from someone and say: “Get off my phone… Will you??
And I would actually get off it myself.
I didn’t hear anything about this before. I thought they’re reliable. But now I’m not sure. Did anyone else hear anything about this?
Can we start by rating this thread?
(No offense, I couldn’t resist..)
Your relative might not have any underlying problems. And probably had a fair evaluation.
Gamanit, The above message was written specifically for Health.
Possible. I specially wrote LOL so it should be obvious that it’s in jest. The question sounded more like it’s coming from halachik standpoint or for information purposes regarding a scenario where it’s there already. That’s why I thought I can afford to make the joke. They didn’t ask if they should or should not..
But thanks.
You can always get a temporary tattoo… Lol
Hi, Health. I am saying it again because I believe it, not because I want you to believe it. I’m actually not trying to convince you, (nor would I brainwash you..) but I maintain that these medications are over prescribed, often don’t work and that ADHD is often misdiagnosed or not diagnosed at all.
And last but not least, a patient that has underlying issues can definitely benefit from therapy and see if it works before letting themselves be convinced that they MUST take medication.
You’re entitled to your own opinion, of course, but this is the way I see it. You’re welcome to see it differently, though.
T613, “Imho, tests should be academic. You shouldn’t get a +2 for doing things. “
I don’t know the kid or the situation, so I won’t comment on this.
What about kids whose mothers need them at home?
I gave you one reason why I didn’t like this policy. You’re bringing another. I agree with you. I have many more reasons as to why I don’t like this policy. I commented on the Tefillah part because this is what I thought you meant.
(As a side point, I’m pretty sure the mother can phone the teacher if she is averse to it…)
Yes, I am aware of ADHD and the different treatment options. But this disease called ADHD is overly diagnosed and often treated with meds unnecessarily.
Many kids who are diagnosed with ADHD have many underlying problems that when treated, the ADHD symptoms miraculously disappears.
So is that ADHD?
Health, yes, these people are trained and worked very hard in medical school. I agree. I go to doctors too when I need to. However, when it comes to ADHD, this is how I feel about them.
I’ve heard many a patient get Ritalin for the asking. You don’t need med school for that. And many of these doctors who did take a couple minutes to “diagnose”, actually misdiagnosed.
And these meds often don’t work well with the kids.
Policy is not going to get this kid where the teacher would like. Even if she goes to shul. You can’t force anyone to daven even with incentives… If this kid wants to daven, she will. And if she doesn’t want to, so then all the incentives in the world will not help.
yiddeshemeidle613, Getting to school on time for davening is nice, but this kid might still not be davening.
younglady, so in that case girls shouldn’t go anywhere. How about girls working on their middos? Are you sure that this is the reason for The Gra?
Health = Most need to be on pills so that the therapy can even begin to work!
Oh, really? I don’t think so.
Health = What – by repeating it again it Now becomes true? It was false the first time and it’s still false the second time.
Doesn’t mean I agree that kids should be given junk in school, shul or home. But this has nothing to do with ADHD!
I know someone that took their child to a doctor for an evaluation and got an RX for Ritalin because the Dr. diagnosed ADHD. The mother put the RX in her pocket and refused to fill it.
Instead, she took the child off sugar completely and in a matter of days, there was a significant change in behavior. She kept him off sugar and went to this Dr. for a follow-up. The Dr. said that the kid is doing great, and the medication must be working and told her to keep the kid at the same dose.
The mother then told the Dr. that she had in fact never filled the rx, but tried to keep him away from sugar first and when she saw that it’s actually working, there was no need for her to get the meds then.
The rest is history.
Health, just because an individual in a white coat that happens to have a prescription pad, said so, doesn’t make it reason enough for someone to run to these pills as the “solution”. A lot of “diagnosed” cases have been proven wrong.
True, medication is definitely a blessing sometimes and it surely helped plenty kids, but only sometimes.
Health, many kids who take meds were never really diagnosed. Many kids, who were diagnosed, were misdiagnosed or didn’t have a decent evaluation at all.
And many kids don’t do well with the meds.
And like popa_bar_abba said, taking care of the underlying psychological issues before popping these pills is good idea.
And like I said, reducing the sugar intake significantly is a good start.
PBA: Awesome!!
I believe that reducing a significant amount of sugar in their diets is a good start and will make a big difference.
Everything is loaded with sugar these days, even non-junk food and sugar really affects the kids. A large majority of kids can not handle even a moderate amount of sugar and when they have crazy amounts of sugar, they will behave, well, hyper.
(Having said that, this is not the Mayor’s job, though.)
We don’t know enough about this “kid” to be able to answer this question intelligently.
You might want to look into Staten Island, by the way. I know it’s in NY, but from what I hear it’s very affordable and it’s a nice mix.
Torah, LOL
TGS, That’s not how it’s done…
Great, so we get to have it all.
I find that quite interesting. Try again.
Vayechulu is Kiddush. Borei Pri Hagefen is a Brocha.
Yes, Waterbury is Chareidi
Brony, Are you sure he “forgot”?
DY,
And the shops that manage to produce a ready pie 15 minutes after the zman, also started to work before the zman. They were just lucky enough not to get caught…
PBA= “Everyone who I know who likes pizza is.“
Sorry, not everybody likes herring 😉
Passaic, NJ
Monsey, NY
Waterbury, CT
Chicago, IL
DaMoshe = “so I could not get pizza when I had finished getting my home turned back around.“
And you obviously lived to tell the tale… How bad was it?
Oh please, Schmerling and Alprose, can’t compare. If you had Schmerling’s, why did you need Alprose?
polisha chosid: The OP asked specifically for instant coffee
He has a shul now? When, where and how did THAT happen?
saysme = “ Where do you get this from? It may apply to some girls, and the opposite may be true for others, that by offering help, by having casual conversation, the mood is improved and calmed and made positive. Perhaps her starting discussion on a safe topic can lead to a shared laugh, a positive moment together. By acting like a servant, who only helped when and what asked and avoiding conversation, this can actually cause a blowup, anger, or resentment.“
I am not suggesting for her to ignore mom or to go on a shut-down. What I did suggest, was to keep discussions to a minimum and not to offer more help than is necessary.
From what she said about her mom, she will not end up having too many light and easy conversations and definitely not any shared laughs. On the contrary, her mom will get irritated and annoyed.
If you say that the mood will improve, etc, let me tell you that in most cases it certainly does not. When it does, it’s very temporary, lasting only a couple minutes and can be worse later.
(If you know anyone who somehow got better by offering more help, then I can guarantee you that their situation or their mother was obviously not the same as this one.)
And yes, keeping a low profile will help her cope better. It’s definitely not a solution, but for now, a way to cope with the situation, until there is a solution.
Long may it last. LOL. 😉
APBYG:
Sounds great. You’re doing really good. Keep it up.
You’re strong and smart and you will get through this.
Keeping a low profile should help,(for now)keep in mind that you will not get her approval by offering more help around the house, on the contrary. It will most likely irritate her even more and will probably backfire. Many girls in your situation think that if they help more, etc then things will be better for them. This usually doesn’t work. When she asks for help, try not engaging in conversation with her and don’t overwork.
Above all, remember that this is her problem, not yours.
Wishing you a Chag Kosher V’Sameach. 🙂
aproudbyag:
Good for you for having taken the first step by starting to speak out about your pain. This is by no means an easy thing to do and you must be a very strong and courageous individual. That being said, I believe it may be time for you to take the second step and call one of the numbers you got to speak to an adult that can guide you step-by-step.
The reason this is so important for you to do still before Yom Tov is because you will definitely be around mom a lot more over the next 2 weeks and the tensions will be high. Between the late night schedules, meals around the clock, unstructured days, etc.
I urge you to call ASAP as this is literally a matter of Pikuach Nefesh.