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-Take yourself to a nice mall. You like shopping 🙂

-Chocolate was a nice idea too. Throw yourself a party and turn on the music.

-Shopping, I saw a cute magnet the other day – I think you would like it. It read: “Don’t treat me any differently than you would the queen.”

-Exercise really helps too and is so healthy for you.

Good luck, and feel better.

Keep smiling, it really suits you. 😉

ikno, you seem to be really caring and devoted to your students and frustrated that you are not connecting to this girl.

First off, I think said student really *needs* your approval but she’s unwilling to admit to this right now and she is willing to go to great lengths just to get your attention. I’m guessing that she somehow got used to getting negative attention all the time and this is her way.

See if you can find anything positive – anything, no matter how minor you think it is, to help encourage and praise her. Focus on that. Praise her when you catch her doing something good and tell her how amazing her good qualities are.(even if it’s something like remembering to do her homework) Eventually she will realize that it’s useless to disrupt your classes because she’s getting positive attention from you anyway.

If all else fails, and you’ve tried different techniques for another little while, then I would see this as a cry for help, in which case I would suggest you proceed with caution. When you do, ask your principal if there’s an expert on complicated chinuch matters on the school board, or if the school has someone to consult with on this matter.

I wish you good luck with this, and all other chinuch challenges that come your way as a teacher. I have tremendous respect for you as you seem to be very caring, compassionate and serious in your role as someone on the front lines of chinuch and literally working on behalf of Klal yisroel.

Hatzlacha.

Pleasure

heretohelp wrote:

One of the more disgusting threads I’ve read in a while. Mods, since nobody seems to have any information about shadchan’s for people from broken homes, and this has degenerated into just making negative comments about people based on circumstances beyond their control, I suggest it be closed.

For the record, I know many people from so-called broken homes who are wonderful people with wonderful middos, and plenty others from “good homes” who are obnoxious jerks severley lacking in mentschlekeit.

This. Bingo!

Shopping, because they both have layers.

I know for a fact that they work

How can you be so sure?

But why don’t you save it for aniyei ircha?

Perhaps s/he has already done that also.

Its not a chidush that a kid whos parents pay full tuition will be treated better than a kid whos parents arent paying in full. Yeshivos today are a business. If you are a good customer you get special treatment. Its no wonder that the yeshivos today are failing at inculcating our youth with yiras shomayim.

Right. I fully understand all of that. However, I don’t see why it’s considered unfair treatment to encourage a kid to apologize to another kid. When in the world would he get a proper chinuch?

We’re not talking about punishing him, or sending him to the principal. We’re talking about *apologizing*.

And if the Rebbe chose to consider it unfair to the rich kid, then fine. Nobody’s stopping the Rebbe from apologizing on his own behalf instead.

Right, Feif. Unfortunately some mechanchim think it’s beneath them to apologize after they did something wrong. They just have to remember that they’re human.

Wow, Feif, that’s awful and unfortunately so common.

I think it’s amazing that you were able to stand up for yourself. (Even though it backfired) very many kids are not able to.

A good teacher would put their ego aside for the sake of chinuch (and justice) WHEN NECESSARY. We need more of those!

Seriously? Wow that was a long time. Hope you’re feeling better and welcome back!

abbybar33, going to seminary is a fantastic experience even if you come from a solid home. There’s so much to learn and if you have the opportunity it can be very beneficial for you even on a social level. If you would like to work part time, or teach or whatever, then you can look into half-day seminary.

You are essentially the only one that can decide what’s right for you. You need to think about it and figure out what it is that would work for you. If you feel that you want to get a head start on getting a degree, then of course you might want to do college instead, or at the same time. But if you were not considering college, and haven’t decided on a job yet, so maybe you should consider seminary.

And in regards to careers, nobody can really tell you. You have to pursue something that you know you would enjoy doing. Good luck.

writersoul, Bookworm and Rebdoniel, I am hereby joining the “Pesach Rainbow Cake Club”. I’ll be happy to bring coffee for all. Out of all the Pesach goodies, I have got to say that the rainbow cake is still the best ever.

If they don’t tell you? They don’t have to tell anyone. It’s common knowledge that energy healers use some sort of energy. It’s been documented that these energies are acquired from avodah zarah sources. These practitioners admit that they’re energy healers so what don’t we know?

Someone who keeps the mods really occupied. (Understatement.)

And also gets a great deal of satisfaction when people in the coffee room are talking about him.

Awesome veltz!

Assaf, this must be very difficult for you right now. But you might feel surprisingly more comfortable after having an honest conversation with your parents. Easier said than done, but you won’t feel so much pressure after.

As long as you’re being respectful and without any blaming.

Writing a letter is also a good option.

May Hashem guide you with Rachamim.

I did not mean to personalize my previous comment.

It was *in response to* sheepyaff, and it should have stated that Hashem doesn’t need from an *individual*. Etc.

I think this arrangement is saving people tax dollars. I think so.

wanttohelpandask. I really appreciate that you forgave me instantly, as I did not want to offend you. I apologize for my reaction.

The above incident is not funny at all. I just reacted to the matter-of-fact way in which you wrote it. And I did so without thinking, which I admit was silly.

Yes, these past few weeks have been really intense and we should all try to hold onto the Kedusha and be inspired by the little messages that we encounter daily.

I strongly believe that it’s necessary to be careful in our speech especially during tense moments. I myself am also working on this currently.

In addition, I think it’s very impressive that you took a lesson from this and learnt something important. Most kids would get really upset and continue with physical threats and arguments and you, on the other hand, saw the message so clearly. I think you’re very mature and I really admire you.

That sell hats so I can get one shipped.

Get one shipped? You need to try them on. You don’t want to end up with an ill-fitting hat.

SanityIsOverrated said:

I plan on changing the world in a positive way. Till that’s possible, I’ve got my regular life goals. Of course, I’m too busy trolling online to pay attention to either of my goals 🙂

So, here’s a famous quote I really like from Steve Jobs (late co-founder of Apple Inc)

-Steve Jobs

am i supposed to fit into my family? am i wrong for going “more?”

I’m assuming that with “more” – you meant more religious?

That is very frustrating.

I’m guessing that your relatives are giving you a hard time because when they see you, their conscience starts niggling at them and the truth hurts. That being said, you can be polite and firm at the same time and simply tell them that this is how you chose to dress, speak etc and it’s working for you and most importantly, it’s what you feel is right. I don’t think they would bring it up again after that.

Yes, it is hard, definitely.

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Eclipse, I’m hoping you’ll drop by to say “hi” every now and then, so I won’t say goodbye! Wishing you much Hatzlacha in everything you do. May this be a very *sweet* and gut yohr for you.