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And yes, I think that employees that have some integrity would find a way around it…
Unfortunately, employees must follow regulations. Very sad indeed. No employee should ever be in that position.
And thanks for putting up a disclaimer before your opinion. I’m sure it helps.
With all due respect, Parents need to get to know their children and sit down with them way before they reach shidduch age.
I agree with the Mishtatef part if it’s possible.
The metzuyan business is ridiculous. If only the metzuyanim would sit and learn, the shuls would be empty. Just because someone is not a metzuyan doesn’t mean he can’t be supported in his learning.
While some people are immature when they get married, they will eventually grow up. The problem is, when the other spouse, also immature still, can’t wait a bit. It should take between 12-20 months for the average person to mature.
There are people who will never mature either. They will be 70 year old babies, the older they get the more hopeless the situation becomes. Those are a different story altogether. And they’re definitely not as common and is a whole separate discussion.
And yes, some people are mature enough when they get married but that’s not the discussion here.
I don’t think that we in the CR can do much about it. Bigger and stronger people tried.
commonsense, I’m with you on that one. Well put.
It was actually suggested because you were asking if they should admit.
Absolutely. You’re right on.
My mistake for writing “should’ve”. Didn’t mean to tell you what to do. It was more like a suggestion. I thought it might make your life a bit easier if you did. But if it doesn’t, feel free to do what works with you.
(I know you don’t need anyone’s permission. Just clarifying that it was meant as a suggestion, not as a command.)
Thank you
Or, they can start believing 😉
I just couldn’t resist.
The person should’ve admitted a very long time ago. It’s a part of who they are. They anyway can’t fool the family forever. At one point it’s going to come out anyway. You may as well be tough about it.
In a situation like this it helps to wear a cap. You get a better chance at winning 😉
I highly recommend sitting in Starbucks. It’s conducive to inspiration. and the longer you sit there, the more inspiration you get. Lol. Wish I had the time. Lol
Don’t drive when you’re tired.
Don’t text behind the wheel.
yytz:
Great post. All of it
Also, the guy sees the messages being sent his way.If he somehow picks up that his date finds it cool that girls like him, he will respond accordingly.(Yes, he will definitely pick up on those subtle messages.) She’ll need to be careful not to send wrong messages…
Think first:
I agree. And it’s not considered stealing, that’s why I used quotation marks. I quoted a previous poster.
Decaf is not considered coffee
We don’t only bring up problems. Every once in a while, someone will bring up their itinerary. Feel free to share yours, especially when it becomes fun and interesting.
mobe613:
Everybody will wear whatever they’re comfortable in. Why don’t you join just to take the photos?
Some will be wearing ski masks. Others will be in their yarmulkes. I’m sure some dudes will wear their black hats, and straw hats, and I’m pretty sure they’ll be a guy or 2 in bicycle helmets. This sight will be worth it to cover live, so don’t send anyone, come yourself.
TKND:
Exactly. That’s why he’s not a Rasha. His survival instincts kicked in. Who said otherwise?
And we may as well “hijack” this post, the same way 90% of the other important posts get hi-jacked.
Popa:
Yes I’m definitely coming. And we won’t be wearing any baseball caps, so it will be a “kosher” excursion. I think Kosher enough for mobe613 to join. If not for the skiing part, then for the Journalism aspect to it.
Working night shift? 😉
Mammele: “From what you’re describing, the not letting yourself in a nutshell = fear of committing.”
Actually, no. And I think Calee knows what that means. She’ll work on it.
“I have a riddle:
Q. Where does the Torah lie?
A. It says ????? ???? ?? ???, and they weren’t married yet.
yes but he also married Leah and that seemed to have worked out for them. “
Awesome!!
Me? Jealous??? Never!
Especially considering the fact that I do have another chance at wining a “prize”. If I’m in on the deal that is… I’ll have to seriously think about it though…
Calee:
“Also, i was thinking maybe it has to do with the fact that he’s so excited and so forward–before he told me all this, i had no idea he was feeling this way, i couldnt tell how interested he was. and thats when i did feel attraction.
but now that he told me, i find myself being a bit put off. is that a problem? is it something i can work on? “
Sure, this is all part of “not ‘letting’ you.”
And yes, you can definitely work on it but it will be HARD work. The good news is, that everything else you mentioned, especially about this guy seems awesome so the hard work will pay off.
Start with trying to figure out where this is coming from. It might take a while for you to realize. Maybe an adult that knows you well can help you a little. If you have a mentor see if you can discuss this with your mentor.
Oooh cool! So the deal is like this: If you try and guess like a good girl / boy, then you get to be right or wrong. And then if you’re wrong, you get to write an assignment.. And MAYBE you’ll end up winning a prize. (Probably a thread dedicated to you or something) I really have to think if I’m in on this deal.
How about, the one’s that never bothered guessing need to write the epic and we all get to vote??? Please, please, please 😉
OK, think about it…
Realtalk:
“Would you be okay introducing him to people?”
Irrelevant. The answer will show more about her than about him.
“Let us know what happens”
Why?
A person that ‘stole’ instead of starving to death is not necessarily a bad person. Just someone who had a challenge. He didn’t steal for the sake of stealing, he stole for the sake of surviving. There is a difference. (And no, I never had that challenge)
Trusting and feeling comfortable is BIG. The question you need to ask yourself is: Would you also be anxious when you get little gifts from other people? Or from someone you would be attracted to? Do you let other people do stuff for you? If the answer is no, then you need to look for the underlying reason. There is such a concept of not “letting” yourself feel attracted.
A Rasha is an individual who does evil for the sake of doing evil.
And goyim that violate their little set of Noahides.
Sure, and watch him help himself to a fourth term.
No. It looked like too many explanations were, um, too many. But I might be wrong.
The Goq asked because he wants to stay up later.
cherrybim:
You’re confusing the poor guy.
As with everything else.
Mobe613:
Great examples. Popas posts are all important. How else would we know when he’s going skiing? I for one would love to join, but I joined the coffee room a bit too late for that. I think.
And please stick to your own topic. Thank you.
Squeak:
Did I miss anything? Which part is the moshol?
No. Halachically it’s not enough. Sorry.
Oh, apologies.
I really like the mods. I think they make this Coffee Room a whole lot more fun. But why are they all picking on shnitzy tonight? Just curious.
So if he’s trying to keep up appearances, he wouldn’t have a problem doing the amud thing. And if he’s indeed trying to keep up appearances, who in shul would know the truth to be able to ask the shayla?
Technically speaking, Halachically it would not be allowed. Theoretically, nobody will be able to stop him anyway. (Because they wouldn’t know the truth..)
Mobe613
“I am not saying majority of caps are for bad reasons”
I personally think none of the caps are for bad reasons. You won’t know what the reason is unless you ask. You need to go over to the cap-wearer and ask them directly. You’d be surprised at the different answers you’ll get. Good luck.
And why?
The question should be: “Would a person who does not believe in Hashem, daven at all?”
fkelly:
Kelly is an Irish name.
Mobe613:
Define “important”. Please
Wolfish:
I’m afraid you’re giving him more “homework” than he can handle 😉