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no boss likes it when there are 20 minute conversations, and then the next 20 minutes when the third person comes in – certainly they don’t like when you play solitaire – These are very blatant wrongdoings, and the boss unfortunately has to pick his battles cause you can’t yell at all the workers all the time – but that doesn’t take away from it being very wrong – i remember one boss telling me that he once had someone check his phone bills, and there were employees that were on the phone for local calls for over 5 out of 8 hours – although i also need a break now and then for some interoffice chitchat or a walk down the coffee room, i try very hard to make up the time so that my boss doesn’t lose out.
Try Chaim Reinman – just heard him tonight singing with Eli Wax – and he’s great – I also love Simcha Yosef Mann from Cleveland
hurray for interlinear siddurim – my davening has taken on a new dimension with them! Thank you artscroll
sorry for double quoting you derech hamelech – your post wasn’t printed when i displayed blog
I quote –
1. (40 days for a ??? to form )- ???? ????? ???? ???
2. ??? ??? ?????, ??? ?? ???, ??? ?? ???, ????? ????? ???? ?? ????? (moshe rabbeynu went to shamayim, and in 40 days was elevated and transformed to level of ???? )
3. ???? ???? ????? A ???? has 40 ??? of water – each ??? is 24 ??? and can transform to purity
6. ?????? ?’ in the ???? ?????? says that it takes 40 days of practicing a new behavior to change that behavior or ???.
7. There are 40 days from rosh chodesh ???? until ??? ????
how about leaving the online payment and adding their name to your tefillos for parnassah.
I am shocked that this video was posted – and that we are allowing everyone a field day with their comments. Regardless of our opinion of what happened here, posting and commenting about two people in klal yisroel is scary stuff. I understand that by the couple going public with their complaint, there is a certain amount of relaxed feeling that we are not participating in the publication, but it is not true. Television is not our haimishe oilem forum, and Yeshiva World is. I am no expert, but to me this is lashon harah and motzei shem rah.
Our world today is inappropriate for women AND FOR MEN. There are terrible things going on with men in the workplace, it is just that there is no apparent solution since you gotta make a living. Since women in the workplace is a relatively newer phenomenon in our circles, it is still an ‘option’. But with the kollel lifestyle where women have to work, you have to go back to being very strong – if you are going to work in the workplace, you better learn halacha constantly, go to shiurim, reinforce your hashkafos, because whether you are a man or a woman, today’s workplace is INAPPROPRIATE. There have been scandals in bais yaakov offices and of course many many more nisyonos in the standard workplace , ain apotropos l’arayaos – I remember R’Avigdor Miller a”h said that if your husband has a secretary make sure she is very old and looks like a monkey. May we merit Mashiach b’karov and not have these terrible nisyonos.
the OP is stating a fact – we treat single girls as ‘one of the girls’ and not with the respect accorded to a married woman. Of course, there is a self esteem issue – you try a 24/7 nisayon where you are up for evaluation, judged, pitied, all the time while you have to maintain the i am gorgeous, content, perfect shidduch material not a bit bitter or disillusioned even though i have been doing this for ……umpteen years. Every person should cry in shma koleinu for the pain that these singles go through – it is our tzara.
I am curious when somebody say R’ Shlomo Zalman SAYS – how do we know that you didn’t hear it from somebody who heard it from somebody who made it up – I believe that you should quote gedolim with more accurate information, like where he said it – publicly, privately, written –
I know specific situations where people have used gedolim to offer a very ‘specific’ response to a ‘specific’ shailoh, and have then broadcast their ‘the Gadol paskened’ opinion
thank moderator – i now see noti’s comment- i was referring to blinky note where it says ‘say it too’ –
in modim anachnu lach – i was used to saying a segel under the ahin in sheh-ah-tuh, and someone once pointed out to me that it is a kumatz – Shaw Ah Taw
that is veryvery strange – i have asked and been told that only if you are up to elokai netzor in shemoneh esrai can you say y’hyu l’ratzon and they say kedusha or kaddish – as a matter of fact i believe it says so in my siddur instructions
Tough thing to do –
Some tips –
-visualize the video camera up in the sky recording every movement, makes it easier to smile and calm down.
-find a mantra – (Ein Od Milvado, I can get through this, kol ma d’avid rachmana l’tav avid, it’s all good – a calming song, a jingle that makes you laugh)
-concentrate on something else that’s nonconfrontational – for example, try to concentrate on perfect penmanship, perfect diction, perfect posture – just something to make you focus on something else till your emotions cool.
Good luck – remember it is the trying that gets you credit not the success!
Although i agree that this is a serious and personal issue and the CR might not be the place to discuss it, i think that as long as you take the advice liberally, it can ease your anxiety by hearing other people’s take on it. I do think you should be secure that you know where he is. I think it helps to catch up on the ‘normal time together’ on Shabbos, as, even though, your case sounds very extreme, many people do work late hours/two jobs/night seders – – more like 11:30-12:00 though , then 1:00 AM. As far as the loneliness, I know it’s not a solution, but tapes,shiurim on chazak phoneline, phone friends, reading, projects you can do – all help to make the time more bearable.
Take one of those pictures that made you freak and say that CANNOT BE ME and keep it handy so you can look at it
Make sure to eat a protein item before or at each meal – like salmon at 10-11 AM (just microwave with lemon pepper seasoning, or add soy sauce for more of a treat and chicken cutlet at 3-4:00 (just bake with barbecue spices/hot spices for 5-8 mins – ) THIS WILL KEEP YOU FULLER so that you don’t eat a lot at meals – just some salad or hot vegetables.
NO SNACKS/ICE CREAM/CAKE IN THE HOUSE – if you have to do kids, then make the snacks the type that you can resist – they have all kinds of snacks that cater to the kids and don’t really tempt adults. If you are the major balabusta that always has a freezer full of devil dogs, rugelach and yummy stuff, wrap it like it was going to siberia, and put it on the back of the remotest shelf in your freezer in the basement (by your neighbor) – make it as inaccessible as possible.
Exercise – make it an absolute ‘chok v’lo yaavor’ – we don’t not put on tefillin/ we don’t eat without bentsching, and we don’t go to the shower until we exercise – have your workout clothes/music/area absolutely handy so that you have no excuse, no stopping for coffee, no phone call,no ck email until done.
Water – try to prefill up your water bottles for the day so that you have an easy marker for whether you consumed your water.
Remember – even 5 pounds looks good, so you will have mirror motivation all along. It’s all psych out – so find your own tricks – do it for yourself, do it for your husband, do it for the mitzvah of ‘ushmartem es nafshoseichem’ – do it so your kids are not mortified when you come to their plays – do it so that you aren’t afraid to go to the next simcha…. whatever works.
Good Luck!!!!
You mean like ShopRite after 10:00 PM or if you really lucked out with a babysitters WALMART !!
This is not medical advice but it has helped me tremendously – i downloaded many shiurim on my ipod, and when i wake up, i just click on my shiur, and before you know it I am asleep – No aspersions on the quality of the shiur, it is just the ability to lay in a sleeping position (rather than reading a book) with the earphone in your ear (drowning out other noises) that somehow puts me right back to sleep – Good Luck!
the current chazaq personal stories of challenge (#81) is about a cancer survivor and very inspiring – may you see refuos b’mheira b’soch sha’ar cholei yisroel
My life is but a weaving
between Hashem and me
I may not choose the colors
He knows what they should be
For He can view the pattern
upon the upperside
While I can see it only
On this the underside
Sometimes He weaveth sorrow
which seems so strange to me
But I will trust His judgment
and work on faithfully
He knows just what is best
So I shall weave in earnest
and leave with him the rest
At last when life is ended
With Him I shall abide
Then I may view the pattern
upon the upperside
Then I shall know the reason
why pain with joy entwined
Was Woven in the fabric
of the life Hashem designed.
I know they are very conscious of L’H – they will close comments on sensitive subjects without thinking twice. I think people should not come out and ask – where should i buy good challah, or what’s a good place to make a wedding – or how did you like your dinner at this restaurant – these are inviting lashon hara comments – maybe there should be a l’toeles chat room, where people can ask for experiences one on one if they need to know something rather than post a comment for the whole world to post their opinions (read l”h)
How about writing a note telling him what your problem is and telling him to please stop his inappropriate actions. You don’t want to spread any bad rumors, you don’t want to cause speculation, and you want him to stop. This way, you are being direct with him, you are not embarrassing or casting aspersions on him with anybody else. Just go to the store, ask some kid to give him the sealed envelope that says IMPORTANT on it.
I think it’s great – you have a lot of room for growth and adding things – I liked the old one, and the new one shows careful thought to improvements. I like the consolidated look so that i don’t have to browse all the way down (while holding my cup of coffee) I like the condensed story, so that i can choose what i want to read quickly. The smaller pictures are fine – i can always click them if i want to get a bigger view. Change is always hard for people, but this works great. The only feature i don’t love is your Simcha page. I would love a little more information about the baalei simcha – The maiden name, and location, the grandparent’s name, and we all love to see a simcha – (check out OS)
popa_bar_abba: A wise person told me that when you were helped with a yeshua, you have a special koach to daven for others in the same boat – perhaps it is just a koach that comes from understanding the pain of that particular situation, and being able to empathize. Whatever it is, may you continue to have yeshuos and hatzlocha, and may the special koach you got, be successful in helping others.
YES BMG has a right to say what goes on in this town – we are all here because of BMG and we should all kiss their toes for giving us such a beautiful torahdige seviva, yeshiva, growth opportunities,etc. – and their job is no picnic
There will always be some loose cannons saying that they can do better and that this is unfair and that is unfair – and believe me as a taxpayer i am extremely sympathetic to their arguments BUT they don’t really know the whole picture, or have the experience to deal with the ‘whole’ issue – They are always welcome to come to the yeshiva and discuss their issues -but to break up the community just breaks up our clout – which is just plain stupid.
Let’s remember, especially in these days of sefira – that achdus is our only successful method – and machlokes is unfortunately the ‘anti’ success.
it’s a little scary to open a thread like this – it is so ‘lashon hora’ prone
Don’t freak – you can’t go wrong – just cover the loaf with water – add 1 cup of sugar (less or more, depending on your taste, 2 Tb salt, 1 teaspoon pepper, 1 onion, 2 carrots(optional). Cook for about 1 hr, then take off the loaf paper, and cook a little longer to absorb juices.
Very Cute ICOT – Sorry no patience to redo the HTML for responding to used letters but it is a very cute idea, and great choice for the word.
you can have an automatic block on certain words – perhaps we should hire the offender to make the list! it’s true that strings of proper words can be put together in a way that is also offensive but as an immediate start, just block the offensive words.
free day –
take bus to central park zoo / Walk down to FAO Schwartz
M & M store – 1600 Broadway
Toys R Us
Eat at Jerusalem II
it’s usually a name you come up with on the spur of the moment and means very little – sorry- I don’t think this geulah is going to come because our blog names had yiddishe tam “???? ????? ?????
??? ?? ???? ????? ????? ????? ????? ????? ?????* ??? ???? ?? ??
??? ???? ?? ????* ??? ???? ?????, ??? ???? ??? ??? ???? ?????*
are u the first married? – the standards go up a bit when you are hosting the new marrieds-so maybe – a set of guest towels/bath towels/bathroom accessories/guestroom accessories, nice serving stuff for serving some kugel/fruit, tray/mini leichter, – I know it sounds like the gift is for you, but these are things she will need/want. Good luck and MAZEL TOV!
where are all the emotional obligations? To smile and welcome him home and wish him well as he goes out the door – to keep the children calm, happy, and inspired to respect the parents and be yirei shamayim, by showing respect and zrizus. When the wife is working, she is usually very happy to undertake that role in support of her husband’s learning, she is not undertaking the role of being the ‘father’ or ‘head’ of the household. and always, everybody has to pitch in, to get the real job done, that of building a bayis ne’eman!
i know this was probly just started as a fun topic – but i think we might be getting into loshon hora when we name bakery names and dis certain types….internet loshon hora is very scary as it spreads to so many people so quickly. (telephone, telegraph, tell-a-woman, tel-a-blog………)
I agree 1000% that these pictures are …….. you’ve all said it –
However, one has to appreciate the dilemma of the guy who has to keep the news coming –
he’s got to get the pages filled!
it’s actually one of the reasons i don’t like blogs/newspapers – you have gedolim,inspirational messages, hespedim, mixed with hat sales, recipes, political corruption, a cat seen out of place, and accident scenes…
this goes back to probly before you were all born – but i remember there was a song by the Everly Bros (maybe) and the lyric was
I’m just a soul whose intentions are good –
and i remember somebody singing I’m just a soldier whose tent is no good !
anybody have great ideas for making a pickled corned beef roast delicious?
say parshas hamon (in siddur after shachris davening)
say the tefilla in shma koleinu for parnassa
(these are in daily davening but you can say them on rosh hashona)
If you like a historical type novel that is very interesting and schmoozy with lots of pictures then this was an amazing hit in my family –
A TALE OF TWO WORLDS
Rabbi Dovid and Rebbetzin Basya Bender – the bridge between the Yeshiva-Bais Yaakov worlds of pre-War Europe and post-War America
it is really a bad habit – try try try to drink water –
every research done shows it’s bad for you – bad for your diet, bad for osteoporosis, bad for calcium loss –
too bad – i love diet soda
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hi – thanx for keeping up the game –
oh i am already planning it – this year i started early 🙂 – are there private rooms here?
i think i actually saw that – no i do a different theme each year, and i pun my way through the purim story with my theme 🙂 – i could use your amazing talent! I nominated you for post of the year!!!!
i nominate oomis and The Wolf – half a cow pun marathon
“?? ?????? ?? ??????? – ???? ????? ??????..”
There have been so many tragedies – there are so many sick people – channel your tears towards the churban – and may we all merit the geula today
you guys are unbelievable!!!! congratulations for the punniest!!! How about you help me with my PURIM puns!
If it is a yeshivishe crowd, do not go into the men – absolutely not – if you like, you can go to the women and ask to please pass on your feelings – if there is an attached doorpost, and you see the aveil is sitting by himself, you can stand at the door post and nod your head, and if he acknowledges you, you can say, Hamakom, and let him set the pace if he would feel right about you coming in while it is emptyish.
thanks for the game!….. seems like it’s losing momentum 🙁
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