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it just cool speak-don’t sweat it – it will change by the time you get used to it- OKski?

we all excel in different areas-we are all striving to be better people and better jews-stop judging everybody else, look at them with a good eye for what they do well, be as good as you can be, try to keep growing, and don’t expect to become a gaon overnight, it takes long years of hard work, and if we all try to do our best and help each other, we will succeed!

With the imminent departure of our dear friend eclipse

So let me say it with brevity

or quickly make your disappearance round trip?

The farewells to you are to your tribute

To our enjoyment over here you did contribute

Mazel and Brocha

Loads of Hatzlocha

We send you off with a Coffee Room Salute!

maybe use the letter lamed,and in the various forms – he learned, a lesson, learns, write a tribute to his learning.

Without being long winded or wordy

We are celebrating bil’s turning thirty

The letter lamed appropriately means learning

As we have all witnessed bil’s yearning

A yeshiva he opened as his choice of vocation

promulgating the mitzvah of learning with extreme dedication

….etc

Hard to understand that a thread on the mentschlichkeit issue is populated by comments on the correct spelling and usage of the word. We can all be dan l’kaf zchus….that is not the issue. There is a basic lack of mentschlichkeit prevalent. You better realize it and deal with it, because it is really terrible. It doesn’t mean that there are not wonderful kids out there, but nobody can deny that there is a plague of inconsiderate public behavior rampant.

The feelings you are having are so normal. Unfortunately, everything that happens is going to be hurtful, because you are really in such a vulnerable position. It could be that if he would stop in, you would feel, like doesn’t he think I had a hard enough time with shiva and people stopping in all the time, doesn’t he realize that our family needs a little privacy, a little space. Different people react very differently and it is impossible to have guidelines that work for everybody in such a tragic time. Regretfully, everybody walks this tightrope of wanting to help, and not knowing what to do. I am so sorry for your loss, it is a terrible heartbreak to lose someone you love, but unfortunately, there is not much that anybody could do. Share your feelings with your siblings, cousins. Recognize that your sensitivity comes from the sadness of the situation. You are very cared for, I am sure many friends are agonizing and wondering if they should bring up the subject, or if it will make you feel bad….it’s not that they don’t have feelings-they are just not sure about what to say – May Hashem help your whole family through this time, and may you only see Simchas!

you can also discuss their attitudes about working on themselves-that will show if they are open to change and improvement……

gosh – we are mothers, wives, and sisters, you know –

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there are certain basic things that are really not negotiable. where i come from, minyan is one of them. if you want her respect, you really have to push yourself. think of her point of view-i married someone who can’t even go to minyan-what will my life look like,how will my kids respect this-don’t look at it as an attack-she doesn’t know what to do-you would help a lost kid by going out of your way-it is just as much of a chesed(more) to go the extra mile for your wife’s happiness.Show her that you will do this for her,and you will see her light up and ungrumpify really quickly.Explain to her that it is very hard for you and perhaps you can find a way to make it easier.

laughing out loud

The Goq – my heart breaks for what you have gone through – May Hashem help you with everything for a long and happy future.

The Goq-o boy are u right-there are unfortunately very nasty situations that exist-but my point is that a person has the ability to VIEW things with their own choice of lenses. I have seen OTD people who just saw everything their parents did with a BAD EYE. It doesn’t say that there are no unforgivable situations, but as with everything in life, you can’t change others, you can only change your views/reactions and make your choices accordingly.

A cosmetic recommendation to make this project more aesthetic

We need a tool to sort the posters in a method alphabetic

This process would permit

easily following my favorite

As it seems that their skills are genetic! (am i pathetic?)

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riki- be very very careful – everybody will be giving u’r brother the main attention here, but you are really going through a horrific time. Keep strong by listening to shiurim all the time – unfortunately your brother has brought the yetzer horah into your home and given him a seat of honor. While everybody will encourage you to keep the lines of communication open, remember, that your frumkeit, your survival in this terrible time, comes first. Shiurim will give you the strength and courage to withstand any temptation, and help you stay calm during inevitable emotional outbursts. Your frumkeit, your middos, your consistency is the best example and the best defense. Hopefully this situation will improve radically and quickly. Good Luck!

icot – thanks for follow up answers – I made it – but didn’t really have enough flanken to get the full benefit. The kugel was quite good anyway – I had a hard time getting it out of the pan, so next time i will line the pan with parchment paper.

I do know a specific case where a rav in flatbush was matir a divorcee to uncover her hair. I don’t feel comfortable publishing his name, as he didn’t paskin for the whole klal yisroel, he paskened for this one person. I believe (and i am not sure) that it was because it was very painful for the divorcee to be reminded of the ex everytime she put on her shaitel.

frankly i have very mixed feelings when i get the calls-I wish that telemarketing had not hit the frum world – i don’t like the billions of chinese auctions, the phone calls, the ninty letters per day-i even find it very hard when i am downstairs doing laundry to run upstairs three times because the meshulachim think they will do better if they come separately. and then of course i remind myself – we are am yisroel, we are here to give, hashem doesn’t send us anything more than we can handle, and i end up smiling and saying – thank you Hashem that i am the one giving and not receiving –

I just met a mother who told me she just did a shidduch with her daughter. Her daughter was getting older every day-and there were three girls right after her b”h. NOTHING was going-you can imagine that she was worried. Anyway, her husband went to Israel for a sibling’s wedding, somebody redd the shidduch, the father met the boy, the girl flew to Israel, they met, the girl called her mother who flew to Israel, and the couple got engaged. Talk about k’heref ayin. (it is chassidish, so the speed is not so unusual) The boy is two years younger than the girl ! So don’t get discouraged. Although it is very hard, all your pain can be turned into laughter in minutes.

R’ Paysach Krohn has a very cute routine about how choson kallahs gush over all their similarities- could you imagine – we both stopped in switzerland to see the alps on our way home from israel, and we both like the exact same minty toothpaste, and we both like R’ Krohn tapes 🙂 – and then you get married and find out that there are differences……Please don’t worry that you don’t look alike, and approach your marriage maturely with the right goals of building a bayis neeman b’yisroel – it should be a nachas to hashem, and thereby give you true everlasting happiness – i guarantee you that the longer you live together, the more alike you will start to look – biz hundred un tzvantzig !

Thank you for pointing this out – we all know that we are supposed to act appropriately, but we forget, and we have to be reminded that it is our obligation to act politely, discreetly, and admirably at all times.

daven, daven, daven – it’s very very hard to spot red flags. sometimes nervousness makes you act atypical of your normal behavior – he may be acting cheaper because he heards that your family hates big tippers cause they think its showing off – he may look more aggressive cause someone told him you like a confident boy – not necessarily red flags – try to relax and set a relaxed atmosphere to get as realistic an impression as possible – and try to focus on the goals you want to accomplish in life as they are really the priorities.

b”h the frum community grows each year-and that is what is wrong with your premise – i have four daughters b”h – when my first daughter went to the primary local school here there were two classes, my 2nd daughter had 5 classes, my 3rd daughter had 8 classes, etc – So the 5 classes of my 2nd daughter, basically were marrying the 2 classes of boys in my first daughter’s age group. Do the Math. If they were marrying their own age, then there would have been an even number of boys and girls.

11 people on a rope

Eleven people were hanging on a rope under a helicopter

10 men and 1 woman

The rope was not strong enough to carry them all,

so they decided that ONE had to leave,

because otherwise they were all going to fall.

They weren’t able to choose that person,

until the woman gave a very touching speech.

She said that she would voluntarily let go of the rope, becasue

as a woman she was used to giving up evertyhing for her husband

and kids, or for men in general, and was used to

always making sacrifices with little in return.

As soon as she finished her speech,

all the men started clapping…….

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Solutions for the Shidduch Disaster

A sort of accurate psak Halacha

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