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biting nails can be problematic because if its a habit it can be hard to avoid on shabbos/yom tov
thanks puppy.
S2021- so glad u are overcoming that and reaching a safe, comfortable place and feeling. May it continue getting better and better
get a boy to try it in his classroom, then you can compare!
We had a loose hamster in high school. There were some girls with feet up, some chasing it, and most unfazed watching in amusement.
btw, would you accept a story from a book as proof of more than one particular case?? 🙂 (joke)
Health- maybe the females you know are just the shrieking type, because you expect it from them and for you to be their ‘savior’.
I don’t know any women who have called a male neighbor to ‘save’ them. I do know many who have bought poison or traps to put down. And I know of some men who were grossed out by the dead critters and argued which should do it, until the females did it themselves :).
Don’t stereotype all women! Not any who would not climb on a chair and shriek (I can’t even imagine myself shrieking about a mouse, though perhaps being grossed out about cockroaches) are “Amazon women”
if you were able to control yourself enough to ask, then please don’t be!
If there are no men home, most women will deal with it themselves. With rats and mice, men just call the exterminator! 🙂
my brothers class in junior high just had hep shots in school. Only 6 kids in the grade took it in school.in my grade, one girl made a scene and the rest of us made the usual fuss then laughed at ourselves after.
Shticky- my happy poem
okay, it’s old, i didn’t just make it up. but does that still count?
a smile
it brightens her face
brings a glow from within
shining, radiating
her eyes sparkle and dance
sending forth rays
of warmth and kindness.
and then, it captures another
giving comfort and support.
the second feels the love
and her joy begins to spread
the smile grows
her eyes too shine
she seems to rise above the gloom
she has been touched
by the small gesture.
others look and wonder
at the two now connected as one.
what has gladdened these hearts
and let them rejoice
like stars in a blackened sky,
illuminating the world,
lighting a path for other?
one small smile can make all the difference. anyone is able to five this gift, and everyone needs it. so when you see a saddened or downcast face, spread the love to others.
i say it! I dont remember who taught me to- either a gerrer or someone who davens nusach sfard
the candy. And although i understand people’s complaints, i don’t think any kid who did enjoy posing or imitating smoking with them actually was more likely to become a smoker, or smoke when younger.
i thought there was a thread on this before… They’ve been around forever! Since my parents were kids!
nomtw- How are ya? wishing you a gr8 Shabbos and good stuff with your parents this week!
mp-you’re really positive and encouraging, you know? just casually mentioning a hard time in passing then moving along. Hope the Pesach blues have lightened up for a bit!
shticky- I will try to post a positive poem this week. It just might be about something random like butterflies or snow!
s2021,think first– sorry I can’t add to the convo, but davening for good news from all of you + Goq. Have a gr8 shabbos! Hope all is well!
blabla- we haven’t heard from you since. hows it going with your friends? how are you doing?
kapusta- ouch :(. Hoping all your friendships only improve this coming week. i’m sorry your having a hard week. ((hug))
Wishing everyone a good shabbos and an amazing week. I love sunshine!!
718 is an area code in brookly, queens, the bronx and staten island
puppy- welcome back!
What happened to all our other posters, btw? i don’t wanna list a bunch and risk missing someone, but what happened to observanteen?
But really written well. You had me laughing while hearing the deeper messag at the same time!
some people don’t feel weak at all after, some for 5 minutes, as far as i know, maximum half hour. But if you drink some juice after or eat something it makes a big difference. You should be more than fine for a wedding that night!
musicaldignity-i agree with you! Posts here make it sound scary! But i guess those with stories have more to post :D. Everyone does get nervous their first time, and 98% come out saying, i can’t believe i made a big deal about that. Its quick and not a lot and really not a big deal. Don’t worry about it, every year the kids go crazy, and forget abt the whole thing after a day.
i’ll make that some two. hence my comment above 🙂
movie?!?!
blabla- to continue from MPs post, if you realize that they can’t really understand fully, it could help you to deflect some of that hurt. It sounds like they are just frustrated with trying to get together and doing the project and are so caught up in that, they are acting insensitively. Of course yoi can’t compare, but realize they are frustrated and short on patience, and therefore snapping at you. No relationship never has its bumps and hurts, but i think after this project is done, they may realize how they acted, and you can then tell them how you felt and why it was hard for you and if you make up, your friendship can become even stronger. I’m sorry for your hurt :(. Hatzlocha!
maybe you should have a coffee corner in your computer store!
B”H i’m so glad you were able to make that decision and are seeing positive changes! Thanks for letting us know how you are- we’ve been worried
nomtw-oh no, yours too?? And here i thought we were the only ones! 🙂
yuck, sorry it wasn’t so fun :(. I know how that can ruin the atmosphere… This year i did things different and am glad it worked this time!
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Mods, please? Do we have to go through these accusations yet again? Isn’t it the mods job alone to deal with ‘trolls’ if they are damaging?
just read over what i wrote- it was 3 am after all. Hope it didn’t make anyone else wince too much! Thanks Goq and MP- didn’t even start out as a poem about how i was feeling, and it wasn’t completely… I hope too that i can find someone in RL who can be here for me. And soon.
And MP thanks for verbalizing the positivity of the venting side of the poetry thread!
tech talk?
the computer corner
the work station
the rain is falling steadily
it drums a constant beat
keeping time with my teardops
of feelings of defeat
my heart it pounding loudly
echoing in my ears
as violent shivers rack my body
hoping noone hears
my sobs or moans of sadness
my cries for help, for love
to feel connected to my Father
and His watching from above
the loneliness envelopes me
apart from G-d and man
long to feel anothers care
a hug, a squeeze, a hand
oh what would i give
for a shoulder to cry on
someone to hush me, crush me
in embrace, to point out dawn
to give me empathy,
then show me there is light
to have the time to talk to me
when i feel down at night.
For me to GIVE to, care about
we’d both vent to the other
to be supportive when i can
a friend closer than brother
to share my day, to hear of yours
to problem solve together
encourage, uplift, motivate
a connection for forever
i want a friend, but even more
to be a friend, connect
i want better relationships
work and try to perfect
i want to once more to feel
the warmth of His embrace
to daven and feel connection
not ashamed to lift my face
i want to grow and rise
to mend and fix my ways
i want the help, the gentle push
to burst forth in heartfelt praise
i want the void i feel or make
of relationships weak or lacking
to reignite, burst forth in warmth
send cold depression packing
and what was the point of this post? A lot of what u said is harsh, unfairly judging, stereotyping, lumping wrongly, and just wrong and mean. IMO of course.
my apologies to you DaasYochid
i can only answer for myself. Yes i know the halacha. I have asked my Rav a shaila on this too. What i do is to generally let men walk ahead of me, especially through doors. You can hold the door open behind you after you pass through. I have heard of girls dropping shidduchim when boys walked behind them, or waited for them to get in to close a car door. And i have heard of girls who dropped shidduchim because they found it rude and insulting when the boys did not. Many or most of those did not know the halacha. Personally, i wouldn’t think too hard :). If a boy knew the halacha, i’d prefer he went ahead. If he waited for me, i’d assume he didn’t know it, or didn’t know what to do, like you.
i think the confusion here may be on how different posters are interpretting ‘getting a yes’- if thats as far as an engagement, a second date, or a first date. Let’s not make this an insult party, let!s just see where the misunderstanding’s stemming from! Thanks!
nomtw- scroll up, i posted after purim :). Thanks so much for asking. Itturned out really nice in the end though it had a slow, late start. If i’m still here next yr, i wanna go visit that someone earlier and longer to get that geshmak for longer. How was yours???
Rednails-welcome :)!
MP-i’m sorry for your pain :(. And i hope you find your zivug very soon! (btw, i DO know a lot of girls……) If there’s one thing i’ve been trying to intenalize this yr, its that worrying about things before they happen only adds to the dread/hurt. Its unproductive and just gets me stuck on something longer, and often on something that might not be as bad as i think, or my worrying can even make it worse sometimes…. I’m working on approaching things positively and hoping for the best. Or at least pushing off worrying til it gets close!
Think first- hazlacha rabba!!
Blabla- yay!! B”H!! I’m so glad you connected! And i’m yearning for the days i’ll feel that again too. And for more than an hour. I hope that feeling will last for you,and continue only to get stronger! Hold on to that hope and warmth!!
Kapusta- how are you?? :-/…
mods? can this thread be closed before it gets worse?
i’m so happy for you that thats made a difference!! Continued hatzlocha! I really believe a good talk is a good idea. Unfortunately, not possible for everyone, but if you can have a heart-to-heart, try to do so before things sour more? Wishing you all the best!
i just asked someone about this last week, and they never heard of it, tho i did as a child all the time
Wow, that was really something. Thank you for the encouraging reminder PE. And 🙂 for bringing it back in rhyme.
there went the last bit of that happiness and resilience. That didn’t last as long as i hoped… And out w a bang-or a pool of tears at least 🙁
Think First- Yasher koach!
MiddlePath- hope ur okay and that today was better. I’m sorry your Purim had a hard twist in it :(.
PE- thanks for that. my purim b”H actually turned out very well considering my expectations! Started out with me rushed, but a quiet day, then later i went delivering and enjoyed myself a lot. Later on i went to visit someone and the geshmak there really uplifted me a lot, and i truly felt myself hit simcha on Purim. I even saw myself more resilient and calm to negative parts afterwards, able to deflect them more. I am so so thankful that Hashem gave me this chance to reconnect with myself and in tefilla, in this long dark stretch. IY”H it sshould be the first step back in the right direction. Thank you all for your support, especially this week. I couldn’t have gotten there without each of you! Have a great shabbos!
with such a heartfelt, beautiful tefillah and poem, so clearly emanating from a place deep inside that resounds with ur inner kedushah, i know you have much more left than a skeleton. Your neshoma shines so brightly, waiting to beak through and brighten ur world in a way that u will see. Though words and looks may dim ur light, you immediately grow and shine ever brighter than before. You will come out so much greater than u imagined u would be, and will be able to illuminate others lives with ur sensitivity, care, and understanding. A freilichen purim and may Hashem answer your tefillos l’tovah, bimheira!!
think first- amen! and thanks for the smile i got :). I wanted to tell you you are an eloquent speaker/writer, but after your purim post….? 😀
A Freilichen Purim to all, and may Hashem answer all your tefillos l’tova!
goq +1!!!!!!! Thats drives me crazy!
anyone care to join me for a cocoa with tears?
Shticky- 🙂 thanks for that
kapusta- Then i’m first in line to send one back.
Sending a ((((((((warm, tight hug)))))))))) ur way, and many more where that came from!
You guys are all so AMAZING!! really and truly! And i appreciate the support and advice so much. I just wish i knew WHY i was down today so i could try changing my thought process. Its just a combo of lots of very little things… I feel like such a kvetch on here this week :-P. Sorry about that.
No One Mourns The Wicked- thanks for the encouragement and practical advice!
kapusta- thanks for the hugs. even if they are virtual. And all the rest. My request is pending, so i’m staying hopeful!
MiddlePath- thanks for all those things i said, and being so inspiring.
And the same to Goq.
Think first-for your amazing and POSITIVE poetry
Syag- for being a special person and giving us a glimpse
bygirl93- welcome back, and thanks for reminding me what this thread was for 🙂
ICOT- for ‘The Club’
blabla- for staying strong and showing me how to be too. For overcoming the pain to find that positive twist. How are you??
PE- I did! coming soon maybe.You’re right, i’m going to go blast some music and relax for a bit. Writing’s still out of my mood’s realm, unless i get a sudden inspiration. Meaning and purpose is definitely what i need right now. i really should find myself a chesed or place to help for an hour. It’s coming with my mood i fear. Babysitting i do all the time tho :).
Thanks for your encouragement, advice, support, and ideas!
i know but i feel like my heads stuck in a storm cloud and everythings so dark those little things are immediately blown away. And i WANT to have a happy, positive, smile-filled purim.
sighhhh, why am i in such a bad mood??? It’s adar. Its almost purim! And i am just feeling sad and not excited even a bit :(. Mishenichnas adar marbim b’simcha? Well, i’m not doing very good this year. Not very good at all… I want a happiness boost!
Thank you kapusta and PrincessEagle. Wasn’t ‘directed’, just wanted to see if the offer stood from anyone. Just thought i’d recheck, and if the answers were fresh and standing, maybe a mod would acquiesce 🙂
Lost my cool today in frustration and anger and blew my top :(. And i don’t even really care! so there!
Sorry no details. Being known here complicates things sometimes. No apologies neccesary ppl who know me!
I did request email addresses but was turned down. Any of those offers still stand?
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