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Abe: There are plenty of times where Yiddishkeit cares about societal norms.
Midwesterner: It is not clear exactly what Rav Moshe holds by the mechitzos. He says 18 Tefachim in the Igros but (according to a Rabbi of the Shul) was personally Machshir that Shul’s Mechitza which was about 40 inches tall.
The Aruch Hashulchan quotes that there is nothing possible that is more disgusting (wrong word but close enough) to do than to walk around barefoot. I still feel that it is a very societal thing though.
HaLeiVi: No, but you’re not Mechuyav to boycott Shuls with a lower (but Kosher) Mechitzah either.
The Tziyz Eliezer has a T’shuvah about putting your hands behind your back during Shmoneh Esrei. Unless I forgot a major part of it, nowhere in that T’shuvah does he discuss an Issur of doing so in general.
Apushatayid: Why would Moshiach necessarily have a Kosher phone?
Abelleh: 3 is common and even if you won’t use any Eruv some should count (e.g. a gated community).
In that case, I would advise that yutorah is worth researching and allowing, in my opinion.
Vesapharta Lecha is a Mitzvah D’Oraisa on the Beis Din to count the years towards Yovel. Us’phartem Lachem is a Mitzvah D’Oraisa on every Yachid to count the Omer.
Oomis: There is never an Issur to write a translation of Hashem’s name in any language. There is just a Chashash that people might not treat it properly or they might C”V throw it out. If it is a Sefer or a Bentcher anyway there is no reason to worry about this and no reason to use the dash. Then again, unless you hold by R’ Elyashiv, there would be no reason not to spell it out normally on the internet/computer screen either.
This site won’t allow a link to yutorah? That website is one of the best compendiums of Torah in the world.
I don’t set policy, and I can’t research every site that is linked. I generally allow hebrewbooks. -95
Rav Elyashiv holds that it’s not okay. I don’t think anyone holds like this though. R’ Elyashiv holds that a computer counts as real writing and thus any Divrei Torah or Shem Hashem written on a computer cannot be erased-i.e. the screen can never be changed or shut off. (I don’t know if this was published anywhere, I heard this from a big Rov who discussed the issue with R’ Elyashiv at length.)
AYC: I tried to before but the mods deleted it. I believe it’s 1:12 but I could be wrong on the volume number. I’m 95% positive that the T’shuvah is between Simanim 7-12 in whatever volume it is though. I saw it a long time ago.
If he’s being disrespectful to your faith then there is no reason you can’t be disrespectful in turn. And it does kind of make a difference if he’s mocking Judaism or religion in general. If it’s just against Judaism then it’s much more of a personal attack on you than if he just dislikes religion in general.
There is a T’shuvah in the Shevet Halevi which strongly implies that he holds women are not permitted to drive.
If you could “technically” go another day without adding any risk to your life, then how would it ever be okay to be Mechalel Shabbos?
AYC: I’m gonna disagree with your Diyuk. Usually when the Torah uses a singular word like “Lecha” it means for everyone together (as 1 community) while when it uses a plural word like “Lachem” it means it’s talking to each and every individual.
Absolutely not 80. That Heter is only for someone going to save someone else, not to save himself.
It is your responsibility to control what you think and what you believe, not what your professor believes. If you can ignore it and just deal with the other parts of the classwork, do that. Otherwise you may have to consider dropping the class. If it’s a requirement try and meet with a dean or someone, explain your concerns, and see what alternatives are possible.
Upsherin is a strange Minhag in its own right. There was a lengthy article in a magazine I read recently (I believe it was Ami) that tried to track down the sources of that Minhag as well as going to Meron on Lag B’Omer. It was quite an interesting read.
HaLeiVi: That is the reason given in many Seforim (including the Mishnah Berurah in his Halacho of Ever Shabbos I believe). You should not cut fingernails and toenails in order or on the same day because that’s what they do for a Meis.
You can generally trust Hatzolah people to keep secrets, but if it’s Mamash a Pikuach Nefesh issue and a cab or regular ambulance would get you there just as quickly there is no reason not to call a cab. (There is no reason not to call Hatzolah either.)
If leaving the hospital involves Chillul Shabbos then why would you be allowed to leave?
HaLeiVi: I have searched for years for it. Is there an actual Makor for the feet towards the door thing?
80: I have done much research into this. I have asked several incredibly knowledgeable people and Bar Ilan is a very good (admittedly not perfect) tool to help find such things. And there is still the aforementioned picture of R’ Soloveitchik doing it, so at least he held it was Muttar.
I honestly thought it was hilarious because it got through to a lot of ultra-Orthodox people who really had never seen spam or a chain letter before. Their reactions were what made it such a huge deal.
Chein: I don’t have to. The fact that the vast majority of Poskim make no mention of it is more than enough. It’s a Chumra, based on Kabbalah, endorsed by a very small number of Poskim. The tremendous silence by the rest is more than enough of a Makor to be Mattir.
Hello: Plenty of Gedolim and Poskim also saw nothing wrong with it.
I once read a Minhag that a community (I do not recall where) would try to find a woman who just gave birth to make Kiddush for the entire community on Yom Kippur.
The Shevet Halevi (I believe 1:12 but am nowhere near positive) cites the fact that women drive as one of the 4 main reasons there are so many fatal accidents on the road. (I am unclear if this is because he holds it is Assur or if he thinks/has statistics that women cause more fatal accidents.)
“Who says what?”
Shlishi: Fathers are responsible for their kids wherever they are. If they won’t make sure that there kids act properly in Shul and want to only concentrate on Davening then they should leave the kids at home.
Aishes Chayil: No one calls it a lack of Bitachon that we own a house in CHU”L. After all, if Moshiach comes tomorrow then we won’t need it anymore. Preparing in case Moshiach doesn’t come isn’t a lack of Bitachon. We don’t know when it will come. So while we always hope it’s today, we can’t live life with the assumption that it will be today.
There may be a Chiyuv to Daven because of this in Shul. It sounds like a Dever as described in the Gemara.
There may be a Chumra if the girl was conceived before conversion. I’m not so familiar with these laws and customs so I could be wrong. But I know that it’s for sure Muttar M’Ikar Hadin and if the baby was conceived after conversion there is no reason whatsoever for a Kohen not to marry her.
The Gemara in Kiddushin does not mean a Shadchan. You stand corrected.
Someone took their Astronomy lessons from Ronald Weasley.
Yes.
Better the wedding cancelled than the marriage.
Look at the cases about where we worry about Chashad. I can’t think of any perfectly off the top of my head, but they are not cases where we say “Oh he’s frum he’s probably doing something Muttar. (It might get modded, but remember the case of a person entering a Churva in the beginning of Berachos. We could assume he is going there to Daven, but it’s still Assur because most people who go there-not frum Jews, but people-do so for inappropriate reasons.)
I have a cousin who noticed a picture of R’ Yoshe Ber Soloveitchik in one of the books about him where he was his fingers interlocked.
PBA: There are certain cases of Mar’is Ayin which are pure Issurei D’Rabannan and apply regardless of common sense. There are some cases which might be Muttar for common sense. The Acharonim discuss what applies where. There is a separate Halachic issue of “Vih’yisem N’kiyim Meihashem Umiyisrael” which also tells us to avoid things that will allow people to be Chosheid us or that they would learn to do wrong from us. Common sense should apply to these. But common sense doesn’t mean that “I know the guy is frum, therefore he is probably doing something Muttar.” It’s more like something where the general assumption of using that object could be for something Muttar. I would think that going into a McDonald’s in the city would be Assur from this but on a rest stop on the highway would be okay.
5-hour energy has a Star K on the bottle (I’ve seen it at least). It’s so bad for you though I have no idea why anyone would be willing to drink it with any consistency.
It is clear from those Gemaras in Berachos that you can’t just give any interpretations for any dream. There are rules for interpreting dreams and if they are ignored the interpretations are meaningless.
And, to quote Rebbe of mine, if you are worried enough about the dream that you have to ask then it probably means you have to do something about it (fasting, Tzedaka, just a Hatava, depending on the dream).
If your brother and your friend are not as Yeshivish as you then you have to figure out what happens from their position. You may be forced to just ride it out. As long as they don’t do anything Assur (other than talking, if you hold that is Assur) then there may not be a need to risk anything drastic on stopping them. Who knows? They may even make a Shidduch about this someday. Asking a Rav you know who knows both of them as well never hurts either.
Minyan gal: That’s why I said to ask her Rav first. There are many cases where a Rabbi will tell the Sho’eil to ask someone else instead. Many times it’s because they know that there are good reasons to be Meikil but don’t want to be Meikil themselves. So I advised to ask her Rav, who can decide if this is an important enough issue to her (from the OP it seems like a big deal to her) and a Tznius-enough sport to be Meikil in this fashion.
If you asked a Shaila and got an answer of no then that’s that. There are many sports that can be played that are perfectly Tznius though. Maybe for your next sport you can ask your Rov for permission to ask the Shaila of someone who might say it’s okay?
CR 1: It’s a Gemara. Or at least, some people’s interpretation of it. What the Gemara says is that a person is even judged on “Sichah Kalla” between a person and his wife. Some interpret that as how you speak to her.
Music which has inappropriate lyrics is one issue.
The Shulchan Aruch in O”C 560 Paskens like the Gemara (Gittin 7a) that music is Assur as a Zecher L’Churban. This would seem to include all music. There are many Heterim given by many different Poskim for many reasons. They are too numerous to actually list here but suffice it to say that if you listen to music you most likely have someone to rely on.
I once heard it explained as someone who acts super-Yeshivish but is really just figuring out how to be Yeshivish at all. I have never heard it used about a girl (then again, I have never been talking to Yeshivish people about a girl, so…) and it was always used as a derogatory term.
There is the oft-forgotten Gemara on Chagigah 6b where two of the things that Hashem cries for are “one who can learn but doesn’t” and “one who can’t learn but does”. If you just can’t afford it, then maybe you’re not supposed to be learning full time.