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Health: Look them up. It is very clearly intended as an Eitzah to those who want to say the whole Nusach Hat’fila but don’t have a minyan.
Health: Apparently all the Poskim who bring this down (and I don’t know of any who disagree) are just fooling themselves, aren’t they?
That letter was posted around YU before the event. And none of the speakers were supposed to be practicing. They were supposed to be people who were open about being attracted to men but still wanted to live a Frum, Halacha-centered life. One of the speakers, unfortunately, was not. I was personally told by one of the organizers that had they known this beforehand, he would not have been allowed to speak. The goal was not to raise awareness or C”V acceptance of those who practice Mishkav Zachor. It was supposed to raise awareness of the terrible troubles that people who are attracted to men have with being involved in the Frum community. Read their stories if you want and see what the point of that event was. The whole thing is online, in text and in video, I believe. Read it and realize what the event was about. It was never C”V intended to gain support or sympathy for those who practice Mishkav Zachor.
Health: Once again, even if one “MO” school acted like that it’s still fallacious to assume that all “MO” schools don’t act Lesheim Shamayim.
It depends on a lot of things in every situation and why your Posek says this. But the answer is probably yes.
Hello: The whole Minhag is a mistake anyway. You skip Tachanun on days when you Daven on time because you’re worried you won’t Daven on time? It makes no sense to being with, regardless of the source.
Jothar: Learn what actually happened at that event. You are giving a gross misrepresentation of what happened which is terrible Motzi Shem Ra against Rabbi Blau, Dr. Pelcovitz, and the institution itself.
Health: That’s one of the worst logical fallacies I ever heard. Because some MO school rejected your kid then every other MO school can’t possibly care about the Torah?
Health: The school doesn’t run the student lives. They do that in accordance with their Poskim. I still don’t see the problem. They allow non-Frum students in and don’t force them to be frum. If that Passuls an institution to you, fine. But I don’t think that makes the institution not Frum.
Hello: I have long suggested the same as Old Man and been told by knowledgeable Rabbonim that that is most likely the source for the Minhag.
Health: What does a “school being run according to Halacha” mean?
PBA: And we also knew that there are plenty of non-Shomer Halacha people who identify themselves as “Modern Orthodox”. What does this add?
I saw someone point out that this whole thing should look good for YU. There was a huge outcry from a ton of students against the piece. That should say more about the YU student body than what one Overes Aveirah did and wrote.
Jothar: We all knew that there are not-frum people in YU and Stern. The vast majority is still frum. I don’t see the issue here. If there was someone not frum in the Mir who found a blog to publish that he wasn’t frum, would that be a stain on the Mir or would that be someone who we already knew wasn’t frum just admitting it? I don’t see why this should change any perceptions about YU.
I honestly don’t see the problem with Facebook. It’s a great way to keep in touch with family and old friends who are far away. If you’re smart about it it can be useful like anything else. If you use it improperly it can be bad-like anything else.
Jothar: The Beacon thing says nothing about YU. Everyone knows that there are non-frum people at YU. What does someone posting that in a story add that we didn’t already know?
No one knows who everyone here actually is. I would guess that several non-fum people post here. Who cares?
I am thinking perfectly straight. You don’t like something and are therefore screaming “Issur D’Oraisa”. I’m done here as well. Enjoy Assuring nose rings and snapping. And Chas Veshalom don’t ever let anyone wear clothes that have any sense of style whatsoever. If it’s not for Pritzus then it’s not Chukas Hagoyim, regardless of “style”.
Old man: I respectfully disagree. The Minhagim about separating fish and meat have long gone far beyond what the Poskim say is necessary to avoid. Whether the original Issur was due to Sakanah, there clearly are additional Minhagim on it that probably fall under “Prishus”. I would think that this counts as “Devarim Hamuttarim Veacheirim Nahagu Bahem Issur”. If you can be Mattir for an individual at all, it would need a Hatarah.
Health: You’re being ridiculous. You want something to be Assur, smack on a D’Oraisa on it, and then say the burden of proof is on those who want to Mattir? Come on. Anyone can invent an Issur for anything. You need to show me something is Assur to make it Assur. You’re taking a phrase “and other things” and applying it to make something that you personally don’t like Assur? That’s not the way Halacha works and you (hopefully) know it. I agree that I presonally find nose rings disturbing. That doesn’t mean that I can transform it into an Issur D’Oraisa.
Here, I can do the same thing that you do. The Goyim sometimes snap their fingers. There. I just created an Issue D’Oraisa and to be Mattir it you need to bring me a source. So go ahead, find me somewhere in Halacha that explicitly states that snapping is Muttar. Until you do you have to assume that it’s Assur because it’s D’Oraisa. So find me a source that it’s Muttar. You see how ridiculous that is?
Some will. I know that several are Noheg to shave every Friday during Sefira.
Old man: There is a Sugya of Devarim Hamuttarim V’acheirim Nahagu Bahen Issur. You might want to learn that before making sweeping statements. The reason might not apply, but it’s not so easy just to stop those Minhagim.
Prevention depends what they’re made of (ask your doctor for a little funnel to catch them in so that you can bring it to the lab and have it tested), but generally involves avoiding excess calcium. Sprite is great at helping break up most stones. Ask your doctor for heavy painkillers (Vicodin) and some drug like Flomax (which widens the urethra) to help the stone pass through.
Dina D’malchusa.
Rachel wasn’t a Niddah.
Regardless of what the Halacha is/should be, the Minhag is very strong not to mix fish and meat (even cold, even same utensils, etc.).
How do we even know all the posters are Jewish? What’s wrong with a Goy posting on Shabbos?
Don’t ask. I honestly feel that Tebow makes a Kiddush Hashem. And, as far as I know, the media doesn’t mock him for religion. They just talk about him nonstop because he has tons of fans all over the country.
Rav Schachter says that this Halacha probably shouldn’t apply nowadays.
Mdd: Do not get lost in your zeal to defend the Torah. Defending Halacha does not mean that you can whitewash improper things. There were two improprieties done here. Neither one removes the other. The lack of Tznius does not condone the improper speech and the improper speech does not condone the lack of Tznius. If the topic of this discussion was Tznius then I would be discussing it from that point. Since the topic is Lashon Harah, that was the main point I discussed.
It’s scientifically shown that red is the most arousing basic color. Whether it’s arousing enough to be inherently Assur depends on the Minhag Hamakom.
Health: What do you mean there is no Din of Ve’ohavta?
I made one and I think there were a few others.
Health: I’m not sure what Kefira there is in tahini’s post. Why don’t you provide a source backing up what you are saying (that the best defense is Talmud Torah) before you call someone else a Kofer?
Health: I never base an opinion on what other posters post. And I’m not necessarily talking “To’eles” as in from Dinei Lashon Harah. I’m saying there’s no purpose in it, so why would you say it? It also shows an extreme lack of Ve’ahavta L’reiacha Kamocha.
Besides, we all have no idea what this “breach of Tznius” was. I am assuming that it wasn’t a gross breach or Ski would have left the wedding. If she was Mamash Halachically not dressed then I can see the comments being Muttar, if still even a bit out of line. I am assuming that this “breach in Tznius” was something minor that is probably not visible at most times.
Mdd: Show me a source for that. Even if it’s not Lashon Harah (which I highly doubt), it is rude and serves no purpose and is an extreme lack of Ve’ahavta L’rei’acha Kamocha.
Health: Well I don’t think people without a solid background in Halacha should be posting their opinion on whether something is Mutter or Ossur.
Then maybe you should stop saying some of your Halachic opinions here as well. And no, I would normally not be so offensive but your comment warranted that I defend the person you directed that too, especially as (s)he was right. There is no Heter to make grossly insult someone, especially behind their backs, regardless of if that person did something Assur. Please, try, tell me what To’eles there is in saying “her relative should be ashamed of her”.
First of all, the Mechaber doesn’t say that a red dress is Pritzus. You have to read the Rama more carefully than that. Secondly, you need to define Pritzus. There is nothing sexual or erotic about a nose ring. What makes it Pritzus? Because you think it is?
Health: It’s not dependent solely on what Goyim think is nice. If it was then we wouldn’t be allowed to wear any shirts. That’s just ridiculous. It has to be for Pritzus and without a purpose to be Assur (see YD 177). This isn’t purposeless and it not inherently for Pritzus.
Health: You have to prove why it is Bechukoseihem. It’s not something that the Jews have avoided for hundreds (thousands?) of years due to Pritzus and it has a To’eles-it makes the girl prettier (or at least, it could in hers or other peoples’ eyes). Why would it be Bechukoseihem?
Health: That would not fall under Bechukoseihem.
MDD: Not true. Only a Lav Sheyeish bo Malkus is Passul someone L’eidus. Tznius is an Asei (Igros Moshe Choshem Mishpat 2:11 or 2:12 if I recall correctly) and possibly Lifnei Iveir, neither of which would be Passul someone L’eidus. And such Aveiros are only Passul someone if it was witnessed by others, not if they just did it (though that point is not so relevant here).
With the internet at mail-order companies, there is no nowhere in the US where you cannot have Kosher meat available in a few days’ notice.
We might think that Kavod Hatzibbur or Kavod Hatorah etc. dictates that we always wear nice clothes (white shirts) to represent that. OC 53:18 tells us that’s not true.
That wearing white shirts is Kavod for Hashem, the Torah, etc. and therefore we should only wear white shirts.
The author of that piece never heard of anecdotal evidence. There are people who are mistreated in prison. There are people who get harsh sentences. The fact that 2 Jews in America got harsher-than-expected sentences and that 1 was robbed in jail (the article also attempted to imply that non-Jews aren’t mistreated or robbed while in jail) does not in any way prove that the system is against religious Jews. Such a claim is preposterous based on two anecdotal claims as evidence.
Mdd: Show me a source that Halbanas Ponim doesn’t apply to someone who was Over an Aveirah once (assuming that there is a real Aveira here). And if you’ll say it’s Muttar to embarrass someone to help them do better (or shame them from making a mistake again), please tell me how making an embarrassing comment to their friend counts as that.
Someone driving while under the influence of alcohol or drugs is a Rodeph, plain and simple.
He’s (she’s?) saying he used the word Kleenex instead of tissue and vaseline instead of petroleum jelly or whatever it actually is. Like xerox.
Mik5: You would thank a Jew for becoming Chayav Missah just to save your property? I’d rather lose the property. I wouldn’t thank someone for it.
Sam4: I do not know what Rav Schachter knew about the rest of the video, but he was Maskim on them filming his Shiur for a day.