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‘teen
Did I say that you were an adult?
I just think you are misrepresenting yourself.
I have a very sensitive BS alarm… and it went off.
popa
I agree but it goes both ways. I have learned (from experience) that there are those who ‘bshita’ only wear white shirts yet, the things they do would make those that wear colored shirts cringe.
You need focus more on the man than his wardrobe.
I think ‘teen is a fraud.
Mechanics are know for taking their customers for well, a ride.
Chalk this one up to experience and next time take the time to learn about your car.
B’shah Tovah!
seventy
If you are only planning on staying in the area (state?) for 5 years you have to factor in to your decision the risk of depreciation (I don’t know where you live but) in a real estate economy like this where, for the most part, nothing has picked up over the last 4 years, you don’t want to be left with a stale property.
oh_yeah
It’s possible but not through the typical channels and you need excellent credit, you may also need special arrangements such as private mortgage insurance (which gets pricey). There are also government programs (FHA) that insure mortgages for first time buyers with low down-payments (this is the route we went with my client).
seventy
Do the math.
If he only had to mortgage 4 and it costs 6 ____ ?
(He paid 2 out of pocket)
It still pays to buy and not rent 😉
5% down (here’s where Buyer’s market helps you). Upper 6 (for obvious reasons I don’t want to give exact info)
“Sac, you were recently involved in a real estate transaction you posted somewhere.”
I closed the deal for my client, he now has a $400,000 mortgage. You may want to check the mattress of the Seller 😉
The best tip involves my all time favorite word the F word! Yup. Foreclosures! (a hobby of mine… ok I’m calm).
I don’t know how aggressively you want to pursue this, whether its an investment or your place of residence, but for real estate on the cheap foreclosures are your best bet. From what I have found the foreclosures in Bk aren’t in the um, desired neighborhoods but I have seen a few in the Kensington/Ditmas Park area.
common
Midwood. The PP was in the upper 6 range. He mortgaged a little over 4.
Oatmeal cookies.
In a teenager, this warrants seeing a shrink?
Feif
I just closed a deal for my client on a house in Bk a 40×100 lot and his payments come out to $2,200 and change/Mo, if you are going to rent a HOUSE in Bk you really cant get one for cheaper than that. The biggest question is, can you afford a down-payment?
Yes it is a Buyer’s market but it also depends on how badly the Seller want to let go of his property.
I don’t agree that teenagers who aren’t scared need to see a shrink.
Ofcourse
“Ive heard him say that banks are Ponzi schemes to some degree, and I believe that.”
I’m gonna pay you a visit and take a look under them mattresses 😉
“I think these teenagers would need a shrink if they wouldn’t be scared.”
Not so much. When I was a teenager I couldn’t wait to get out and ‘start’ my life… I still cant 😉
My point is that every person deals with change differently. If the fear is debilitating that it prevents you from moving forward that is when you call the shrink, a momentary freak out is fine.
(Tra-shy, just sayin.)
‘teen
I have noticed many of your posts…. and I’m not sure why you repeatedly choose to believe in the worst of humanity.
Are there bad people out there? Heck yea. But there are so many more amazing ones! This doesn’t mean you have to walk around with your head in the sand, to be sure, but a cautious awareness is more than enough. Open up your eyes to the good in those around you and the world becomes a far less scary place.
This should be the most exciting time of your life. This is when you get to decide what you want to be and who you want to become. All your years of mandatory schooling have lead you to this point, where you make THAT decision. Don’t let the fear of the unknown get in the way of this incredible time. No one knows what the future has in store for them, and in a way thats a blessing. So get out there, put your best foot forward and give ’em hell!
CAD
Great post.
In my experience the frauds usually flush themselves out, which evidently is the case here.
There is a saying, “Aim for the stars if you miss at least you hit the sky”
I believe everyone starts off their life dreaming, whether you are homeless and sleeping under an over-pass or you are the President of the United States.
When you look in to the eyes of a child and you see the spark and glow, thats untainted enthusiasm and ambition for life not yet mired by a reality of challenges and set-backs.
You seem interested in teaching. Think of who came before you, Sara Schinerer. There would be no Bais Yaakov movement without her, I’d say it’s safe to bet her dreams became a reality.
It’s healthy to dream, and to try as best as you can to turn those dreams in to a reality, but if you see that they cant be a reality for YOU at least you will be paving the road for the next person.
“Sac knows some..”
None for me, thanks.
“Because the only thing that matters is the relative sizes of the peg and the hole.”
It’s not about fitting, its about something being a good match.
You can do a 1,000 piece puzzle completely wrong and squash all the pieces in to the wrong holes, they may fit however awkwardly and inharmoniously, but they wont match.
I was thinking more on the lines of The Singles Network….
I was serious.
Ofcourse
Let me know where you got those figures from… I think many people would love to make their weddings there!
Average not fancy is about 75 a person 150 a couple.
rebdoniel
Perfect! No mother-in-law to deal with 🙂
“But I wanted to know how deiyezooger’s idea is different than bringing various songs on a CD”
If a Kollel Guy can do it and is just clicking on the next playlist, it isn’t.
Professional DeeJays are not cheaper than a one man band.
s2021
Are you Sephardic?
deiyezooger
“dosent have to be a professional just needs to know how to use a mouse to change songs and volume as needed”
You have a lot to learn about the art of spinning.
“I was once thinking of starting a support group newsletter for singles like 25+”
I’m thinking about starting a website.
OOMIS!
anon1m0us
Um, maybe not the greatest thread for your wise words.
There are instance where Loshon Hora has been said, whether about groups of people, Yeshivos or Rabbonim (R”L)
Thankfully, I am now more aware of the dynamic of these boards and I can now figure out from a heading or from the first post or two how the conversation is going to go so I know to keep out!
You go to sleep after a long days work and you miss all the action…
She calls herself smartcookie….
“you’re not really looking for support…..
Sorry, I can’t do that. And I don’t think it’s right to make others do it….”
Where to begin? First and foremost what would you consider it when someone vents? That is a means of YOU providing support, by them unburdening them self they are sharing their load with YOU.
Lets move on to the self-righteous part shall we? thats what got my goat.
“We have our Torah which obligates us not to believe Loshon Hora.”
You seem concerned for the honor of our Torah and its laws, are you in fact familiar with them?
(I run a Machsom L’fi program so I *may* be more equipped to deal with this than you.)
The Chofetz Chaim says that if someone is unburdening themselves to you, you are NOT obligated to tell them to stop because a- you are providing support and b- it is possible by them telling you, they will unburden them self and not tell anyone else. However, you are unable to believe what you are being told, NOT THAT YOU SHOULD TELL THAT TO THEM (I added that last part as a common decency sort of thing)
Now lets move on to the obvious which is clearly not obvious to some. This is an anonymous forum! You do not know s2021 or her ex-husband so pray tell how that would categorize as Lashon Horah? She never mentioned a name and could be making the entire story up for all you know.
s2021
I cant say that I understand what you are going through because I don’t, but we can all try to sympathize the best we can. One thing I will say to you is that maybe it’s best to keep the most intimate details of your divorce to yourself. We all have bad days and go on emotional benders, but you don’t want to say something that will cheapen you.
As I read through this thread I find myself incredulous as to the intent of the OP.
IF something you read was so “gross” that it prompted you to initiate a thread denigrating the website and its patrons, why would you want to stick around?
Just because one isn’t commenting that doesn’t stop OTHERS from spewing their vulgar comments, something I am sure you wouldn’t want to subject yourself to.
Furthermore, had you in fact been so disgusted you wouldn’t have even bothered creating the thread. I can only speak for myself, but when I am truly disgusted with something I move as far away from the source of repulsion as possible, whether it be a certain website (yes, it has happened to me before) or moldy cheese.
And that brings me to my dilemma. Were you in fact so repulsed by a comment(s) made on this site that you decided to pen the OP or, (more likely) did you feel the need to vent and wanted to do it in the most dramatic way possible?
Unless you have your own M3 submachine gun…. I’d say stick w prayer.
The “Heter” for a male lifeguard isnt for a Jewish male lifeguard to watch female swimmers, its so that female Jewish swimmers can go swimming.
For example, all the girls camps rent out Mountain Creek in the summer and they have male lifeguards, are the girls able to walk around in bathing suits? Yes, on the grounds that the lifeguard is doing his job and not paying attention to the girls in their bathing suits.
Someone needs to climb in to Popa’s head with bleach and a scrub brush.
A.
This is what girls have to realize, not only on Purim, but all year long: If you dress like a slut, they will comment.
To you its “cutely” to him its provocative.
B.
Purim is a YOM TOV, a holy one at that. You dont ‘dislike’ it. You dislike the way people are Mivazeh it perhaps.
C.
The solution isnt to deprive woman and girls of their Simchas Yom Tov because their are some boys (and girls) who cant control themselves.
The solution would be for parents to ACT like parents and Rabbeim to ACT like Rabbeim and to limit the drinking of those who SHOULD NOT be drinking. Believe me, it is not the ones who are fulfilling the Mitzva of Ad D’lo Yada correctly that are cat calling and embarrassing themselves (and their family, Yeshiva….)
“the cutest will be if u marrry eachother.” (sic)
I heard of a story where a guy was getting on in years and just couldnt find what he was looking for. Once he was paired up with another Associate in the Firm to work on a case and when the case was over he felt something missing in his life…. The girl! He missed speaking to her everyday, and seeing her.
So they formally dated and got engaged. His friends where shocked to see who he was engaged to because she was nothing like he the type of girl he claimed to “need”. She wasnt ‘drop dead gorgeous’ and she wasnt skinny either.
So, rebbi gershon, you never know!
I WANT RUBY JUICE!
“In reality, however, it’s not so clear. I could have just kept quiet as I had done many times in the past.”
I am not a “quoter” but…
“B’makom she’ain ish….”
It’s not always easy to do the right thing.
(I do think this is for attention.)
I am wondering why everyone is pretending there isnt an issue here…
You KNOW you did the right thing.
“newly returning Sem / EY crop”
Who wants in on my brackets?
“all 150 will take me close to 3 hours.”
3 hours?! Oh no then it will take me 6, because you do man-ish type prayer things more regularly than I do…
*minor freak out*
“(and you CAN do it!)”
Better brush up on my Tehillim reading so I make the time restraints 😉
“This whole segula chasing mentality is sad and casues many people to have false hope….”
Better that they are channeling their energies in a good way, rather than just being a desperate wreck. Tehillim and Tzedaka never killed anyone anyway…
CJP
LOL!
I’ve heard of saying the entire Tehillim on Purim as a Segula (which I’ve done), not necessarily between the two Megilla readings….
BPT
If I am married by next year it will be your fault! 😉
“Lost and insecure
You found me, you found me”
(Saw the heading and this song went off in my head…)