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I think its ok to say that they aren’t going to actively “look” for a spouse. If Hash-m wants to send them one they will find each other. I dont know how old this person is but if they are in their 40/50s I dont think I would be giving them the emuna/bitachon speech. It is said that at the deppest point of despair that is when Hash-m comes in with the Yeshua, hopefully this person will find their yeshua soon.
I think the origins are prob from Pirkei Avos where it says “Lo Am Haretz Chossid” so it became a term for unlearned men.
I dont know what video you are talking about, but could it be they were trying to bring out a point?
Evening…
….Garnish
This is why I stay home 😀
Staples….
….Slander
RSRH – one of the 13 core beliefs of our religion is that G-d created and runs the world. (Ani Maamin… She’Hu Borei U’Manhig…)
If you dont fully believe but conduct yourself in a certain way based on “knowledge” you are just going through pointless motions.
Target! plus they have Starbucks.
when I posted almanac, anymore wasnt there… duh 🙂
It wont kill you to take a chance.
almanac
Cleaning toilets is such a chore.
“could be
i think its a lot more likely that it had to do with world opinion and voters opinions”
Lawsuits. (x33)
It’s not nice to call someone fat!
Are you able to change my SN, to ‘ What Say You ‘
Thanks!
If you want a short get-a-way like a 2 dayer go to Cape May in NJ its gorgeous!
I enjoy the city and I do it often with friends, it still feels like a get a way even tho I’m there almost every day anyways…
If you don’t want to do it in the city you can do it in NJ they have some beautiful hotels there too (and you dont have to drive too far either).
where do you live?
This isn’t necessarily cheap and you have to have a good sister/sister-in-law (like me 🙂 to watch your kids, but its good for once or twice a year.
Book a short get a way in the city! You can get a really fancy hotel room for half the price on Priceline when you name your own price. At night you eat out dinner and in the morning you have brunch and spend the day in the City.
It’s like a mini stay-cation.
(This isn’t limited to NY)
Enjoy!
Where should I meet her?
where*
What? wear is there a bear?
SJS – I was going to bring up one night stands, but didnt know if it would fly on this site, clearly it does, so I’ll say it.
If you don’t Love your spouse then you are no better than having a one night stand. There said it.
Wolf
“If that’s the official “yeshivishe hashkafah” then I proudly proclaim myself non-yeshivish”
Beat ya to it.
WIY
We arent discussing my personal story because there were so many more components that I didnt mention (but yes, had he be willing I wouldve gladly accepted a proposal)
Shlomo Zalman
If you dont agree with the “Yeshivish” dating method, why then have you elected yourself to educated the masses about this form of dating?
To all who think you dont need to Love your spouse on some level before you get married –
I would like to know how you think its ok to be intimitate with them the night of the wedding. “Well, its the night of the wedding, duh.” No! If you are going to completely give yourself to another person it cant be because “you share common goals and dreams” its not because you share “intellectual curiosities” etc etc… If you dont LOVE the person on every level then you have no right being with them. Maybe that love is a little premature maybe it isnt fully realized, but you sure as heck need the love.
*Ok, calm again*
I dont think it is something you can put into words, its a feeling, you’ll know it when you feel it.
WIY
“I want to know how to make some good stuff besides grilling a good steak.”
Believe me a perfectly grilled steak is a hard thing to come by. Not a bad thing to have in your repertoire.
Respect and Love are integral components to every marriage. There are no two ways about it. Of course the feelings of love are going to deepen and mature after marriage, but you need them before as well. If a couple is rushed into getting engaged (Nu, its already been 6 dates!) that can only backfire. You can’t help feelings that aren’t there, if you are willing to invest the time to see if they develop, kol hakavod.
I can get along with a lot of people, that doesnt mean I have to marry them.
Ben Torah –
“After 10 years of no children, a divorce is in order. (Yes, even in today’s day and age.)”
Thats not even accurate.
Shlomo Zalman –
In your quest to be “super shtark” (and no doubt you are) you unfortunately come across as callous and devoid of emotion. Marriage is NOT a business contract. Your wife is NOT a piece of equipment you acquire to ensure that have familial continuity. Marriage is about love, respect, giving, honesty… And until you feel ready to give all that and so much more marriage shouldnt even be a thought. If you are ready for that after 10 dates by all means, but if it takes you 8 months, why should that be held against you? Marriage is a lifetime commitment! Its not a lease that you return in 36 months and pick out a newer alternative.
WIY- Maybe this has been the system up until now, 10 dates and your good to go. Lately, the Frum Community has been plagued by divorce. Not couples married 25 years (although that is just as heart breaking), couples married 1 year and less! Maybe it’s time to take a good hard look at the current system we have in play and re-evaluate if it really is the best system. One size does not fit all when dealing with life time commitments. To stand on principle just because this is the way it has always been done is just foolish and destructive.
I dont understand why every body is so worried about what everyone else will think. You have to do what will work for you. If you are both COMPLETELY sure after a week and a half go for it. If it takes you a year and a half take your time. There is nothing “main stream Yeshivish” about finding a life partner. It’s not something a Rav with a beard can force you into, and when they do it often backfires.
cookie – IDK, maybe. I feel that in shidduchim you have to do what is ultimately best for you, but you have to make sure that you arent hurting anyone along the way. If he felt this girl was best for him then I am sure she was, I’m just not sure he went about it in the best way.
Can we stop now, please? 😀
WIY-
“To do that after a few months of dating is disgusting and betrayal”
I guess… I’m not really mad at him, he was a great guy, I just think he could’ve gone about it in a better way and not lead me on for as long as he did. I think he probably did that so as not to hurt me, thinking we would eventually fizzle, not realizing I would be hurt in the end.
Enough about me 🙂