Sacrilege

Try an Expediter.

I think its more about personality and secular knowledge… on the “with it” front at least.

littleeema

In that case, I’m going to start saying that… 😉

not I

LOL! Thats adorable.

SJS

I’m not talking about PDA (although I’m not opposed ;). Saying “I Love You” is innocent enough, or is that ossur too?

psach libi

That is the best thing I have ever read on this site!

Personally, I wouldnt be able to marry someone who isnt openly affectionate. “Knowing” that someone loves you and them “showing” you that they do, is two totally different types of marriage, in my dumb un-married opinion.

pumper

Strike two.

smartcookie

There is, like what?

Most people dont expect fireworks to go off the minute they meet the person. At the same time by date 5, you want to FEEL something.

tzippi

Your welcome.

But thats nothing. There are “Luxury Realtors” (Christies, Hilton & Hyland) who wont take a listing unless it will at least get them a 60-70K commission, and thats for starters!

(Do your own research just in case, I am not 100% on all the details)

Since bed bugs dont fly or jump, I would ASSUME (verify, please) that you would have to come in DIRECT contact with them to become a carrier. So for example, if you go in to the DA’s office and you dont lean on a wall, dont sit on a chair… I dont see how you can get them.

If you go to a Hotel and you SEE bed bugs crawling up the walls/under the mattress… They WILL pay for ALL your cleaning. If it wasnt in a Hotel quickly launder all your clothes (probably best to not do it in your home, just sayin…) and avoid carpeted areas until you are 1000% sure you are bed bug free.

pumper

Dont quit your day job to become a detective.

Dont stay over in any Hotel in the city 🙁

Before you go to ANY hotel make sure it is cleared by the bed bug registry.

tzippi

Real Estate Agents get paid on commission, which is usually 5-6% of the total Purchase Price.

ofcourse

There are MANY professionals/laborers who do not charge for consultations. When was the last time you got an estimate from a painter and he charged you? I work in a law firm, we dont charge for consultations (most firms that make money based on a payout, dont charge for a consultation) What about a mechanic? The list goes on and on.

What shadchanim are doing is bogus, it is a way of making money for doing nothing.

I think most people would be more than happy to pay the $150 once the shadchan gets them the first date, but to be asked to fork over any sum of money with out any guaranteed results is just pure chutzpah. I dont know why anyone would do that.

Here is the way I see it. You can use any excuse you want to get out of being a mentch, but in the end all you come across as is a boor. No girl wants a boor.

PB

Um, I was willing to pay for popa and cshapiros date should they ever muster up the courage to go out….

Pumper

Dont worry, we’ll find someone for you 😉

popa

The reason why you never hear the example of Miss Sacrilege went to Harvard as did Mr. Popa the both graduated Summa Cum Laude, work for the same firm yet, Mr. Popa makes 200K while Miss Sacrilege makes 125K is because there would be major lawsuits should that information come to light.

There ARE actual studies (based on the national census) that woman make 75 cents on the dollar compared to men in comparative job positions coming from comparitive education backgrounds.

PB

I guess it depends on the situation and then you can judge accordingly. Thats why I said you SHOULD look into the family, you dont disregard the family completely. Also, if the family is the one CAUSING the problems obviously that isnt something you can ignore… but I think that is a different situation, that you cant really know about until afterwards.

NewUserName

In that case you have to decide how important it is for you to be able to “go to your in-laws”. The same issue arises if you would be dating a Baal Teshuva, no place to go for Yom Tov or Shabbos…. This is something only you can decide for yourself, how important is this to you? If you have a stable family, maybe its not so important? Maybe its important anyway? You have to decide.

PB

Your not?!

Where do I sign up 😉

“I have 3 friends whom are divorced (after being married for less than a year) and each of them, their spouses came from divorced homes”

That is indeed a troubling statistic.

But by in large, I wouldnt hold a parents failed marriage against their child. There are some people who grow up in a split home who vow that they will do everything in their power to be the best spouse that they can, and they are.

When looking in to a shidduch (and L-rd knows how good everyone is at that) it is important to focus ON THE PERSON! Yes, you need to look into the family as well, but at the end of the day you arent marrying his/her mother or father you are marrying him/her, and this goes both ways. The parents could be the nicest people on earth but their child could be a rotten grape so, I think in the end you have to focus on the individual most of all.

popa

Its a very real theory and it is happening across the Country.

It is your right not to believe it… even if it does make you sound ill-informed.

dunno

I meant PB is so willing w/o seeing a picture of me…

PB

LOL! yea, everything is fine. I went for work.

popa

Two minutes on Wikipedia isnt going to outshine a semester w a droning professor 😉

There are many forms of glass ceiling barriers, one of them being different pay for comparative work.

popa

Clearly you have never heard of the Glass Ceiling Effect.