Sacrilege

Lets just say it isnt your brain that does the choosing.

I debate it as a Frum Jew not as human being.

popa

Obviously I couldnt write what I wanted to… You get the gist.

popa

I said I’d date a smoker.

Whats the more important reasons, your vanity?

pumper

Not at all, I believe the same things anonymously and in person.

I feel that those who always need to “be heard” and have their opinions out there are either a- really lacking a coherent thought b- lacking a self esteem c- lacking personality, and need to make up for it by pushing their views and opinions on others.

Being that this is a forum dedicated to an exchange of opinions and ideas, I get to unleash whats on the brain 🙂

You can stop fooling yourself that you wont date someone who is overweight because of the health risks.

BPT

Thanks!

1. Sensible Shoes and a Beautiful Mind – for best titled thread. I have to admit I had no idea what to expect when I opened the thread but after seeing what it was about I thought it was a great header.

2. BPT in the leading role. Squeak in the supporting role (where has she been lately?)

Most Informed – Mod 80.

‘Twas a laugh!

What about the Rabbonim that say internet is assur?

1dayatatime

As a matter of fact I do, before settling on law I was going the Social Work track with an emphasis on addictions.

Most Yeshiva boys are NOT true blue addicts they dont have a physical and psychological dependence on their cigarettes, they have simply not quit yet. If they are indeed true addicts you wouldnt want to get involved with them because if you have the psychological predisposition to addiction it will manifest itself in many unpleasant ways least of which is nicotine use.

A few thing. First of all, you’d be hard pressed to find a Yeshiva guy who never tried a cigarette. So any one who says that they’ll NEVER marry anyone who smokes/smoked…. I guess try to enjoy the single life. Second point, and this is in response to bjjkid, I think its foolish to say,

” dont get all self righteous about something that is not ur nisayon”

That isnt their nisayon, they MADE it their nisayon! They gave them self an addiction. Because I’m not an addict does that mean I was spared a nisayon? No. They chose to inflict themselves with something they could have easily avoided.

Not a deal breaker.

1dayatatime

Getting acquainted with Google are we? 😉

Keep reading, they will probably mention somewhere that he is the descendant of those who were expelled from Spain during the Inquisition. That should shed some light on his Religious beliefs.

Mother

Peah, Leket, Shikcha.

Homeowner

“Such compassion”

Yea, seems to be a theme as of late.

Time. Time heals all. Thats why Hash-m created shikchah.

real-brisker

Being that you are Jewish and most probably look it, anything that you do that is iffy, unfavorable or not 100% will be cause for a chillul Hash-m. Non-Jews would love nothing more than to find fault with a Jew, dont give them a reason to.

You have to do yours and be as sensitive as possible and its up to her to be reasonable. Usually, people dont hold on to guys theyve dated a couple of times for years, so your scenario is a little far fetched. Either way, the bottom line is you have to do yours and hopefully she will come through for you. As with any relationship its about 2 people giving.

real brisker

“Tipping is very nice, it makes a kiddush hashem, its very much appreciated, but who says one is required?”

So make a Chillul Hash-m (C”V) if you want. Good luck.

TMB

I’m trying to believe that.

pumper

a. It has not happened to me (Thank G-d) b. If it had does that make me unworthy of an opinion? even more so, I would be giving you first hand knowledge of my feelings.

AGAIN (for all those who missed it) I am not saying you should take this person who was suggested to you and dump his/her name in the garbage. Rather, approach your friend and discuss it with him/her and see how they feel about you dating the individual. I can only imagine that they will feel like their feelings have been respected, and will (hopefully) give you their blessing.

Your welcome.

pba

You do know what that is referring to, yes?

Its not about “owning the rights” or apologizing, its called caring about another person.

I’m sorry for those who dont understand the concept.

If you knew anything about Oscar Wilde you wouldnt be so quick to quote him.

dunno/Derech Hamelech

If it is bashert then he will still be around for her.

Whats lacking here is basic sensitivity and there is a flippant attitude. You DONT trample on someones feelings EVER!

Put yourself in her shoes. How does that feel now?