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“Yismaach Yisrael Ice Cream in Lakewood”
Is that seriously the name?
Geez. I hope my Husband does NOT look like me…
eclipse
THANK YOU for bringing this up! It has always bothered me when people use derogatory terms to talk about the people they do “chesed” for.
1. Me, Myself and I. *gasp*
2. Family friends.
I was never actually redt a single shidduch from a “professional” Shadchan, despite the fact that I actually still set up meetings w them…. ironic.
BPT
That thread was shut down because of me?!
I thought it was shut down because some posters were saying things that insulted other members. (Hence the creation of the apology thread)
…and I thought I was drawing such a beautiful picture of cshapiro.
AZ
Wouldja look at that!
A Shadchan can suggest it to him and see if he is willing and open to it, but at the end of the day the guy is going to marry what HE wants not what others want him to want.
bjjkid
“however i am not yet 20 years old!!!”
Then please, calm down.
I have heard of newlyweds having help. What do I think? If you can afford it, go for it. I also think they are spoiled.
Honestly, I look forward to all that “menial labor” that I will iy”h be able to do for my husband. Nothing says “I Love You” more than a home cooked meal, a freshly laundered and pressed shirt, clean sheets, and a sparkling house that you did BY YOURSELF FOR HIM!
(“Hire a surrogate to have the kids” LOL! Classic.)
A. Buy mevushal wine.
B. Regarding the fire: If you have a gas stove then you have a pilot light make sure that was lit by a Jew and you have no problem.
It may be a liberal interpretation of fairly but, Jim Gaffigan… OMG, hilarious.
Clean compared to the majority of Comedians today.
ha ha ha ha
Do they? Cool.
I never heard anyone say I’m going to Hoover now…
Although, I did hear Swiffer (G-d bless whoever created that!)
Xerox
“omg! okay some people do think”
Of course you have to think it through, but there comes a point when your thinking does more bad than good.
We aren’t going to understand the ways of Hash-m and if you try you are just going to make yourself crazy.
If it feels right it probably is. Have some faith in yourself.
bjjkid
“my brothers, parents and of course me myself are not interested in settling”
I’m going to be brutally honest for a minute because I think you can handle it. While you feel like you dont want to settle, others dont either. To some, settling is a child from a “broken” home. You dont have to settle and you shouldnt, but understand that other dont want to either. Those who have a problem with your situation are clearly not for you, be thankful that Hash-m is weeding them out for you.
Stop over-thinking it. It doesnt matter.
You like him/her enough to get married? Do it.
Onaas Devarim. There are people behind the anonymous screen names.
Eclipse
Typo on my part, its Regan not Reagan.
chayavinishlivisumay
You are clearly drunk 🙂
cshapiro
Why thank you! I try.
I picture you:
Average height, thin, pretty, black hair. Funky, in the Lubavitch girl way.
Dont know about Comedies…. but, comedians.
Brian Reagan. Hilarious.
“Take it as a compliment that no one has formed a mental picture of you. It means (at least the way I see it) that you are being judged for who you are, and not for the way you look.”
I dont see it like that. I see it as you havent given enough personal details for someone to form a mental image, or you havent posted enough for people to care.
No one is judging, we are just flexing our imagination muscles 🙂
popa
I have no idea, but am going to take a guess…
Probably, so it can be SEEN (clearly differentiating). I highly doubt its a fashion statement.
lkwdfellow
What other alcoholic drink wears a gartel?
Basil Hayden
(Didnt need the hint)
No 🙂
Wow… I guess he gets credit for creativity?
crdle
“I changed my mind, ur not so thin”
Mustve been that big lunch…
“i picture sacrilege as being slightly tall and has glasses/contacts and a sweet smile”
“Sac = because of her moxie, brings to mind one of my sisters. No linking of appearances though. My sis is Modern Flatbush thru and thru”
“Sacrilege has dark hair and likes to roll her eyes for sport”
“Sacrilege- your a little hard to read, average hight, thin, dressed nicely with a manicure, loud and possibly a big shot at ur office, i mean u pull some of the rops there.”
“I’d say Sac is short and chubby”
So entertaining 🙂
LemonySnicket
*eye roll* 😉
I imagine BP Totty – Tall, average weight with a trim beard, full head of hair beginning to grey. Good looking in the 40-year-old-man-w-a-trim-beard sorta way.
I agree and disagree.
To some extent we make our own luck but then again Hash-m also runs the world. For example: You cant sit at home and then complain that you are broke, at the same time, you wont necessarily become a millionaire.
TheGoq
Heh, not bad.
dunno
It wasnt an insult.
The OP said: “Call me thick…”
So I did.
Yea, I’d say you can use a chill.
bein_hasdorim
You definitely get the prize for being the most random. On another thread you throw everything you have at me, for what reason I am still unsure, and now you hand out “advice”.
While I thank you for your Bracha, I dont think there is any way out of single life, unless you are Hash-m and you pull the strings.
Ofcourse
The way you choose to read my post is up to you.
It is very clear from my wording that I have a problem with Shadchanim who treat girls like merchandise. I never said I have a problem w Shadchanim who “havent hit it right” as you put it. It is those Shadchanim that should be applauded! The ones that keep trying, even though they may not have gotten it right on the first few tries. The Shadchanim who care enough to return calls and emails. The ones who realize that being single is hard enough without making you feel like they are doing you the worlds biggest favor by speaking to you, these are Shadchanim deserving the title Shadchan.
The people who tell you to leave messages on their machines only to get the recording that the mailbox is full. The people that you have to call every day for three months until you get an appointment and when you are *granted* 10 minutes of their time 8 of them are spent dealing with XY & Z. The ones that label a girls worth by her fathers bank account. The ones who’d rather make a “quality” shidduch. The ones who charge up front.
These arent Shadchanim these are Business Men/Woman who are working in the matchmaking industry, because lets face it, if youre good there is money to be made.
So dont tell me its thankless and youre overworked, because thats your job. Most people in America will tell you that they feel under appreciated and under compensated at work, but this is the profession you chose.
AZ
We arent going to agree because I’ve read your posts and frankly dont agree w you on… well, everything.
All I hear is Shadchanim are overworked underpaid and under appreciated. Do you want to know how I feel about that? If you cant handle the heat, get outta the kitchen!
The amount of Shadchanim that actually are “in it” for the mitzvah are few, the rest do it as a job and treat it as such, treating girls like merchandise and wont hesitate to bad mouth a “competitor” to push their “product”.
Do you think I am over reacting? I’m not. This story is personal.
bein_hasdorim
What’d I say?
“but is a definite help towards easing the Crisis.”
The only thing that will “ease the Crisis” is when people stop w their stupidities and Shadchanim start doing their jobs. Age gap has nothing to do w it, so if a 26+ year old guy wants to marry an 18 year old it should be with mazal.
You’re thick.
BPT
LOL.
I think medium-maintenance is an apt description.
BPT
Did you think I was talking about the #3 train? Adorable.
I was talking about the NYC-3 luxury train.
Cedarhurst
Does that mean your nominating yourself?
“to the UWS? Who’da thunk?”
UWS? Been there done that. Next.
1dayatatime
And what my friend’s husbands do reflect on me how?
Jack Daniels
“higher standard yes but that doesn’t change their nature”
You do realize how hypocritical and ridiculous you sound, yes?
“but a girl can’t judge or understand them”
Youre abesolutely right. Girls dont have teiva, only men. Thanks for pointing that out.
As the great lawyer Gary Naftalis was quoted as saying:
” Dont be fooled by those who are raising their hands at the beginning of class. There is an inverse relationship between those who raise their hands at the beginning of class and those who end up doing well.”
BPT
You mean like the NYC-3 train? All for it 😀
pumper/real-brisker
If he cant afford a decent date (and is clearly not embarrassed to show it) I’d be worried about what the future has in store.
I debate it as a Frum Jew because we are held to a higher standard in everything. I find it rather interesting that very Frum Yeshiva boys will only date a “size 2 attractive girl” and they will go and twist words of gemorah to back up their human desires, but C”V to go out to eat or wear a blue shirt.
Im not denying that you have to be attracted to your spouse, then again I dont think that it has to be a KO within the first 5 seconds or its game over.
IMHO I dont think it makes a difference if they are both on their fifth marriage. A guy needs to show some basic respect and concern for the girls feelings and welfare.