b- someone i respect but who im not particularly close with. like apushatayid says.. its hard for someone else to separate theyr own personal opinion from what would b best for u.. especially when ur lives r very intertwined.

imagine such a concept: everyone not having to know about every other persons life… i know.. crazy!

thanks blinky. i appreciate getting “warnings” even tho i dont usually bliev them cuz they stick in my mind.. n remind me to b cautious. (to quote my mother “there r crazy ppl out there!!”)

sounds absolutely thrilling

awesome point popa! and u r a guy imagine girls! aaa! i always felt yucky in school cuz pony, no makeup, and unflattering uniforms just wasnt a great look for me! (and isnt for too many females i know of)

whats one of the most imp things stressed in a Frum girls school? TZNIUS! so we learn tznius,tznius,tznius our whole education.. so inspirational! and yet, as challenging as it is for every girl growing up in so many ways, the CLOTHES part of it almost isnt hands on-aside from sunday and shabbos.. and makeup! hair! in school?? gasp!! do the teachers really think girls today r going to stay in ponies and oxford shirts for the rest of ther lives? when should girls start getting a feel for how a jewish girl shld look every day? in REALITY? so we graduate, get out of the uniforms and start really shopping for our everyday wardrobes, how we would really dress if we didnt hav to conform to uniforms, and then it hits: the very constant pressure to look good.. put together..attractive…drop dead gorgeous..for shidduchim…dating… husband.. (and the lines start getting blurry)..scary!- this happens after we graduate and when theres no more constant inspiration and guidance and peer pressure to keep u in check..

someone smart said a problem thats leading to divorces is people dont really know who they r at 19-22.. and never get a chance to figure themselves out..and get themselves involved in the biggest decision of their lives without proper/professional help/guidance. and if the person has real problems no one knows about it till real damage is done… n its a lil too late in the game to find out..

Guy asks girl to marry him

Girl doesnt know what to say… and notices the fine piece of jewlery he is holding out…and reacts..”for that-YEAH!”

it didnt work out

can i just say… Eeeeeew! impressive cooking for a guy tho. whyja hafta sautee the pastrami? wouldnt that just dry it out..? ur experimental recipe reminds me of one that is similar but doesnt creep me out: 1 can jellied cranberry sauce, 1 can ketchup, meatballs: (abridged version for men) 1-buy meat 2-roll into balls

i think that would be alot more apetizing served over rice than something that s/o wouldnt know wat it was if served to them.

or: heated up mustard and brown sugar is an awesome sauce- just please dont chop up the pastrami slices

AAAAAAAAAA This topic is so foncusing! everything is bashert! u dont walk down the isle by mistake! just because ur spouce is ur bashert doesnt mean divorce is not bashert! what if i remarry? is that my bashert? or my “other” bashert? was my first bashert a mistake that was supposed to happen? what if i remarry 10 times? if i divorce my first mistake bashert what does that make a second bashert? Help!