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Helloo.. regardless of his actions??
whats the location??
“she should/has to respect her husband reguardless of what he is not doing in his personal relationship with Hashem.”
R we talking about airheads here?
how exactly is she supposed to achieve this respect for him despite what he is/is not doing?
Anyone can fake it, but I dont think its only her responsibility to respect this brand new husband of hers..
wheres the respect supposed to come from?
the way he replaces the lid on the toothpaste?
lol! those r great!
Excersizing or dancing to music really works for me. It gives my mind a break from thinking about whatevers bugging me, and when Im done I feel amazing and strong- like I could handle anything. The music cheers me up alot too.
In the morning I do a hundred jumping jacks just to get my day started with a good feeling.
Usually the last thing I feel like doing is the most helpfull..
Also, If Im gonna cry, and I just remember to cry to Hashem, (as opposed to simply my pillow) and this crazy thing happens.. the tears just completely stop after a few minutes and this very comforting feeling washes over me.. I havent experienced this with tehillim, I guess cuz it doesnt feel as personal..
Nah- I dont think this is an issue with “learning.” He already works half the day. She and her fam know that. Hes obviously not a major learner. But during the first half- even if he is unhappy learning- why does he not want to get out of bed? Thatsnot so normall. Why doesnt he want to daven? He actually gets upset when she wakes him- I think thats something bigger then just not liking learning.. I went through this exact scenario.. I think she should do some digging..
Bar- Chill, I dont have FB. I was commenting that this would give the pro facebookers ammo, cuz thats usually how these things go..
(Its such a mitzvah to wear attractive clothing.. our husbands like it!)
(Its so good for our children to have ipods w unfiltered internet- there r so many shiurim they can watch!)
(Its so wonderfull to wear long breathtaking shaitels- otherwise, no one would cover ther hair!)
Know what I mean?
bpt- What do you mean siblings to consider?? life she chose??
Allow him to keep the facade? I hope not, but I think this girl is already doing good for herself that she is reaching out for advice..
Apushitayid..AAAAAAAAA! where wer u last year??
Hashem just saved me from something that could have been MORTIFYING!!!
Cant say what cuz then id be mortified 🙂
Thank You Hashem!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂
seagul- wow. I keep telling myself I should put together an emergency kit for my car , but the only things I thought to put in it so far is water bottles, pretzels, and magazines. lol.
apushatayid- regarding 1: uh oh. good point…
That was my first thought, but I figured there may just be “normall” guys that r night owls..
Now Im thinking- he gets upset at her when she wakes him at 10:30?
Hmmm sounds awfully familiar..
Im divorced btw..
My ex in laws trusted ther son to use the computer wheneeeever he wanted! (as a kid, as an adult, as a married man..) 😉
wow…
…thats gonna raise sum arguments for the rabbis who r working on getting ppl off facebook 🙂
Romantic??? HA.
Shlishi, What kind of reading material exactly IS apropriate for Yiddishkeit? (besides tehillim) Lets be realistic- If someone Frum really loves reading, and there is no Frum reading material available, they r going to the library. Lets be happy there r such serials out there..
I dunno- these serials r just so predictable.. I like to imagine something drastic and totally unforseen pops up, shocking everyone with a smashing and memorable ending. (somehow im usually mistaken) Maybe Binyomin dumps Yaffa and she runs back to Yoni.. and um something INTERESTING happens with Esther.. cant think of anything else, havnt really been following too closely)
I think its beautifull to show app like that
I Got The Here Cums Monday Bluuuues…
OMG eclipse thats horrible!!!!!!!!!
I can not read these kinda magazines, they make me wanna scream at someone..
PB- How exactly will ther situation improve if she tells him she respects him no matter what he does?? In my opinion that would be enabling him to do whatever he pleases.. A guy who isnt being productive will never be respected in a wifes eyes- learning or working. I am sure that even if she is being brainwashed that learning is the only thing that is respectable, If he goes out and gets himself a life every morning She Will Respect It. She might still wish for sum other fairy tale fantasy, but she will respect a guy whos working ( as in actually working hard, making a living, being succesfull) as opposed to the “shmoozing and sleeping” someone she married-no matter what they taught her in seminary or what her friends think!!!! So im not worried about her not respecting him.. I think Its up to him to prove to her he is respectable
Depends what type he is. Some like to be bought n some want the thought…
If hes a “Label” kinda guy..just get anything with an exclusive name u wouldnt normally spend on.. ( a shirt/belt)
U can do something inexpensive but very personal n sweet.. (When I was in Kallah class my Kallah teacher actually gave us ideas.. lol.) U can do a box of all the reasons why u love him.. aaaaw. Every time he does something- takes out the trash, tells u a joke, offers his handyness.. u write it down n then present to him a box fulla appreciation.
Or wrap up any dumb thing in a huge box with over the top wrapping paper n bows n ribbons n tonsa tissue paper..Trust me he will be as excited as a lil boy..
obviously- cook awesome food/bake.. I for sum reason dont think a 25 yr old guy wouldnt enjoy blowing out his own candles on a home-made “Happy Birtday Chaim Yankel” cake..
Feif- WOW! Im inspired by u
Aaw cant I call u shtickle?
🙂 Know wat u mean guy. Just spend sum time on the Frum busses to lkwd/bk… Seriously.. I still wonder how that woman who sat behind me one trips relationship with her husband is doing, n if the therapy helped her learn how to talk to him.. N if he still gets angry when she doesnt have water bottles in the house.. N if hes more willing to shlep the laundry basket down the stairs before he leaves to work to put in the trunk of the car so she doesnt have to be the shlepper when she goes to do the laundry by her mother… (talk about dirty laundry..)
Goq- I didnt go. Thats what was lovely.
The tzedaka taped to the shirt is a minhag??
Shtickle- LOL not quite
Health- Why? I can understand it.. Some people r just nuts.
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Lotsa luck
U have my sympathy
gentle or not It sounds like a grunt to me n I find it tot repulsive.. like.. keep ur thoughts to urself or use ur words…
I would be uncomfortable to sit next to a jewish guy.. a non jew for some reason I wouldnt mind. I guess cuz he would be clueless where as the frum guy would also be uncomfortable and it would turn all awkward. But I prob wouldnt do anythin id just secretly hope he would switch seats himself..
I would like to thank my mom for not hounding me to take my lil sister to Target today. It was a lovely experience.
yerach-lol!
Sounds scary. What is being implanted? Like a new set of pearly whites? A tooth? A couple here n there?
4 real a week? oman.. what am I gonna dress up as???
eew.. Im a woman n I certainly dont wanna hear about it..
esther
I would not give out free matchboxes (we can do so many mitzvos with fire!! wow!! baruch hashm!!) to my children and call setting up boundries “stifling them”
U may have faith in ur kids, but please dont have faith in the internet.
I get completely creeped out when ppl make satisfied noises while eating.. as in Mmmmmm…even if its like a comment meant for the hostess…nauseous!!!!!!!
whatelse- I think ur subtitle is so funny! 🙂
Health- R u serious..?? Excuse?? I completely dont even know what to say to that.. BH u apparantly havnt experienced anything like I have if u cant understand..
Warning. Warning. Danger. Danger. Danger.
AinOd- Let me know how it cums out. U may want to add sugar/splenda if u like sweet.
always- thats alotta butter/cheese with ur wholegrains/splenda..
Zees, I lived with someone who enjoyed a good scream at me every day or so, so I developed a way to deal with nastiness directed at me.
Look at the screamer in the eye.
Think to myself how awesome I am, and replay in my mind all my good qualities.
Physically- laugh it off. Think of something crazy the screamer said to you (there usually is something irrational said..) and give a lil laugh, even if it comes out more like a cry. It helps..
Notice how sad the screamer is, how out of controll and ridiculous they are acting.
Realize what a kind, sweet natured person I am that I would never act like this nut job..
“No one can make me feel inferior without my consent”
Works while driving, too.
Omg- open a cookbook ppl! There is so much flavor out there.. dont limit urself to the same old stuff ur whole life!! (what if ur oven didnt break..)
ideas:
lemon chicken
olive chicken
onion chicken w raisins
chicken cutlets r super easy on stovetop btw:
fry w onions and tons of spices..
chicken marsala
ok..
Thanx for the response!
Most appreciated 🙂
My pleasure 🙂
O I love it I just had a different question..
Who found my very complimentary post offensive that it was deleted? And why??
No idea
Mods…
Im sure its annoying to take the time to respond to lil insignificant posters like myself.. but im still wonderin..
Should I write another letter expressing my burning curiosity and innability to function without a response from a Mod?
Would that help?
What’s the matter dear? Don’t like your new subtitle?
Ralph- thats true as long as by people we mean both partners of the marriage.
That what makes a thread a good one in my opinion