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Ultimateskier -thanx that really helped. But I actually do have s/t agenst the ” yeshivish” ppl. Some cld be really nice I gess ,but b4 I started doing ny thing they were always so quick 2 judge. If s/o told them loshen hara on a girl they Jst believed it w/o act. Looking in 2 it. Then I was such a good girl never did ny thing rong and they called down my parents. 4 wat?!?! 4 lies that s/o told them about me ” talking about movies ,tznius problems” and watev. Else and they were so quick 2 judge w/o looking in 2 it. At the end s/o from the hanhala sort if believed me and they x kik me out.
Boys is a problem. Cuz Jst last nite he texted me agen. Then I also have a friend Hos ” x counted” Jst cuz were x together. But my biggest problem is emuna cuz if I fully believed I cld be a better ppl. Thanx;)
Ultimateskier -it’s cool 2 read ur posts cuz I’m sort of in the same situation. The difference is that ur over it. My main problem is boys. But it’s also about belief. I’m also in a bais yaakov skl were most of my friends r good girls ( they’re not perfect but they basically stopped talking 2 boys and deleted there fb). They’re always encouraging me Wich helps. My parents don’t push yiddishkite down my throat ,and my mothers actually really cool. I stopped talking 2 my bf agen rite b4 sukkos. Right now I Jst need 2 fully believe. My problem is that I thought 2 much and now I have 2 many questions 2 fully believe. But I can’t ask those questions and my friends don’t no the answers either. If I ask a teacher in my skl then they’ll think that I’m off. Wat helped u stop???? Wat made u change???? Thanx;)
Wow -I agree w/ ultimateskier ….everyone has there ups and downs. There’s some days wen I get in a bad mood and don’t even want 2 be religious and then there’s days were I’m so happy that I start realizing how awesome G -d made my life and I start improving. Every days different. Jst got 2 hope that he’ll have more good days;)
Have a good, easy fast and may G -d forgive u 4 e/t!!!! Have a good gebentched yar!!!!;)
Haha k is that a compliment;) j.k. J.k. Wat do u not understand????
Wow -k that’s a lot that he wanted 2 keep rosh hashana ….and the fact that he wanted u 2 no that.
K thanx!!!! That was very encouraging and helpful!!!!
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Ultimateskier -k thanx that was very encouraging. Jst stop talking 2 boys agen 4 like the millionth time but I doubt I won’t start agen. Idk mby I will talk 2 a rabbi. Not sure yet.
Wow -thanx ill check it up.
Aries2756 -k I no ur rite ….but it’s x accepted in r community. And I no that my parents wld be mad if they new anything. And once u start talking 2 boys ,u end up not bring shomer. I used 2 think that I would never kiss a boy b4 I’m married but these things Jst happen.
How do I strengthen my emunah if I don’t really believe???? I used 2 strongly believe but then I started asking 2 much questions Wich brought me 2 not really believing.
Wow -I have a rabbi I want 2 speak 2 ( my friends sis. Gave me his number) but I no that my parents wld get mad if they find out and they’ll relize that ive been doing stuff. Thanx that was very encouraging.
Aries2756 -um idk ….I gess if they fully believe in G -d ,don’t talk 2 boys ,shomer ….I keep shabboss but I’ve not been good w/ the rest. I think my challenges rite now r fully believing in G -d and brakeing up w/ my bf and not talk 2 boys. I’ve tried 2 do it but I keep on talking 2 them agen …..especially wen im feeling down Wich is a lot lately.
Every day it’s getting harder 2 be a good person. I was becoming so good ,but I started 2 fall again. I don’t no we’re 2 turn nothing is helping me I feel like giving up. My friends r trying 2 encourage me ,but it’s not good enuf. If s/o here cld help me id really appreciate it. Thanx
I no that one thing I’m going 2 be davening 4 this rosh hashana is 4 Hashem 2 bring bak all those lost souls. Thank G -d I stopped myself b4 I went deeper down. Like I said he has 2 want 2 change. From my experience I relized how corrupted teens r so I will be davening 4 ur son and 4 all those lost teens out there.
Imartza Hashem this year e/o shld relize G -d and the geula shld come.
I wish u all a good gebentched yar and bracha and hatzlocha in e/t that u do!!!!
Some times ppl. Have 2 relize the beauty on their own and that could only come from him. Every OTD person has something in them that connects them 2 G -d and they know it their Jst trying 2 push it away. U Jst have 2 pray that he will relize it and decide 2 connect w/ G -d agen. I will pray 4 him 2 relize this beauty. Rite now he’s only 16 and he Jst wants 2 party and I get that. If u pressure him or mention it 2 him he will go more off. U can’t be hard on him ,Jst show that u luv him no matter wat ,and hopefully he will relize the beauty. How bad is he???? Does he keep shabboss or wear tzitzis???? I don’t no about ur community but boys in mine ,they cld be frum good boys and they still won’t wear tzitzis and a lot of them don’t keep shabboss u would be surprised. But a lot of those boys relize the beauty they Jst don’t want 2 accept it. Again ,in the end it’s all up 2 him 2 accept it. If he’s only friends w/ OTD boys then that doesnt really help ,but in the end it’s up 2 him 2 decide.
Sry I ment cuz my sis. Was sick
My case y I started 2 go off was a little bit different then most ….I started cuz my sis. Went off and I was mad at G -d and that’s how I dealt w/ it. If he started 2 go off cuz of s/t that happened 2 him then it’s more that he has a problem w/ G -d ,theres nothing u cld really do about it but most teens r hoping 4 someone 2 make them relize the beauty. If u talk about the beauty hell go more off ,he needs 2 hear it from someone like him.
Wat could help someone come bak on is first of all 2 relize the beauty of being Jewish. Also the Jewish society now a days is very strict. There not open -minded at all and I think that that’s y ppl. Go off cuz there pressurized. We’re living in gulus rite now and every ones affected by the outside world. But because the rebbetzins and rabbi.s r very close -minded ppl. Fall under the pressure. Teens start believing that it’s either very frummy or off. Another problem is that if ur not perfect ur going 2 be labeled as going off even if u r a good person ho believes in G -d ,but if u watch movies or even look at a boy then ur off. So they don’t feel accepted by the frum ppl. Jst because there not perfect but the off world is always accepting. The frummy ppl. Look down at u if ur not like them but the OTD ppl. Are always way more accepting. Do help someone come bak on is 2 make them relize that no ones perfect and the only thing he has 2 do is believe in G -d. And then they will come 2 the realization that Jewish is beautifull. I personally have a lot of friends ho went off cuz of the society telling them that they’re not a good person because they watch movies and look at boys.
Truthfully every ones different so I don’t no wat would work 4 ur son. I no that wat kept me going until now was that my mothers very open -minded w/ a lot of things and that really helps if ur open -minded w/ him. Wat wld help me now is getting inspired and recognizing G -d. There’s a lot of days that I do and I become stronger. If he believes then he’s better then a lot of kids now a days
Truthfully every ones different so I don’t no wat would work 4 ur son. I no that wat kept me going until now was that my mothers very open -minded w/ a lot of things and that really helps if ur open -minded w/ him. Wat wld help me now is getting inspired and recognizing G -d. There’s a lot if days that I do and I become stronger. If he believes then he’s better then a lot of kids now a days
Hi ,I started 2 read ur thread at the beginning but then stopped but wat I understand is that ur sons going off rite???? K I’m a teen girl hos not off but on the border and I have friends ho don’t even keep shabboss and so I no wat makes teens go off now a days ….mby I cld help u if u explain ur son