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Dear Common Saychel,
I dont usually comment on these things but my heart is crying when I read your letter. You have no idea what so ever about the life of this boy – how can you judge his family? Did you ever stop to think that maybe there is something you don’t know about? Perhaps mental illness? Or something else? Not that I know, but you don’t either. And the family has their right to privacy. This touches me deeply because I have a mildly mentaly retarded son with comorbities of mental illness, who actually looks pretty normal, and Boruch Hashem I normally don’t get judgmental comments like yours, but it really hurts when I do…..So please be kind….And the question is what does it mean to be mekabel tanchumin, as it says in mishne brachos. Of course anyone would admit that to say kaddish or to sit shiva for a dog is not appropriate….
Catch yourself, I understand what you are saying. We do have to realize that animals are not humans. That being said, i think it is up to every person to decide for themselves how to make that distinction. We made several funerals for various hamsters, and I think it was a great way to help our children properly express their sadness. No, animals are not a recliner, and allowing a child to speak about and mourn the loss of something loved is definitely appropriate, and healthy, in my eyes. Of course, I wouldn’t say Tehillim at such a funeral….. We have lots of animals including a leopard gecko
, and the only animals not accepted in the charedi world are cats and dogs,,,, go figure!