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Go ahead =)
You’re right about loving whichever seminary they end up in.
Good for you!
Best of luck
I’m not one who did what “everyone else” does… I broke all the “norms”– I went to a different seminary than “everyone else,” I went back for shana bet which is unheard of in my city, and sure, I had people talking. But let them talk =)
That’s not your problem though, because it seems like you ARE doing what’s expected.
So try to make your experience unique, not just the typical “AMAZING!!!OMG!!” year that “everyone else” has.
Its my all time favorite. Why?
Yes, you are right! I don’t go into sunny areas without an umbrella and suntan lotion and sunglasses. I don’t drive, I don’t walk across streets. i breath through a mask, for fear of being contaminated by pollution/ germs. I don’t eat anything without testing it on my dog, and I only eat foods with nutritional value. I exercise an hour a day, I go to sleep at 8, sleep 9 hours a night, Don’t talk on phones because of radiation, don’t own any electronics for fear of being electrocuted G-d forbid, And only drink water. And, needless to say, i don’t smoke!
Keep in mind, it’s not ALL about classes. It’s also about friends, family, and learning to love “our” country. So take advantage of those fun parts of your year =) best of luck to you!
Not really. your gut reaction might be, ‘Oh no…what did i get myself into!” (Hopefully that won’t be the case), but you can then (if need be) force yourself, challenge yourself, to find the good in the situation. Example, you think (what I thought), “Right now this dorm looks so unfamiliar, and i will get lost what will all the staircases and hallways…but in three weeks, or a month, this will be home to me!” It becomes a whole lot easier to deal with!
What i am trying to say is even if you first think “Helllp…” what comes next is what will shape your year. Will you continue to be upset, or will you change your perspective, and proactively find the good. Just because at first you were upset/annoyed etc, doesn’t mean you can’t change your attitude immediately afterwards.
And remember–no one likes to be friends with a grouch.
Bottom line is, or should be, u failed the test. Whatever the reason, you failed. So take that, smokers! u failed in THIS world and in the next.
Firstly, a good attitude is a MUST. I dont know what sort of seminary you are going to, but be prepared to take EVERYTHING with a smile. You probably will need some time ot adjust, and there will always be many girls who will complain about everyone and everything. Do yourself a favor and consciously plan to look for the best in your situation.
It also helps to be super friendly for the first few days. Be the one to introduce yourself–to girls and staff. Be the one to help out another girl who lost her luggage/forgot to pack something/ needs a shoulder to cry on. First impressions are important, you want everyone to perceive you as sweet and friendly, and not immediately write you off as “not for me” (thats what girls tend to do, but you shouldnt do that!) And the staff will absolutely love it =)
Also, to make the most of your experience, you have to have the proper mindset. You probably won’t feel a sudden rush of emotu=ion everytime you go to the kotel. You need to for the connection.
Every girl that comes is feeling a bit lost, even the girl with a hundred friends and a blackberry that never stops buzzing. Just offer a smile and kind word, and you will be loved, and well taken care of.
Good luck =) Israel is a beautiful, wonderful place, and seminary is ayear to learn a lot about yourself!
Yes they have kosher ice cream, baskin robbins, gooeys, whatever it is you need. Its not cholov yisroel though, barely anyone there keeps cholov yisroel
strange that you should base where you go for yeshivah on welfare and republican… but if you care to knowtheir gov, rick perry, who is very republican is running for pres.
Sports–they are very into footblal, and into basketball and hockey. Not so into baseball, maybe bec their team is not that great. malls–world class shopping, beautiful malls to shop and hang ou in.
Yes they have ice cream, and yes they have bowling, its not exactly a third world country.
Average winter weather is nice, around high forty-fifty, even sixty-seventy. (Fahrenheit) Occassionally it does get colder.
It’s possible you have a picture in your mind, “this girl has to be from flatbush, has to dress like she’s going to a wedding when she goes to the grocery store, has to has to has to”
Maybe its time to broaden your horizons, mpc. (If this is all true…)
And then when we meet , he’ll be thinking “she’s not the supermodel from the picture…her ugly stepsister maybe?” lol Not ugly, I’m far from it. But still not as good as my pic.
I have a problem… my pic looks much better than i do in real life 🙂
y r u rotfl?
Weather is boiling hot in the summer. Year round, it is usually nice, although it does get cold/rainy occassionally. the community is the sweetest, most inviting. The boys are boys that are looking to grow in a warm enviroment. The first few years, they may still be looking to find themselves, but they come out nice, fine, chofetz chaim boys. The Rebbeim are incredible… Location: not so much to do at nights, unlike NYC or LA or Israel, but there are movie theaters, starbucks, malls, ball fields… and the Dallas Cowboys 🙂
Good luck with the decision!
Thank you for your concern. =)
How many people do you know with the initials rfs? And I wasn’t expecting an answer, really. Just thought I’d try 🙂 If he knows me, he knows me.
Well said. I also come from a troubled home. Most people don’t know exactly what went on, so they sometimes say things around me without knowing to be sensitive. One attitude that I noticed is quite common is that of, “These people have to change themselves. They cannot blame their parents–they need to take responsibility for themselves.” However, they also say, “My son/daughter/sister/brother will absolutely not go out with him/her,” because family is important, when you marry someone you marry their family etc.
I found this to be a catch 22: They want “us” to change, yet they won’t allow “us” to prove ourselves. 🙁
P.S. Do i know you?? Your details sound familiar…
i changed in the following ways (and most of my friends did too):
1- a love of Israel, and the Jewish people. Its a wonderful feeling that stays with you throughout the rest of your life.
2- Understanding and accepting people from different backgrounds. I met girls in my seminary who became super frum, and others who were struggling to keep kosher. I learned that we all have a lot in common, and to see everyone for who they are (i.e. less judging)
3- Its a fun year, a gap year, to do whatever you’d like–the country is yours 🙂 After this, you’ll probably be studying in college, and you could probably use a break
4-it did worlds for my connection with Hashem–He is so tangible in Israel.
And many other ways….
The only way for you to realize why you should go to seminary is for you to go to seminary! No words can describe it; it’s “htbt”, and trust me on this one, you won’t regret going.
y’know, maybe if you START davening even if your heart is not in it, you’ll end up really meaning it… i got this advice from my rabi, and it’s working for me 🙂